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AIBU to be so fed up and confused on pyjama issue

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 19:30

AIBU to be serverly annoyed with all the judgements on pyjama wearers?

Can someone explain to me what the big deal over wearing pyjamas is? I don't understand. I shower daily, I wash my clothes if they are used/unclean. When I get up I get dressed go about my day, come home and shower and put pyjama pants on until I get into bed. I take them off before bed as I only sleep in my underwear. If I don't have anything to do in the day I'll wake up and put the pyjama pants on because they are comfortable and warm. If I then realise I have to go out and make a run to the store I'll just go like this as I usually have my children (4m and 2y) with me and if not I'm trying to do the shop as fast as I can to get back to them as my DH is not the best with small children and often gets flustered. I am not choosing to wear them out of laziness, I choose to wear them out of comfort. They are clean, I am clean. Nothing inappropriate is exposed. So I don't understand how it is hurting anybody. I don't think it's fair to sit and judge people who chose to wear pyjamas and be comfortable and I don't understand why people are so offended by this?
I'm sure there are a few people that do wear them because they are lazy and slobbish but I don't think it's fair to judge all people that wear them this way.

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eddiemairswife · 09/01/2017 10:14

The ladies who were photographed in the supermarket say the photographer was disrespecting their culture.

FizzBombBathTime · 09/01/2017 10:15

horatio now you're back tracking and you sound like you do care what people think. Wearing a bra like that with nothing over the top of it in public is innapropriate IMO.

FizzBombBathTime · 09/01/2017 10:16

horatio read the thread I've already said 100 times I DONT WEAR PYJAMAS OUTSIDE!!! Fucking hell!!!!

Deadsouls · 09/01/2017 10:16

I think maybe it's because the context of the wearing PJ's is normally around the house/bedtime etc.

But also because certain parts of media (you know who you are), TV shows have associated wearing PJs to the shops with a certain socio-economic class with a certain set of values and principles. So it's become a stereotype in our culture, like a shorthand.

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mummyof2pr · 09/01/2017 10:17

@1horat I am referring to the multiple people that have attacked me previously in this post regarding my family, income, weight, etc. All of which they knew nothing about. I am referring to the numerous people that have commented saying people who do this are OBVIOUSLY jobless, unhygienic, skanky, have no self respect, horrible parents, horrible examples, etc. Those things are unacceptable. To have an opinion is one thing but to publicly say things such as this and say it is "OBVIOUS" not that "IYO it seems" is different. Or to just simply say "these people are slobby jobless poor classless people" again not a judgement that is a statement about a person you do not know. And I'm not saying you have been doing this. I'm referring to the people here and elsewhere that are.

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FizzBombBathTime · 09/01/2017 10:18

My issues with this thread were innapropriate mentions of mental illness being brought into it, bringing up the op's other threads about her husband and people really sticking the knife in in a nasty way for no reason when it wasn't relevant, and mentions of class when yet again it's a nothing. But you know carry on horatio won't you.

1horatio · 09/01/2017 10:18

I said from the very beginning that I don't particularly enjoy people thinking I'm a slut. You can scroll up and read my first comment about it...

Whereas this person simply said that this is skanky in her opinion (her right btw)

I even wrote in her opinion. What are you complaining about?

FizzBombBathTime · 09/01/2017 10:19

Just as you don't want to see someone in cotton trousers in the supermarket, I don't want to see a pregnant woman in her bra.

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mummyof2pr · 09/01/2017 10:19

@1horat who was that directed to?

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Notso · 09/01/2017 10:20

Do you get your kids dressed to go out OP?

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mummyof2pr · 09/01/2017 10:20

@fizz good point kind of, when I was pregnant I always wanted to be fully covered, however other pregnant women chose to wear crop tops and such. Did I think that was a choice I would make? No. Did I judge them for doing so? No. If they are confident enough to do so good for them!

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CaraAspen · 09/01/2017 10:21

"KoalaDownUnder

I don't dress to make others happy, I dress for myself.

Righto. Great. So why the fk do you care if people think you look slobbish going out in public in pyjamas? confused

You can't have it both ways."

Exactly. If one dresses for oneself and not for others, so to speak, what on earth is the problem? If you wear garments that are CLEARLY nightwear, in the supermarket, for instance, then do not be surprised if other people judge you for having low standards and a frankly bizarre attitude to what constitutes correct public attire.
It might also be a good idea to stop whining about people who judge you and your lifestyle.

1horatio · 09/01/2017 10:22

mummy at fizz.

And for gods sake fizz. read:

  1. I didn't accuse you of wearing pyjamas.
  2. in summer. And used to because I was heavily pregnant last summer)
I used to do that, as in: don't do that anymore, because I was pregnant last summer. So, no pregnant stomachs. You would have seen a 6-pack, no baby bump.
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mummyof2pr · 09/01/2017 10:22

@notso don't understand how my children or personal life is relevant. I have already explained my views and why I choose to wear pyjama pants to the shop occasionally.

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shaggedthruahedgebackwards · 09/01/2017 10:22

Silently judging someone is hardly akin to abuse or discrimination

If I saw someone wearing PJs in a public place I would not dream of saying anything to them or pointing and staring, nor would I take a photo of them to share on social media or send to the daily fail. I wouldn't be disgusted or horrified or have any other feelings intense enough to raise my blood pressure but I would be silently thinking to myself "why on earth is that women wearing her PJs?"

Just because we are posting on this thread does not mean we are obsessed with the issue or would actually react in any noticeable way if we saw you out and about in your PJs

HTH

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mummyof2pr · 09/01/2017 10:23

@cara honestly read the comments. It's not the judgements. It's the people stating things about these people they don't know as if they are fact.

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FizzBombBathTime · 09/01/2017 10:24

horatio what makes you think a six pack is any better? Cover your fucking self!

CaraAspen · 09/01/2017 10:25

"scottishdiem

Fashions and ideas of standards change. To her dying day my gran would judge women harshly for leaving the house without a hat or scarf for leaving covering their hair. Slobbish would have been the best of the words she used for pretty much every women shopping these days."

Re your last sentence: what a sweeping statement. Your grandmother would certainly not be able to judge me or anyone I know as "slobbish".

FizzBombBathTime · 09/01/2017 10:25

I would certainly judge you for wearing a bra and nothing over the top outside. That is skanky IMO.*

Not sure how this is different than anything that was said about pyjamas in public? Do you also disagree with that or do you only disagree when it's about you own habits?

Horatio you quoted me there and that was your reply. You did accuse me of it. HTH.

SapphireStrange · 09/01/2017 10:26

I couldn't care less if you wear PJs to the shops –I've got better things to worry about –but I do agree with this: address why your DH can't cope with his own children.

FizzBombBathTime · 09/01/2017 10:26

Re your last sentence: what a sweeping statement. Your grandmother would certainly not be able to judge me or anyone I know as "slobbish

But it's ok for you to judge other people that way cara?

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mummyof2pr · 09/01/2017 10:26

@sapphire seriously? Back off on that front. Not the issue and frankly inappropriate to comment on when that was not what I posted about.

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CaraAspen · 09/01/2017 10:27

As a matter of interest, are those who are swearing copiously on this thread more likely to wear nightwear in a supermarket? I think there might be a correlation.

FizzBombBathTime · 09/01/2017 10:28

Fuck shit Buggery fuck wank cunt

I don't own a set of pyjamas.

HTH.

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mummyof2pr · 09/01/2017 10:29

@fizz I would just ignore cara, she is trying to pick fights. Don't give her the time of day.

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