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AIBU?

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AIBU to be so fed up and confused on pyjama issue

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 19:30

AIBU to be serverly annoyed with all the judgements on pyjama wearers?

Can someone explain to me what the big deal over wearing pyjamas is? I don't understand. I shower daily, I wash my clothes if they are used/unclean. When I get up I get dressed go about my day, come home and shower and put pyjama pants on until I get into bed. I take them off before bed as I only sleep in my underwear. If I don't have anything to do in the day I'll wake up and put the pyjama pants on because they are comfortable and warm. If I then realise I have to go out and make a run to the store I'll just go like this as I usually have my children (4m and 2y) with me and if not I'm trying to do the shop as fast as I can to get back to them as my DH is not the best with small children and often gets flustered. I am not choosing to wear them out of laziness, I choose to wear them out of comfort. They are clean, I am clean. Nothing inappropriate is exposed. So I don't understand how it is hurting anybody. I don't think it's fair to sit and judge people who chose to wear pyjamas and be comfortable and I don't understand why people are so offended by this?
I'm sure there are a few people that do wear them because they are lazy and slobbish but I don't think it's fair to judge all people that wear them this way.

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WhoKn0wsWhereTheTimeG0es · 08/01/2017 20:42

Pyjamas are designed to be worn in bed. If you don't wear them in bed I just don't get why you would buy them at all. There are so many other types of soft comfy clothing for wearing during the day.

perfumedlife · 08/01/2017 20:43

OP you're fed up with the comments on PJs outdoors yet asked us to comment or did you just want the kind of judgement that agreed with your stance? Many of us think it's a terrible habit, slovenly and a slippery slope. People judge. It's human. Maybe if your pyjama habit is so strong you'll just have to learn to ignore the comments because people are not going to stop judging.

BravoPanda · 08/01/2017 20:43

They should revoke greencards for it, IMO. Dirty beggars.

paxillin · 08/01/2017 20:43

I wouldn't be disgusted. I would assume you are an alcoholic or are struggling with mental health issues.

In my RL, those are the only people who turn up at the school gate in pyjamas. Usually at times when their life is generally spiralling out of control, hence their inability to get dressed.

VeryBitchyRestingFace · 08/01/2017 20:44

@verybitchy hmmm maybe try the fact that he's at work in those times??

Your OP says:

If I then realise I have to go out and make a run to the store I'll just go like this as I usually have my children (4m and 2y) with me and if not I'm trying to do the shop as fast as I can to get back to them as my DH is not the best with small children and often gets flustered.

mambono5 · 08/01/2017 20:44

As people have rightly said on the other thread, seeing someone in pyjamas a few years ago would mean they were in trouble, and a sign they needed help. Some posters have confirmed that by admitted they did suffer from horrendous depression when they couldn't be bothered to dress. It's a cry for help.

Sadly, it's now a way for some people to be lazy whilst pretending to be creative and artistic, and god knows what. They are just slob. Buy clothes that fit, and you will be comfortable in the daytime too.

Bluntness100 · 08/01/2017 20:45

Op, you're arguments are all over the place.

On one hand you say you wear them as you don't get two mins to change as your husband cannot be left with your children. On the other hand you say you wear them as this is your choice and they are comfy and your yoga bottoms are too tight and show your knicker line which you feel is disgusting.

You ask the question on why people judge on it, but then say you don't care what others think.

You demand not to be judged on what you wear, but announce women in cropped tops and short skirts are sluts.

Kinda all over the place.,,

FizzBombBathTime · 08/01/2017 20:45

Sorry chipped name fail that was for @cara

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 20:45

@mambo @perfumed I started this thread because people were being terrible and abusive on another and I wanted a reasonable explanation from someone without nasty comments on why this effects them and why they are so offended. But it doesn't seem anyone can make an argument for this that doesn't imply a judgement.

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SinglePringle · 08/01/2017 20:45

Yes I know what you were doing. But you used the word 'tramp' in relation to women's clothing. In one of your posts. That's what I find objectionable.

I give up.

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 20:46

@verybitchy notice the "and if not" meaning two separate occasions.

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SinglePringle · 08/01/2017 20:47

If I was wearing a bra or a crop top and a mini skirt then I would be dressing like a tramp.

See?

BravoPanda · 08/01/2017 20:48

SinglePringle it was me that said that first, and I meant as in vagrant, not tart. OP misconstrued it. Which is weird because Tramp is the common term for such on her original side of the pond so I'm confused why she would assume I meant underdressed female... almost like maybe she is a bit of a jammy dodger and full of horseshit.

Chippednailvarnishing · 08/01/2017 20:48

OP it seems that you can't accept anyone disagreeing with you about anything, no matter how they put it to you, you get offended.

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 20:48

@single Yes I see. I wrote it. And again has already been addressed. Move on please.

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FizzBombBathTime · 08/01/2017 20:48

single pretty sure op apologised for that (correct me if I'm wrong)

Seriously though, is there no social etiquette for being a judgmental arse hole? Or is it accepted now?

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 20:49

@chipped no you are all attacking me on my choices instead of explaining why it is so offending to you and how it does you any harm.

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CaraAspen · 08/01/2017 20:49

AIBU is hardly the forum to come to for fluffy replies.

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 20:49

@fizz apparently they are all able to sit and attack me and my family because I wrote a post confused about pyjamas and I'm just supposed to sit here and take it

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perfumedlife · 08/01/2017 20:49

OP I didn't see the other thread sorry. But the point remains, dressing in bed clothes outdoors is uncivilised and when standards slowly begin to slip, it's a downward spiral. Civilisation is resting on a flimsy shelf as it is

But we shouldn't need to proffer an argument for wearing the proper attire outdoors in the 21st century really.

VeryBitchyRestingFace · 08/01/2017 20:50

@verybitchy notice the "and if not" meaning two separate occasions.

You're really trying to backtrack now.

Look, you can wear PJs to the shop if you want. We're not living in a police state. Nobody's going to arrest you for it.

But what you can't police is how people perceive that action. They certainly shouldn't be saying anything unpleasant to you but you don't get to tell them how they should perceive/interpret/judge your PJ wearing in public places.

EpoxyResin · 08/01/2017 20:50

Seriously though, is there no social etiquette for being a judgmental arse hole? Or is it accepted now?

I'm confused by this too Fizz, my mother made a big point of how she took care to raise me better than that.

BravoPanda · 08/01/2017 20:51

Because we have to look at you dressed that way and frankly you bring the local property values down.

FizzBombBathTime · 08/01/2017 20:51

perfumed in what way is it uncivilised (pleeeeease reply!!! I really want to know.)

CaraAspen · 08/01/2017 20:51

Your nightwear should NOT be paraded out of doors. Most people do not approve and they will judge you.

So WHY do you want to set yourself up like this?

Gather up your pride and your dignity and your sense of style and get dressed. Properly.

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