AIBU to be so fed up and confused on pyjama issue

[mummyof2pr]

AIBU to be serverly annoyed with all the judgements on pyjama wearers?

Can someone explain to me what the big deal over wearing pyjamas is? I don't understand. I shower daily, I wash my clothes if they are used/unclean. When I get up I get dressed go about my day, come home and shower and put pyjama pants on until I get into bed. I take them off before bed as I only sleep in my underwear. If I don't have anything to do in the day I'll wake up and put the pyjama pants on because they are comfortable and warm. If I then realise I have to go out and make a run to the store I'll just go like this as I usually have my children (4m and 2y) with me and if not I'm trying to do the shop as fast as I can to get back to them as my DH is not the best with small children and often gets flustered. I am not choosing to wear them out of laziness, I choose to wear them out of comfort. They are clean, I am clean. Nothing inappropriate is exposed. So I don't understand how it is hurting anybody. I don't think it's fair to sit and judge people who chose to wear pyjamas and be comfortable and I don't understand why people are so offended by this?
I'm sure there are a few people that do wear them because they are lazy and slobbish but I don't think it's fair to judge all people that wear them this way.

Her hysteria is quite entertaining though!!

"FizzBombBathTime

I agree that the reason that this is a sensitive issue is that it's a marker of social class

So all us poor workin class Oliver twists should dress to appease the eyes of the middle classes? Sorry guvna you've got me bang to rights so you have!

[hmm

Believe it or not, some people don't inspire to appear middle/upper class, nor could they give a shit what class they look like. HTH."

You cannot aspire to be middle class! It doesn't work like that, for heaven's sake. You are what you are and if members of your particular class get dressed properly before entering the public domain, then that says something about them: it says they have standards.

And anyhow, as I said, feel free to silently judge my 6 pack and sports bra.
And as I also said: whilst I may not particularly enjoy the knowledge that you do think I'm a slut I ultimately don't care. And I won't cover myself because a stranger said so. I competed before hundreds in a sports bra. Why should I listen to you? ;)

And I wouldn't be a hypocrite and judge others for their attire but complain about them judging me...

And BTW OP, you're comment about exposing children to things they shouldn't be exposed to is imo much worse than calling you jobless and fat.
You basically accused scanitly clad people of.... what? Exposing children to things that harm their sexual integrity or did I misunderstand? Something usually associated with sexually predatory behaviour?
the sexual component of your comment seems obvious to me Especially combined with the slut comment we shouldn't mention again
but if I misunderstood please feel free to correct me.

notso don't understand how my children or personal life is relevant. I have already explained my views and why I choose to wear pyjama pants to the shop occasionally.

No need to bite my head off! I thought one of your reasons for wearing the PJ's was children so you mentioned it first making it a bit relevant but really I just wondered because two of my kids would happily wear their PJ's all day long and I have major battles getting them dressed.

That's a bit touchy, OP. Aggressive, actually.

You mentioned it, you can't be surprised if people comment on it.

I was sticking up for you, but I don't know why now. Anyway, I've read the thread properly now (which, yes, I should have done before: mea culpa), and think you're being seriously unpleasant all round, so cheerio.

Back off on that front. Not the issue and frankly inappropriate to comment on when that was not what I posted about

You did post about it though, both on this thread and your other thread where your relationship with him seems to be the major issue, and not whether you wear PJs or not. By saying repeatably its not the issue it looks like you are in denial about what is really going on.

"TheDowagerCuntess

Believe it or not, some people don't inspire to appear middle/upper class, nor could they give a shit what class they look like. HTH.

Yet, they get mightily pissed off when people (quite rightly) judge them as being slovenly / slobbish / lazy / unwashed / mentally unwell / fallen to drink, because they're wearing bed clothes outside the house. hmm

It seems you do care. Very much.

Just put some clothes on. It's not hard."

Indeed.

cara well done taking the out of context. My point was that that pp was Basically saying you do things like this, you must be lower class, and there is inherently something wrong with being lower class.

I am middle class. Very middle class. I know how class works. I don't need that explaining to me. But again, keep taking things out of context if it makes you feel better sweetheart.

@notso @sapphire if you read I was attacked on this by numerous people. So I'm done with it. My personal life has nothing to do with pyjamas. I was explaining why I sometimes wear them. No more discussion on that is needed. Didn't mean to bite heads off or be so defensive but when you've received the comments I have then these come back it seems a bit rude and annoying. My apologies.

I DONT WEAR PYJAMAS OUTSIDE!

dowager insinuated I did in that post.

But you know, keep on! Well done you for utilising your copy and paste.

OP, I think you're a fantastic hypocrite.

You have no problem with accusing miniskirt clad women of exposing children to things they aren't supposed to be exposed to and imo therefore clearly associating them with things like flashing or otherwise predatory behaviour.

But you get upset when people bring up things you have mentioned yourself? You really are an unpleasant woman.

And requoting something on a thread doesn't make it true or right cara.

@1horat there is a difference between kids seeing someone fully clothed in "nightwear" and seeing most of someone's breasts and other private body parts.

Sitting here with my mouth open Navy, cringe!

@1horat I said he struggles with the children. As some people do with young children. Not everyone has the patience for it. I didn't ask for an open discussion into my home life or marriage.

I pray horatio doesn't live in my nice commuter middle class city. I do not want to be subjected to seeing her body sweating down my street. Will bring the house prices right down.

And again @1horat I am talking about your comment of wearing bikinis to the shops that you made a while ago (not sure if it was you or someone else so my apologies). I never said mini skirt clad women are exposing to children.

@Waitrose @navy no one is forcing you to comment and read

@fizz I've appreciated most comments and I don't mean to be rude or offend but the comments you are making to @1horat now are the same as the ones others have made to myself and other pyjama wearers

I know, I'm reading and commenting with my own free will

Presumably though, you're wearing your pyjama top straight from bed?

@waitrose then what's the purpose of complaining? If it is so appalling to you just don't read or post! Not meaning to be rude just generally curious

mummy did you not get the irony? I was making a point.

It's the same as what others have said to you. By for some reason because she's exercising, I'm probably unreasonable for being offended.

But thanks for that

It's not appalling. I've got a spare 10 minutes, it's a very interesting thread. Very, telling.