AIBU to be so fed up and confused on pyjama issue

[mummyof2pr]

AIBU to be serverly annoyed with all the judgements on pyjama wearers?

Can someone explain to me what the big deal over wearing pyjamas is? I don't understand. I shower daily, I wash my clothes if they are used/unclean. When I get up I get dressed go about my day, come home and shower and put pyjama pants on until I get into bed. I take them off before bed as I only sleep in my underwear. If I don't have anything to do in the day I'll wake up and put the pyjama pants on because they are comfortable and warm. If I then realise I have to go out and make a run to the store I'll just go like this as I usually have my children (4m and 2y) with me and if not I'm trying to do the shop as fast as I can to get back to them as my DH is not the best with small children and often gets flustered. I am not choosing to wear them out of laziness, I choose to wear them out of comfort. They are clean, I am clean. Nothing inappropriate is exposed. So I don't understand how it is hurting anybody. I don't think it's fair to sit and judge people who chose to wear pyjamas and be comfortable and I don't understand why people are so offended by this?
I'm sure there are a few people that do wear them because they are lazy and slobbish but I don't think it's fair to judge all people that wear them this way.

Presumably you wouldn't wear a nightie to the shop or on the school run?

It always looks dirty even though the clothes may be clean

Going to bed with clothes worn to the supermarket is like not washing your hands after going to the toilet. Vom.

mummy nooooooooo never!

Still getting over the trackie bottoms/ex work colleague incident over Christmas!

MyNewBear picking up on your social norms thing, is it ok for me to roll out of bed, slip on my nightie (afore described), pop on a pair of pants, my dressing gown and slippers and walk my DD to school like that? Maybe I could squeeze my elephantine carcass into a bikini and attend parents' evening dressed like that? Maybe the teachers should do the same.

If not, why not?

Just challenging the challenges to social norms.

Because it's IMPORTANT, Sparkers.

We've utterly exhausted Boden and the British class system. Goats, flat screen TVs and benefits claimants are done.

Not to mention the fact everyone's knows asking for help to buy any sort of hand bag over the 75 pence price point will see you lynched by the mob.

So now we must move with the times and debate gravely on whether what time you wear your pyjamas adversely influences your mental health and more importantly does it make you a bit common. But no one actually wants to say the word common, because once people get their teeth into that than you may as well unleash hell upon Mumsnet.

@1horat I'm sure some people do that, to each their own, I do not. I also do not sleep in their beds so does not matter to me!

Wear them. Don't wear them.

Accept that if you do, some people will judge.

Some will judge internally. Some will judge so you know about it.

People judge others for all sorts of reasons. I don't like to see young girls out clubbing in the middle of winter wearing next to nothing. I don't judge their morals, just their common sense.

I don't like to see people in pyjamas out of their homes because I'm of a generation where you got dressed to go out. I wouldn't be especially impressed if I was invited to someone's house and they hadn't bothered to get dressed. My problem, not theirs.

So I don't see why you're bothered.

But as Dress Down Fridays are now pretty much Dress Down Any Day You Please, I can't wait to see people turning up to work in their Winnie-the-Pooh jammies.

@boogers I get the point but that's a bit extreme. Most pyjama bottoms are very similar to pants! Bikinis and such expose a lot more skin which I do think is inappropriate. Pyjamas cover the same amount that regular clothes do! They just look and feel slightly different!

Yes, I'm sure some people don't wash their hands after going to the toilet and then simply cook lunch this way. But if I knew they did that I wouldn't go to their house, would I?

By wearing pyjamas to the supermarket you're openly broadcasting that we have different hygiene standards. Not necessarily a bad thing (for me). This way I know in advance. Better than the hand washing scenario, tbh.

I've got an owl pj top I wear out as a t-shirt because it's too nice to wear in bed.

And a nightie I got from the charity shop to wear as a dress.

TBH with the current trend for sport luxe, groomed eyebrows and keratin hair abounding now I don't think I'd know if some one was wearing night or day gear.

Most of it's all the bloody same. Look at those ridiculous harden cropped pants ...go on any website and there will be some in the women's section, some in the sportswear section and some inthe nightwear section.

WHO IS BUYING THE BLOODY THINGS AND WHEN DO THEY WEAR THEM?!

I love that noticing that someone is wearing pyjamas has been described as "taking detailed notes" on what people wear.

@1horat I think I have very high hygiene standards, but again see your point that you wouldn't know this seeing me in PJ bottoms. However someone dressed nicely in a suit or something could have just sorry for this masturbated or something and not washed hands and touched a bunch of stuff in store! He also could have not showered in days! You never know. The outfit should not be the determining factor!

Didn't mean to bold the sorry for this! Still learning the way on mumsnet 😛

Maybe it shouldn't be. But it is.

You're deliberately going against social norms. This is a statement.

I genuinely got a a ticket from the local constabulary after getting pulled over for a stop and search describing me as

"Wearing a anorak, distinctive Dr Martyns, a yellow anorak with a woolly hat, and navy polyester trousers" The fashion police are real, BadLad.

I mean, if you want to make this statement then you're free to do so. But don't be surprised when people draw their own conclusions.

@1horat just because something is a social norm somewhere doesn't mean it's right or has to be that way!

Wasn't this a thing a few years ago.

I always assumed that these shopping pj wearers were student types, living virtually next door to tesco express who realised late at night that they had run out of milk.
Hence they swiftly skipped over to big a pint of milk under her cover of darkness and in a hurry as it was time for bed.

I'm going to be on the look out now for any public pj wearers.

It was more what mynewbear wrote about challenging social norms, which I'm up for. I'm using the school run quite a lot as an example as I'm in the part of the country where a school head teacher asked parents not to do the school run in their pyjamas. I get that pyjamas are comfortable etc, but where do you draw the line? Why can't I do the school run in my nightie and slippers?

Yes. Then battle against these social norms but accept the stigma attached to doing so?

You said a bikini would be inappropriate, didn't you? Well, i say the same about pyjamas. Not sure how you can disagree with my statement but stand by yours.

There are a lot of feelings around what someone wears - usually of the putting someone down variety in order to make themselves feel superior.

I believe showing an ankle was shocking in times past.

We criticise people from different cultures for expecting women to wear long cover - all garments. Is this not the same?

You wear something that isn't quite mainstream = bad person. Hmm.

I would imagine you should be able to if you wanted. It seems weird to me that a school could dictate something like that, again probably just a cultural difference between UK and US

FairyHoneydragon is that you in the 90s again?

@1horat a bikini shows a lot of skin whereas pyjamas cover the same amount as regular clothes

I wish

It was definitely the noughties I'm afraid