AIBU to be so fed up and confused on pyjama issue

[mummyof2pr]

AIBU to be serverly annoyed with all the judgements on pyjama wearers?

Can someone explain to me what the big deal over wearing pyjamas is? I don't understand. I shower daily, I wash my clothes if they are used/unclean. When I get up I get dressed go about my day, come home and shower and put pyjama pants on until I get into bed. I take them off before bed as I only sleep in my underwear. If I don't have anything to do in the day I'll wake up and put the pyjama pants on because they are comfortable and warm. If I then realise I have to go out and make a run to the store I'll just go like this as I usually have my children (4m and 2y) with me and if not I'm trying to do the shop as fast as I can to get back to them as my DH is not the best with small children and often gets flustered. I am not choosing to wear them out of laziness, I choose to wear them out of comfort. They are clean, I am clean. Nothing inappropriate is exposed. So I don't understand how it is hurting anybody. I don't think it's fair to sit and judge people who chose to wear pyjamas and be comfortable and I don't understand why people are so offended by this?
I'm sure there are a few people that do wear them because they are lazy and slobbish but I don't think it's fair to judge all people that wear them this way.

Do you work OP?....do you get up in the morning and go from the home to a job? Because if you do you can't do it in PJ's.

To me it shows there is no division in the persons mind from being in bed to going out in the big wide world. It shows me you just don't care about yourself and you are happy to be seen in PJ's.

Personally I am with Cara, I am dressed, hair tidy & make up on to go outside whether it be for work or to go to the shops ( I am a bit more casual for the shops). For me if I went out in my PJ's or indeed my relaxing at home gear I would feel underdressed &, slobbish; you obviously are not bothered. If I go to work I will dress appropriately to be taken seriously and this is re-enforced by my behaviour.

I don't think that would happen if I turn up in pink flannel check PJ's somehow. But by all means you do what you want.

@mydiet If you want to do your hair and makeup every time you go out for something, even just a gallon of milk, that is your choice. I do not think my pyjamas are slobbish, I think they are comfortable and cute. I feel confident and comfortable in them. That isn't my issue. I understand people don't like it, again not my issue. My issue is the harsh comments made about it and the people that make this choice! Thank you for providing your opinion!

Well, most of what we do is governed by social conventions and this is just one of them. When my mum was at school 70 years ago she was punished for being seen on the train home in her school uniform without her hat on - someone reported her to the school. No one considers wearing a hat a vital part of outdoor dress now.

We do still maintain a distinction between nightwear and daywear, and formal wear and informal wear. I've never yet been served in a shop by someone wearing pyjamas, been treated at a doctor's surgery by someone in pyjamas, been served in a restaurant by someone wearing pyjamas, had a meeting at the bank with someone wearing pyjamas.

Maybe in a few years' time that distinction will have been further eroded. Right now it still exists.

To be honest, society only functions because we pay attention to mutually agreed rules. Some of them are unimportant and seem a little silly (what we wear where) and some are really vital and have been enshrined in law.

Why do people keep talking about some nightwear/loungewear being indistinguishable from day clothing on the myriad pyjama-wearing threads? Obviously it is true that many are to all intents and purposes the same as a crap thin pair of leggings/joggers which will show your knickers (or lack of them), but that's not what these threads are about.

The issue (if it is one) is the people who think they are cool and edgy going about their business in very obvious pyjamas, dressing gowns, slippers etc., not those who are just wearing plain stuff. Surely the whole point is to make it as obvious as possible that they're wearing nightwear, because they're so ... you know ... 'out there'?

And yes, I'll judge them, mainly for looking like absolute pillocks - but I kind of suspect that if they weren't wearing nightwear, that might still be quite obvious in their day clothing and/or behaviour.

Not read thread but feel like going out to buy some PJs just to wear outside

will

In whole foods it will be seen as fashion forward (if they're silky and paired with heels)
In Waitrose it's probably seen as eccentric (but they did release a statement about pyjama wearers being welcome. Which did slightly tempt me to wear one. But I just think it's too disgusting to actually do it.)

In other shops you'll be seen as a slob/alcoholic/tramp whatever.

Putting on a uniform or a suit for work is basic requirement or else you will not have a job. Running to the shop for a last minute item that can't wait in your pyjamas is fine.

A lady who is volunteering at the brownies club picks up her daughter from guides in her pyjamas. She wears a coat because it's cold. Who gives a fuck she doing something for her local community and she is looking after my child. She does not volunteer in her pyjamas she has a uniform to wear.

A woman who was pregnant was dropping her kids of at school in her onesie. She is studying to become a respectable doctor.

I bet you would turn your nose at these people wouldn't you. Until you need them to look after your child or save your life.

1horatio Mon 09-Jan-17 12:38:58

A very long time ago I did enter Waitrose clad in a dressing gown, briefly to get ginger beer to aid with severe hangover, there was no time to get dressed, it was either - get the hangover cure or be ill or day. It was a pleasant cotton stripe DG though . I am however very heartened to hear that Waitrose of all places has said - they welcome PJ wearers!

A Waitrose spokeswoman said: "Everyone is welcome to shop in Waitrose. If our customers want to come shopping in their PJs and dressing gowns that's fine by us

Pyjamas and uggs very comfy wear to the local shop.

You went to Waitrose. So, combined with the probably (?) obvious hangover you may have been perceived as a free spirited and creative solid ;)

Maybe a writer or an artist?

@will absolutely love Waitrose. What an amazing company!

Maybe Waitrose is talking about people like that?

I wouldn't wear pjs out of the house but I literally couldn't care less if anyone else did. I don't know why everyone care so much.

Waitrose have made that statement because they know they will never be troubled by the schleppers. Lol

@1horar they also said dressing gowns

Yup.

Waitrose is expecting fashionable people in silk dressing gowns, like the woman on the 2nd picture, I suspect ;)

@1horat I'll wear mine when I go in next and let you know what happens!

Yay ;)

So PP are judging people wearing PJs as being lazy and maybe a bit dirty.

Okay.

But why does it matter if someone is lazy and a bit dirty?

I can be lazy and a bit dirty sometimes I'm sure. I'm also sure it doesn't impact on one other human being.

....and my lazy arse shops in Waitrose and M&S Food

I saw a woman out in pajamas and a dressing gown a few weeks ago. I think she thought she looked edgy. She just looked dirty and unkempt to me, all I could think of was musty armpits and cheesy flange.