AIBU to be so fed up and confused on pyjama issue

[mummyof2pr]

AIBU to be serverly annoyed with all the judgements on pyjama wearers?

Can someone explain to me what the big deal over wearing pyjamas is? I don't understand. I shower daily, I wash my clothes if they are used/unclean. When I get up I get dressed go about my day, come home and shower and put pyjama pants on until I get into bed. I take them off before bed as I only sleep in my underwear. If I don't have anything to do in the day I'll wake up and put the pyjama pants on because they are comfortable and warm. If I then realise I have to go out and make a run to the store I'll just go like this as I usually have my children (4m and 2y) with me and if not I'm trying to do the shop as fast as I can to get back to them as my DH is not the best with small children and often gets flustered. I am not choosing to wear them out of laziness, I choose to wear them out of comfort. They are clean, I am clean. Nothing inappropriate is exposed. So I don't understand how it is hurting anybody. I don't think it's fair to sit and judge people who chose to wear pyjamas and be comfortable and I don't understand why people are so offended by this?
I'm sure there are a few people that do wear them because they are lazy and slobbish but I don't think it's fair to judge all people that wear them this way.

may be mentally unstable

I haven't RTFT (because it is 18 pages) but I only wear pyjamas at home unless I have guests but I have "day pyjamas" and "sleep pyjamas" because I just like being comfy in the day and find them more comfortable than joggers etc. I sleep in pyjama shorts then put on proper pyjamas when I get up but even at my levels of pyjama love I do draw the line at being around other people in them. If I have guests or am leaving the house I'd always get dressed and if I take the bins to the bottom of the drive with pj bottoms on I do it very quickly the scuttle.back inside.

The only time I have wore PJ out is when I have taken DC in an emergency to a&e.

I then may need to go to a 24 hour supermarket for medication.

It takes minutes to put on leggings and a pair of boots.

Yes. Mentally unstable.

@1horat anyone you meet could be mentally unstable! The man you see in a suit could beat the crap out of his wife and kids everyday! The woman dressed "appropriately" may be a serial killer! Extreme examples but you never know!

But can you honestly honestly say mummy that there is not one person you know that you would be embarrassed to see in the middle of the day in your pyjamas?

Sorry, but I just don't believe that. Your elderly Auntie Doris, your posh ex work colleague, a friend of your parents, a teacher from the school...

I'd go to work in my tartan lounge pants if I could get away with it, I actually hate clothes and take them off as soon as I get home so I kind of understand the op

@rousette no as I've stated before I am from USA where this is acceptable. And my friends here do this as well for quick runs out so I can confidently say no one I know would think poorly of me for it.

I'd be worried to let DD come over to your house for a play date. Sure, if I knew you really well? No problem. But if all I knew about you was the 'mother that wears pyjamas to the supermarket'? Not a good impression

I did the school run dressed as a nun when I was eight months pg as frankly as was too fat and waddley to rush home and change. Are you saying you'd be put off by me?

mummy I am that woman. Now where's my thalium...

Yes, of course. But acting in ways seen as 'unusual' is often a good indication. It seems unkempt and a bit like you're neglecting yourself. Not a sign of good mental health, is it?

As I said, I have the right to draw my own conclusios. Just like you have the right to wear pyjamas to the supermarkets...

You could also wear overknees, bootie shorts and a bra. Or a deux-piece and pumps. Different assumptions about you (and your profession, potentially) would be made.

fairy

Nope, nuns would be alright.

Magzmarsh

Well we could pretend it was 1991 again? Pair them with an ironic t-shirt, some ridiculous trainers and Celtic band tattoo and you'd be bang on trend.

Blimey. I know loads of people who I would just hate to see me in mine. I find that quite strange actually. You talk of friends... I don't mean friends, I mean more acquaintances like the people I mentioned - elderly rellies, professional people you have dealings with etc... none of them you'd be embarrassed to see?

Not minding the thread too much anymore now! Thank you everyone for kind and discussion based comments!

Brilliant fairy

@rousette I have fairly good relationships with the people I know here! They know I usually as well am alone taking care of the kids as my husband has to be away for work a lot so no one would question it!

I think it is true that it is against social norms to wear pyjamas out of the house and, to an extent, even to wear pyjamas in the house during the day.

I think people who are uptight or otherwise preoccupied with social norms therefore see it as a big deal. For people who view social norms as important or even necessary it can be hard to comprehend how somebody could take a 'I don't give a fuck' attitude towards what they wear or do in public. They come to the conclusion that somebody who is happy to disregard social norms is probably uneducated or unstable or otherwise unimportant because they can't see how anybody in their right mind and of an appropriate social standing would do obviously go against the norm because the norm is no ingrained in them as being important.

Of course in reality there are plenty of normal people who just don't give a shit about social norms - they find it liberating to ignore them or they don't have time for them or they value their comfort/ time/ money etc above following rules regarding which clothes are and are not for daytime - but I think for those people for whom society's 'rules' and being conventional are very important to it's hard to see how somebody might take the point of view that they don't matter.

If somebody finds following social norms very important, even when logically they can see a particular norm doesn't really make any difference with regards to keeping society running along happily, then I don't think there's much that can make them change their mind in the same way for those of us who see some norms as stupid or unimportant there's no way anyone could convince us actually that there is any good or logical reason not to wear pyjamas whenever and wherever you want.

FairyHoneydragon the 1990s were brilliant, weren't they, though the look not so much.

How on earth does an AIBU about pyjamas go on for this long? Is this what MN has come to?

mummy I am now making a mental list of all the people I would hate hate hate to see me in pyjamas!

I'm doing it now in bed - better than counting sheep, I'll let you know tomorrow if I reach 100!

We live in North America, where we live now is too bloody cold to wear anything but down trousers and coats when out, but when we lived in less glacial parts I would frequently see people out in PJs. A lady at the baby group I went to with DS used to rock up in very snazzy ones, different each time too. Nobody minded or seemed that fussed.

I can't see what the big deal is, but what other people wear really doesn't interests me except she of the coveted snazzy PJs, was always envious! .

@rousette get pyjamas you feel confident in and own it!!!!

I wouldn't go to the shops in winter in my PJs any more than I would wear a bikini there in the summer. But if they are not glaringly obvs pj bottoms (i.e. Black fleece, not covered in pink sheep) I can't see as it matters too much in this day and age.

Because it's scuzzy and looks like you have just got out of bed and cba to even put a pair of trousers on