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AIBU to be so fed up and confused on pyjama issue

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 19:30

AIBU to be serverly annoyed with all the judgements on pyjama wearers?

Can someone explain to me what the big deal over wearing pyjamas is? I don't understand. I shower daily, I wash my clothes if they are used/unclean. When I get up I get dressed go about my day, come home and shower and put pyjama pants on until I get into bed. I take them off before bed as I only sleep in my underwear. If I don't have anything to do in the day I'll wake up and put the pyjama pants on because they are comfortable and warm. If I then realise I have to go out and make a run to the store I'll just go like this as I usually have my children (4m and 2y) with me and if not I'm trying to do the shop as fast as I can to get back to them as my DH is not the best with small children and often gets flustered. I am not choosing to wear them out of laziness, I choose to wear them out of comfort. They are clean, I am clean. Nothing inappropriate is exposed. So I don't understand how it is hurting anybody. I don't think it's fair to sit and judge people who chose to wear pyjamas and be comfortable and I don't understand why people are so offended by this?
I'm sure there are a few people that do wear them because they are lazy and slobbish but I don't think it's fair to judge all people that wear them this way.

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1horatio · 09/01/2017 00:04

So, your criteria is whether you're covered? Seems just as arbitrary if not more as the criteria of whether something is nightwear or daywear. Or underwear or outerwear... swimwear or 'land'wear.

As you see, there's a time and place for everything.

FizzBombBathTime · 09/01/2017 00:05

Genuine anger, frustration and utter disgust over a pair of bloody cotton trousers. Confused

catkind · 09/01/2017 00:06

Not RTFT but I'm with you OP. How would people even know they were PJ pants rather than any other kind of loose trousers, unless they have "sweet dreams" written all over them or something.

I've actually got fed up with PJs not fitting properly and taken to wearing plain cotton tops and thin cotton joggers to bed. So noone will ever know if I'm in my PJs or not unless I smell, bwahahaha.

chipsandchilli · 09/01/2017 00:06

The way i see it is, you might know you have washed and had the pj's on an hour but other people don't, they think....

a) you have just rolled out your pit and have went shopping, why are you in bed till now.
b) you have been up hours, haven't got changed and are still wearing the pj's you went to bed in last night.

I haven't got a problem with it, i have rolled out of bed myself, jumped in the car and took the kids to school with a big coat over the top, i wouldn't get out of the car or people will think the above and they are right really. I get in at 1am from work, cant sleep till 4am and have to get up at 7am. Sometimes i just go back to bed for a few hours after the school run. That's the problem i think.

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mummyof2pr · 09/01/2017 00:07

@1horat I think that being covered is a bigger issue than daywear vs nightwear. As I've said with pyjamas you are covered so nothing is exposed to children or perverts etc. In bikinis and items like that children may be exposed to things they shouldn't be.

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Boogers · 09/01/2017 00:09

I'm going to bed now. Shamelessly placemarking for when I pick this up again in the morning, by which time I'm guessing it will be up to page 30. Smile

CaraAspen · 09/01/2017 00:10

Scuzzy? Hmmm, that's a new one to add to manky, skanky, minging, grim, slovenly and repulsive.

MyNewBearTotoro · 09/01/2017 00:10

I'm certainly not saying that all social norms should be ignored and no, of course I don't think wearing a bikini to a school is okay. But wearing underwear on a beach? Fine.

I think wearing nightwear which is the equivalent of appropriate daywear is fine, so cotton pyjama trousers in place of yoga pants is good but a bikini obviously not. I'm not saying we should disregard all social norms but the only reason I can see people offer for not wearing pyjamas trousers, even if they are no more revealing than day trousers, is that its unconventional. Obviously the reason not to wear a bikini on the school run goes beyond convention - most would say wearing something so revealing to a school is wrong.

I'm not saying ALL nightwear is appropriate to wear anywhere and everywhere - certainly a lacy nighty or those tiny pj shorts probably aren't okay for the school run - but why are patterned pj trousers wrong but patterned yoga pants or leggings okay? The only difference is the way they have been marketed as either day or nightwear but nothing in terms of how revealing they are - often pyjama bottoms leave far less on show than a pair of tight leggings.

In that way the only argument against such pyjamas is convention as there is no other logical reason not to wear them to a setting where other casual wear (leggings, jogging bottoms etc) would be okay.

1horatio · 09/01/2017 00:10

What are the exposed to they shouldn't be? The same thing they're exposed to when going to the beach, the pool or a (Finnish) sauna?

CaraAspen · 09/01/2017 00:11

OP, you appear to have plenty of free time tonight. No sprogs to busy yourself with?

CaraAspen · 09/01/2017 00:13

Classy...

1horatio · 09/01/2017 00:13

Imo wearing pyjamas to the supermarket is quite grim. If I know they're pyjamas I'll think that you're slovenly. If they don't look like pyjamas it's still quite grim but I can't judge you for doing so. Shrug.

ollieplimsoles · 09/01/2017 00:13

Shit this is still going on, its been HOURS

Ain't you tired op?...Ain't you tiiired?

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mummyof2pr · 09/01/2017 00:13

@cara the post has calmed down and is now in a good discussion so I am going to ask kindly if you would refrain from creating issues. Thank you.

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CaraAspen · 09/01/2017 00:14

Walmart in the US, to be fair...
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mummyof2pr · 09/01/2017 00:15

@cara people of Walmart is an entirely different level. If they were here no one would be complaining about the pjs!!!

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FizzBombBathTime · 09/01/2017 00:15

Cara you shouldn't post photos of yourself. Even though it doesn't show your face, it could be very outing.

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MyNewBearTotoro · 09/01/2017 00:16

As an aside, I'm a teacher (although currently on maternity leave) and at a previous school I used to get to work, take off my shoes and put on a pair of slippers. Mostly I had sensible slipper boots (not so far away from ugg boots) but I did have a pair of fun giraffe slippers I would wear sometimes to delight the children. Obviously I wouldn't wear slippers to inportant meetings or events but the headteacher and parents saw me wearing them in class and as far as I know nobody ever batted an eyelid.

1horatio · 09/01/2017 00:17

Are these onesies really worse than that?

AIBU to be so fed up and confused on pyjama issue
CaraAspen · 09/01/2017 00:17

Teeeeee heeeeeee, fizz!

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mummyof2pr · 09/01/2017 00:18

Woman on left looks like she's wearing holiday leggings tbh

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Bettercallsaul1 · 09/01/2017 00:19

The reason I dislike seeing people wearing pyjamas outside the home - in supermarkets, collecting children from school etc - is not just because it is lazy (although that's involved ) but because it is yet another assault on public space, blurring the lines between private and public behaviour for the convenience of the individual, with no thought or consideration for the feelings and standards of the rest of society. The OP, relaxing cosily at home in her pyjamas, suddenly realises she needs some things from the shop, but instead of changing from her private, home wear into the accepted "public" clothing of normal outerwear, decides to treat the supermarket as an extension of her sitting room/bedroom and roam the aisles in pyjamas. Treating public places as an extension of your own private space is disrespectful to others using that public area - by definition, public areas are shared and that includes abiding by the established conventions of dress and behaviour.

I see the practice of wearing pyjamas in public as another example of self-centred, ant-social behaviour which is unfortunately on the rise. It is at the same end of the spectrum as talking loudly, and at length, on mobile phones in public and being quite indifferent - even oblivious - to the people forced to listen to the details of someone's private life, including arguments and "embarrassing" incidents. It is akin to people, earphones in and lost in their private world, running, cycling and walking about without noticing or acknowledging other people or the world around them. Road rage is notoriously explained as drivers treating their car as their living room and refusing to acknowledge the rights of other road-users, who are frequently viewed simply as obstacles slowing them down or in their way.

The OP quite correctly states that she is not hurting anyone by wearing her pyjamas in public. Of course, she is not harming anyone physically - but by insisting on prioritising her convenience and comfort at the expense of the standards and feelings of other members of society, she is swelling the ranks of the "me first" brigade.

CaraAspen · 09/01/2017 00:19

"MyNewBearTotoro

As an aside, I'm a teacher (although currently on maternity leave) and at a previous school I used to get to work, take off my shoes and put on a pair of slippers. Mostly I had sensible slipper boots (not so far away from ugg boots) but I did have a pair of fun giraffe slippers I would wear sometimes to delight the children. Obviously I wouldn't wear slippers to inportant meetings or events but the headteacher and parents saw me wearing them in class and as far as I know nobody ever batted an eyelid"

Wow, what a rebel. I take it this wasn't a secondary school?