To think that now I'm doing his washing

[cinnamonswirler]

And staying over six nights a week, I may actually have moved in?

This thread is very weird, very.

So you stay at his house,because uour husband is abusive and lives round the corner, yet your children live in your house though whilst you stay at your boyfriends but need to wash your clothes every day as you don't bring s change of clothes don't want to live out a suitcase and can't bear to wear the same clothes twice running, so you wash uour clothes there daily and put his in too.

I guess if it works for uou, it works for you, but, again, if uou need to wash your clothes daily as you say and don't keep stuff there, then no you've not moved in,

How long have you been seeing this man?

Good luck with your new relationship OP you sound really happy

Your ex sounds like a nightmare it's good that he's an ex and it's nice that your partners house feels like a safe haven for you.

Me and my DH ended up living together after he came over to stay(he worked 4 days on 4 days off)for a couple of days but he stayed for 4 days and then it came to him leaving(we lived nearly 2 hours away from each other)and he was sad about leaving and my DC were desperate for him to stay(they'd all met each other and spent alot of time together before this)so he drove home and picked up some bits for work and came back,he stayed for another couple of weeks and then after that he moved in.

We've been together ever since gone onto have another DC together and he's Dad to all of our DC and were married.

Some times it just works.

Sorry, but this all smack of 'he's not that into you'. Don't move in by stealth wait until he actually asks you. He doesn't seem to want you living there, otherwise he would not have made the comment about where you would live. Back off a little- spend less time round at his and don't do all of his housework. If he wants you round there permanently, he needs to ask you properly.

Where will your children live if your friend moves into your house?

Sorry, but this all smack of 'he's not that into you'.

Yep, that's the vibe I'm getting too. It's coming across like OP is a lot more keen than he is. Like she has latched onto him as somebody kind of saviour and she is only too glad to be of service to him and prove how useful she is so he lets her hang around.

How old are your children, OP? Don't they mind you staying out all the time?

IF YOU ARE AT YOUR BOYFRIEND'S HOUSE SIX NIGHTS A WEEK, WHEN DO YOU EVER SEE YOUR CHILDREN AND WHO IS TAKING CARE OF THEM?

Erm, no. You're running around doing his chores for him providing sex on tap without him having to commit to you actually moving in. Of course he's going to go along with it. ask him if he wants to live with you properly or not. Good luck.

where shout louder, OP can't hear you

That's why I'm shouting [GRIN]

I don't think you can be said to have moved in if you also have your own place, no matter how much time you spend at his.

MY DC OF 20 AND 22 DO NOT NEED ME HOLDING THEIR HANDS 24/7

I think it was an easy mistake to make thinking you had young children considering you said 'if either of us have our children' that suggests you're looking after them.

Can I also just say, I have never once mentioned sex, but it's been implied quite heavily that that is all he's in it for. I would never presume to guess or judge anyone's sexual status or proclivity.

I still find it unbelievably bizarre that 95% of people on here would not shove a load of washing in or cook some dinner. I've also never mentioned his expectation that I would do it.

There seems to be a great deal of presumption and hype over issues that have been guessed at.

I truly thank those who have read and taken the time to post for me with thoughtful answers.

Blunt - of course I have stuff there, which is why I'm doing my washing

My, haven't your children grown fast! Your eldest was only 15 in October.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/a2752884-relationship-with-sister

There seems to be a great deal of presumption and hype over issues that have been guessed at.

Possibly because so many of your posts don't make sense/are vague, and you have drip fed epically, leaving posters to their own conclusions.

Does it not tell you something that 95% of posters on this thread find it 'unbelievably bizarre' that you would cook/clean/wash in someone else's house?

My, haven't your children grown fast! Your eldest was only 15 in October

My what a big nose you have OP.

Oh Gloria, that is not the case - again highly amusing!!

Umm OP that's exactly what your previous post says...

Also you still haven't clarified the point of this thread - if you don't see a problem with any of it, what's your issue?

Come on, OP, your story is all over the place. You clearly wrote about your kids earlier in a way that implied they were not adults. I think it's you being 'highly amusing'...

You think it's amusing that in October your eldest was 15 and now they're 22?

Time wasters really piss me off.

It's a really lame attempt, too...