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AIBU to be so fed up and confused on pyjama issue

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 19:30

AIBU to be serverly annoyed with all the judgements on pyjama wearers?

Can someone explain to me what the big deal over wearing pyjamas is? I don't understand. I shower daily, I wash my clothes if they are used/unclean. When I get up I get dressed go about my day, come home and shower and put pyjama pants on until I get into bed. I take them off before bed as I only sleep in my underwear. If I don't have anything to do in the day I'll wake up and put the pyjama pants on because they are comfortable and warm. If I then realise I have to go out and make a run to the store I'll just go like this as I usually have my children (4m and 2y) with me and if not I'm trying to do the shop as fast as I can to get back to them as my DH is not the best with small children and often gets flustered. I am not choosing to wear them out of laziness, I choose to wear them out of comfort. They are clean, I am clean. Nothing inappropriate is exposed. So I don't understand how it is hurting anybody. I don't think it's fair to sit and judge people who chose to wear pyjamas and be comfortable and I don't understand why people are so offended by this?
I'm sure there are a few people that do wear them because they are lazy and slobbish but I don't think it's fair to judge all people that wear them this way.

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Unicorn1981 · 08/01/2017 21:47

Because it's representative of being lazy and not caring about yourself. If I am having a lazy day I will wear trackies but still put jeans on to go to the shops. When I get home from work I will get dd her tea and in bed then I will have a shower or bath and put pj's on. I don't care what others wear tbh but I think it's a shame people think so little of themselves they can't be arsed to get dressed to go out. It takes 5 mins.

Boogers · 08/01/2017 21:48

Fizz my nightie is lovely, but I don't think DD would be happy if I picked her up from school in it.

That said, in summer, there are quite a few parents who wear short shorts and vest tops, so they set a precedent really. That's sorted. I shall do the school run on Thursday morning and afternoon in my nightie and slippers. 1000 yards there, 1000 yards back, not a problem. It'll be nice to get my hairy gorilla legs out in the fresh air this time of year.

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 21:48

@unicorn I don't think little of myself and I do this but thank you for your opinion.

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mambono5 · 08/01/2017 21:49

Again, if your nightwear are more comfortable than you daywear, you need to go shopping. You are buying the wrong clothes.

FizzBombBathTime · 08/01/2017 21:49

I'm sure she wouldn't be.

Free the gorilla leg!

haveacupoftea · 08/01/2017 21:49

Wear whatever you want, but wearing pyjamas out is slovenly. If your usual clothes aren't comfortable enough maybe you should get some new clothes that are comfy and warm?

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Boogers · 08/01/2017 21:51

gobby

ODFOD

(got a ban for saying that last time, though this time it's the acronym so maybe I'll get away with it)

StatisticallyChallenged · 08/01/2017 21:51

Personally never gone out in public (beyond nipping to the wheelie bin) in my pyjamas, until the night I found myself stranded overnight at Heathrow Airport. I was travelling for work, hand luggage only, and wearing smart fitted clothes. I swell up badly when flying anyway, and I'd been working all day before hand. Flight to Heathrow was delayed by several hours, and it was the night of the EU referendum - huge storms and no hotel rooms to be had.

I'm afraid once I accepted I was stuck there overnight I went and changed in to a T shirt and my PJ bottoms for the night, I just wanted to be comfortable (as far as possible when spending the night on a metal chair in T5!). I did change back before I went through to departures in the morning though!

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 21:51

@mambo @haveacup the comfort of the pyjamas I have cannot be matched in regular clothes, or at least not that I've found, and I've looked.

My pyjamas aren't anything crazy. Black, grey stretchy super comfortable material bottoms. Or some comfy stretchy sports team bottoms from USA.

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mambono5 · 08/01/2017 21:51

not everyone dresses in pyjamas because of lack of time

I was replying to your comment saying that parents wear pjs because they didn't have time to get dressed in the morning. I am glad you agree that it is a terrible excuse.

Your comments are no longer necessary. Thank you for your feedback, but I am happy carrying on giving my opinion on a public forum. You might even listen to my point eventually or not

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 21:52

@mambo I'm not saying it's a terrible excuse. I'm saying it's not the only reason.

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gobbynorthernbird · 08/01/2017 21:53

But if the OP underwear is horrid and her clothes aren't comfy, surely she needs to buy nice stuff in a bigger size? Rather than slob about in nightwear?

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 21:54

@gobby AGAIN READ THE THREAD. you sound foolish because you haven't.

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inthekitchensink · 08/01/2017 21:55

You obviously don't mind what people think so who cares if most people think it's either a sign of not coping/being unwell, or just pathetically slovenly! If you care, don't present yourself in public in nightwear, if you don't care just crack on! Not an issue.

WaitrosePigeon · 08/01/2017 21:55

Did you not get enough replies on your other thread?

FizzBombBathTime · 08/01/2017 21:55

mambo are you expecting op to stop doing what she does on your say so? Do you really think that much of yourself?

Ain't gonna happen dude.

FizzBombBathTime · 08/01/2017 21:56

gobby your comment speculating on the ops weight was uncalled for.

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mummyof2pr · 08/01/2017 21:56

@Waitrose the other thread wasn't mine. And again if you've read I stated this one in hopes I would get answers and not nasty remarks but no luck.

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Boogers · 08/01/2017 21:57

Fizz I'm actually quite sure she would be.

DS's presentation evening last year, I wasn't at work that day but still had a shower, straightened my hair and put on a smart blouse and trousers. DS later said I looked really nice and thank you for not showing him up (by that I think he meant not whooping when it was his turn to go up on stage)

I would never embarrass my children by doing something that was within my control. That includes doing the school run in pyjamas, nightie or birthday suit.

mambono5 · 08/01/2017 21:57

are you expecting op to stop doing what she does on your say so? Do you really think that much of yourself?

Of course not!

I am still hoping to read a valid argument IN FAVOUR of wearing nightwear in public. I guess I might have to give up on that one Grin

FizzBombBathTime · 08/01/2017 21:58

boogers I was agreeing with you

As in- I'm sure she wouldn't like it if you went out in the nightie. You need to chill dude!

FizzBombBathTime · 08/01/2017 21:58

mambo - I don't do it. But I would say that the most valid arguement is because she CAN. there's no law against it!

PickledCauliflower · 08/01/2017 21:59

Wear pyjamas 24/7 if you want to.
I wouldn't - but if it is so important to you then wear them. If you feel like you are being judged for wearing them outside of your house, that's because most people still view them as night wear.

gobbynorthernbird · 08/01/2017 21:59

fizz, why? If my clothes get uncomfortable it's because I've got too fat for them. And I'm not fat, but if I put on a bit of weight I can feel it.