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AIBU to be so fed up and confused on pyjama issue

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 19:30

AIBU to be serverly annoyed with all the judgements on pyjama wearers?

Can someone explain to me what the big deal over wearing pyjamas is? I don't understand. I shower daily, I wash my clothes if they are used/unclean. When I get up I get dressed go about my day, come home and shower and put pyjama pants on until I get into bed. I take them off before bed as I only sleep in my underwear. If I don't have anything to do in the day I'll wake up and put the pyjama pants on because they are comfortable and warm. If I then realise I have to go out and make a run to the store I'll just go like this as I usually have my children (4m and 2y) with me and if not I'm trying to do the shop as fast as I can to get back to them as my DH is not the best with small children and often gets flustered. I am not choosing to wear them out of laziness, I choose to wear them out of comfort. They are clean, I am clean. Nothing inappropriate is exposed. So I don't understand how it is hurting anybody. I don't think it's fair to sit and judge people who chose to wear pyjamas and be comfortable and I don't understand why people are so offended by this?
I'm sure there are a few people that do wear them because they are lazy and slobbish but I don't think it's fair to judge all people that wear them this way.

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CaraAspen · 08/01/2017 20:31

"Blacksox

It looks lazy and slobbish and completely low rent.

Put a pair of jeans on, ffs."

Completely low rent!? Liking that expression. Must practise it soon.

gamerchick · 08/01/2017 20:31

Really it sounds as if you need to go up a size in your other bottom half wear tbh. My yoga bottoms are the most comfortable bottoms I've ever worn. Beats a pair of pjs hands down.

Are you one of the ladies in that Tesco picture doing the rounds? It's the only reason I can imagine someone getting so het up on multiple threads if they genuinely don't care what people think.

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 20:33

@gamerchick no but I do wear my pjs to the shop and I just don't think it's fair to say this harsh of things about people for it.
My pants fit some are even big. Some pants show panty line. That's a fact.

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DailyFail1 · 08/01/2017 20:33

OP it doesn't matter how you interpreted it. You still judged someone else for their clothing choices. Surely then you should accept criticism for yours.

FizzBombBathTime · 08/01/2017 20:33

gamer in all fairness the judgmental 2 piece wearing pearl clutchers have got pretty het up about it too if this thread is anything to go by.

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 20:34

@zef I am from the US but live in U.K. now. Pyjamas out to the grocery shop is a very common thing there which is why it's even more confusing to me that it's such a big issue here.

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 20:34

@dailyfail again if you had read I said I was sorry for it.

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 20:35

@fizz thank you again for the defence!

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Chippednailvarnishing · 08/01/2017 20:35

This would almost be funny, if it weren't true...

CaraAspen · 08/01/2017 20:36

"EpoxyResin

Oh please. People make judgements about each other based on much, much less every minute of the day. We're programmed to evaluate people based on social norms.

Do you know what some people do jassy? They have that moment when they thing "blimey, are those pyjamas?", then they check themselves and say "you know what, I don't know them, I don't know their circumstances, I have literally no idea what that's all about and why the bloody hell do I even care? This is not impacting me in any way and I really would do well to mind my own". That's what very civilised people do."

But but but...very civilised people do not wear their pyjamas in the supermarket. To do so is not in the least bit civilised.

Oblomova · 08/01/2017 20:38

Look, OP, as a fellow foreigner - it may map out differently in the US, but in the UK, pyjamas in public are a class marker, in case no one else has said it already.

FizzBombBathTime · 08/01/2017 20:38

What is uncivilised about it chipped?

If they're clean on and the wearer isn't rubbing your face into a trouser leg, how does it affect you so much?

MrsDesireeCarthorse · 08/01/2017 20:38

I presume from your outrage that you never, EVER judge anyone on anything EVER then?

My fucking arse. Loads of people think this looks slobby and shite, just as loads of people think tons of tattoos look horrible. If you don't, stop giving a shit and get on with your life.

mambono5 · 08/01/2017 20:39

Good grief, it is lazy, it looks dirty, have you got no pride in yourself woman?

I could go to the supermarket in my pjs, with hair rollers on my head, waxing cream on my moustache and other places, but I don't. Some things should stay private. Your undergarments and nightwear are one of those things.

Pyjamas in public are acceptable until you are 1 year old and you start to walk. As an adult, you look like a slob. What is wrong with your clothes that you find them uncomfortable? I can't understand that.

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 20:39

@oblomova I see that but that just seems foolish to me as I've said

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VeryBitchyRestingFace · 08/01/2017 20:39

@mummyof2p

I'd rather people could see my knicker line than witness the ungodly sight of me pootling about the shops in my pyjamas.

But then, I'd rather not be married to a bloke so inept that he can't be trusted to supervise his own kids for 2 minutes whilst his wife gets dressed to go out. Confused

gamerchick · 08/01/2017 20:39

Look if you wear them you'll be judged. If you don't care then get on with it. Most people won't give you more than a passing glance.. so what if they think you're lazy.

Personally if I saw someone regularly with pjs on lugging a couple of kids about I would wonder if they were struggling and a bit depressed but I wouldn't give it a lot of thought after that. Don't let it get to you.

FizzBombBathTime · 08/01/2017 20:40

pyjamas in public are a class marker

Someone has just got to the crux of the issue 👏🏻

ArcheryAnnie · 08/01/2017 20:40

PJ trousers are exactly the same as any other soft trousers. Calling soft trousers "trackies" or "yoga pants" doesn't mean they magically become more or less respectable than if the same sort of trousers are called "PJ trousers".

All my PJ trousers are dark blue, so if I went out in public in them nobody would notice they were PJ trousers, so I don't see why someone else should be judged harshly just because their PJs were pink or had animals on them or whatever.

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 20:40

@mambo did I say they were uncomfortable? No. I said my pyjama bottoms are more comfortable and very warm. I don't understand why my choice to wear those should have any effect or do any harm to you.

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 20:41

@verybitchy hmmm maybe try the fact that he's at work in those times??

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EpoxyResin · 08/01/2017 20:41

But but but...very civilised people do not wear their pyjamas in the supermarket. To do so is not in the least bit civilised.

The person you should hold to the highest standards is yourself, no?

In fact generally the only standards you can and should police are your own. And surely we should all be rather above giving too much of a fuck.

FizzBombBathTime · 08/01/2017 20:42

But then, I'd rather not be married to a bloke so inept that he can't be trusted to supervise his own kids for 2 minutes whilst his wife gets dressed to go out. confused

How fucking bitchy.

Chippednailvarnishing · 08/01/2017 20:42

I haven't said it was uncivilised?!?! Hmm

Maybe it's time to pick an arguement with someone else Fizz

CaraAspen · 08/01/2017 20:42

Diapers and pants as in trousers have been used by the OP, as well. Still, the point still stands. Prepare to be judged if you behave in an uncouth manner.