AIBU to be so fed up and confused on pyjama issue

[mummyof2pr]

AIBU to be serverly annoyed with all the judgements on pyjama wearers?

Can someone explain to me what the big deal over wearing pyjamas is? I don't understand. I shower daily, I wash my clothes if they are used/unclean. When I get up I get dressed go about my day, come home and shower and put pyjama pants on until I get into bed. I take them off before bed as I only sleep in my underwear. If I don't have anything to do in the day I'll wake up and put the pyjama pants on because they are comfortable and warm. If I then realise I have to go out and make a run to the store I'll just go like this as I usually have my children (4m and 2y) with me and if not I'm trying to do the shop as fast as I can to get back to them as my DH is not the best with small children and often gets flustered. I am not choosing to wear them out of laziness, I choose to wear them out of comfort. They are clean, I am clean. Nothing inappropriate is exposed. So I don't understand how it is hurting anybody. I don't think it's fair to sit and judge people who chose to wear pyjamas and be comfortable and I don't understand why people are so offended by this?
I'm sure there are a few people that do wear them because they are lazy and slobbish but I don't think it's fair to judge all people that wear them this way.

Love floozie.

She also uses the term regular clothes rather than normal clothes.

dow Isn't the OP American or used to live there, at leadt? Or did I misunderstand? Haven't read this whole thread, admittedly?

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dowhatnow read the thread fgs. Op is American.

People suggesting wearing yoga pants or joggers in stead. WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE??? It's all lounge wear. If you're objection is that people look scruffy in PJS, then I don't think Jack Wills pjs bottoms, Uggs and a hoodie looks any better. But that is what every posh well monied young person wore at my school.

It's all the same.

If it's a dirty thing, then When was the last time YOU washed your jeans? work men and homeless people not allowed in tesco?

It's completely fine. I even have no problem with people in their slippers, EXCEPT that people tend to drag their feet on the floor when wearing them which really annoys me.

"to the store" rather than shop.

How do we feel about Americans wearing Pj's? or English people using Americanisms?

Thank you @1horat. I am American @dowhatnow so excuse my terminology being different from yours in some cases.

oops sorry. I've read most of the thread! Must have missed that

@fizz wasn't meaning to be rude just didn't understand it was being used to make a point! Sometimes hard to tell over text! My apologies!

As for the London issue, some people prefer those types of busier areas and some people prefer quiet rural (is that a term here?) areas. No harm in either!!

Hi all,

We're continuing to get lots of reports about this thread and we are starting to see lots of swiss cheese style holes...

Can we remind everyone once again, peace and love?

Please do remember stick to our talk guidelines. We really don't want to have to remove the thread.

Mummy

I think you put your hand in a hornets nest with this thread.

You're American, I'm ... that's complicated (a mix of European. Let's stick with Euro trash).
So, we sometimes disagree with what's appropriate and do things that are seen as incredibly inappropriate by some in the UK (although I am admittedly honestly surprised by the sports bra outrage. Everybody trains this way in my sport, even in the UK. Oh well, shrug).

You can either conform or be aware that you are behaving in a way that's seen as slightly 'weird' by many people living in the U.K. and also accept that you will be judged. You may disagree with them... but you know, when in Rome...

Lorna, I know you're busy but I would really like an answer - why hasn't this been deleted as a taat? Have you got a more relaxed attitude to taats now?

It isn't really a taat, is it? It's more like... a thread about a topic quite commonly discussed on this site? Idk.

@1hoart I appreciate all of your kind and discussion based responses! As I understand I am doing something considered odd I do also understand it will be judged. I've stated before I just don't think it's right that people make such harsh comments on people for making the choice to wear pyjama bottoms! That's my issue, not the fact that it's considered odd!

Noooo don't delete the thread!

You can think it's not right all you want. Nobody is going to change their mind. It's not a conscious thing, it's automatic. You can either accept it or not wear them. One or the other.

No, I understand. And thanks :)!

But... ok...:

You see somebody dressed like this, what do you think? (No need to answer. Just visualise it mentally. Would you send your DC to her house?)

Maybe to some of the posters here your pyjamas are just as inappropriate.

And you may say: but I'm covered. But if you're breaching some sort of cultural taboo (btw, imo you are, but I can't speak for English culture) then their reactions are quite understandable, aren't they?

I live and die in my pyjamas! I do have "proper" clothes but I also have two autoimmune diseases and a connective tissue disorder. Proper fitted clothes, bras and waist bands cause me far too much pain for me to be bothered with them unless its 100% necessary. I choose to live my life comfortably rather than in agonising jeans and bras just to please other people.

I really do not give a flying hoohaa what anybody else wears. I do not sit in judegement . People can judge me all day long but while they see an overweight women wearing pyjamas, my kids see a fab mum thats rocking out her unicorn jammies and crocs and smiling as she is happy and comfortable. My mum says I have a Phd in not giving a shit what small minded people chose to worry about!

@1horat I get your point but I don't think the two outfit options (pjs and outfits such as your photo) are the same thing! Depending on the situation the outfit in the photo was warn I would allow my children at the house! Most adults like to dress up and have some fun at home or even for themed nights out? I'm not confident enough anymore after two kids but as I said earlier if someone else is, good for them!

@FP love that and love your confidence!!!! Your kids are lucky to have you :)

I'm very confused what taats are then. There is another very long thread on the subject in Active convos right now. The op was inspired by that thread (I think she said?) - so how is it not?

I've reported to Lorna again for clarification.

@bibbity if you don't like the thread you do not need to post or read! I'm sorry it is annoying you!

I think I, beginning to understand. My son in law turned up for breakfast wearing Rupert Bear type pants and a t shirt with a hood. My daughter hissed at me that these were his comfy clothes and he has several versions. He wears nothing in bed and a suit to work,1 hence the comfy clothes for home. I suspect he would wear them to Tesco too but didn't like to ask. May I suggest the writer with the post C section tummy problems get herself a hoody to wear on top of her pj bottoms and add a bra and sneakers. Non one will notice then.

Yet ANOTHER thread about PJs that has gone completely hysterical - this topic is being flogged to death at the mo

Being petty and judgmental of a complete stranger, over what choice of clothing they wear, is an ugly trait. Far uglier than choosing to wear PJs in public

It is bullying because someone dares to be different or doesn't live as you chose to.