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To buy stuff on a 70% chance our baby is a girl!?

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Crisscrosscranky · 03/01/2017 14:32

Had scan this morning (12+5). Sonographer asked if we'd like to know gender of the baby and that it looked as though baby was a girl. She seemed preeeeety certain. I've attached a couple of the photos but I don't understand the nub theory or what bit your supposed to look at so they mean nothing to me in that respect!

Saw midwife straight after and she seemed surprised sonographer would have said anything at all at such an early scan & that it was only a 70% chance she completely pissed on my chips.

Everything in my being wants to be sensible and wait to buy anything but it wouldn't be unreasonable to buy one pretty sleepsuit would it...?! Blush

To buy stuff on a 70% chance our baby is a girl!?
To buy stuff on a 70% chance our baby is a girl!?
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smellyboot · 03/01/2017 19:51

Im another that thinks gender stereo types do matter and make a huge difference. I hate the naff messages you see on so much stuff.

JustanotherMortificado · 03/01/2017 19:58

But it goes with the majority that's all most people like girly things for girls and blue for boys it's life. There is someone at the school who has a pink butterfly girly buggy for her son and TBH it looks odd. Girls are petite and prettier so the prettier clothes suit them more.
My dd did have a blue pair of trainers last year though as she had a blue flowery raincoat I wanted to matchGrin

Tastesjustlikecherrycola85 · 03/01/2017 20:00

Was told at 17 weeks most likely a girl as she couldn't see any bits, 3 weeks later found out we were having a boy, bought wallpaper we found on sale which had to be taken back Blush

smellyboot · 03/01/2017 20:13

My DD was neither petite or a pretty baby !!

Oysterbabe · 03/01/2017 20:29

I wouldn't buy anything at 12 weeks. There's a long way to go and I'd get through the anomaly scan first.
Maybe a little window shopping for now?

Barefootcontessa84 · 03/01/2017 20:38

I agree with PPs - it's not really about whether the sonographer guessed the sex correctly, 12 weeks is still very early to start buying things. You'll have more certainty of the health of the baby (and the sex!) at the 20 week scan - I'd hold out if I were you.

KatharinaRosalie · 03/01/2017 20:41

Girls are petite and prettier - well my DS and DD have clearly missed this memo

nolongersurprised · 03/01/2017 20:41

I agree too early to be definitive etc but that is a very very girly nub.

schmack · 03/01/2017 20:44

I was told with all my boy dc that they were most likely boys, one was 11 weeks the others 12 weeks. The 11 weeks was 12 years ago! I don't think it is that early really with modern machines.

schmack · 03/01/2017 20:45

but I also waited til the 20 week scan 😃 apart from one teeny pair of socks which I still have.

ALLthedinosaurs · 03/01/2017 20:56

Here's a genuine picture of me as a baby.
As you can see, petite AND pretty

To buy stuff on a 70% chance our baby is a girl!?
Soubriquet · 03/01/2017 20:57

Aww dinosaurs look at those big purple eyes. How sweet Grin

thesleepystorm · 03/01/2017 20:57

Girls are petite and prettier

MaryPoppinsPenguins · 03/01/2017 20:59

My DD's were neither petite or pretty at birth!! They were huge!!! Shock

MaryPoppinsPenguins · 03/01/2017 21:00

I mean... of course now they're gawjus!! 😂

corythatwas · 03/01/2017 21:03

Even if you like girly things, does every single item you buy have to be bright pink? Can't you find something nice to buy that could do for either sex? Would it hurt your little girl if she got something in yellow or green or orange?

zukiecat · 03/01/2017 21:28

OP If you want to buy a pretty sleep suit then just buy one!

I went out and bought a couple of pink things as soon as I knew I was pregnant with both DDs, I didn't go mad, just bought a couple of pink sleepsuits

I desperately wanted a girl and refused to buy neutral or blue things

I know that's not the done thing on here, but it was harming no-one for me to buy a couple of things (nothing expensive) and the rest when DDs arrived

reallyanotherone · 03/01/2017 21:34

But it goes with the majority that's all most people like girly things for girls and blue for boys

Or are they just socially conditioned to think that?

I find it really interesting how people think my dd is "petite and pretty" in a dress, but in jeans and jumpers she suddenly has an entire personality transplant and is rough and tumble, needs to burn off energy, i have my hands full, little monkey etc.

But the amount of people that simply do not believe she is a girl, because she has short hair, is staggering. They will argue with me. When she was tiny i'd have people telling me off and taking the piss for letting my little boy wear his sisters clothes outside the house.

That's how ingrained stereotypes are. And more harmful because people believe them.

Beth2511 · 03/01/2017 21:38

ti be fair my boy was bloody obvious at 12 weeks.

girls are notorious for being less accurate. most the mistakes are 'girls' actually beijg 'boys'

Artandco · 03/01/2017 21:41

Yep stereotypes. I have two boys, as babies and toddlers both were blue eyed with blonde hair (still are), and hair in long curled locks. Neither in blue or pink. But everyone presumabed they were girls.

'Oh aren't you lucky you have two well behaved girls, could have been a nightmare is boys'

'Oh your girls are so polite and patient, lucky you girls not boys'

Etc etc. When I politely would say ' oh they are both boys actually', then they would say ' oh just you wait then until they 3 years and wrecking things, 6 years and tearing around, teenagers and off smoking and uncontactable.. or whatever. As if their future suddenly became horrific

BackforGood · 03/01/2017 21:53

Personally I wouldnt start buying clothes at 12 weeks, full stop.

When you do though - and if this is your first I really wouldn't as people buy you clothes as gifts, and also offer you things their little ones have outgrown - you don't have to choose pink or blue, there are a LOT of colours out there you know. Many of us didn't know the sex of our babies until they were born, and managed perfectly well.

KatharinaRosalie · 03/01/2017 21:56

I have a short haired, big and strong toddler DD. Conversations at soft plays usually go like that:
Mum to her DC about my DD: Come on darling, let the boy have a go too!
Me: thanks! She's a girl actually.
Mum: Oh. Darling, careful, be gentle with the little girl!

DD did not change but suddenly she's a delicate flower..

BuntyCollocks · 03/01/2017 22:16

I'm very good with nub theory - definitely looks like a girl to me. I would stock up. Congrats!

1pink4blue · 03/01/2017 22:24

When pregnant with my last baby i had a cvs at 12 weeks and at the scan before the cvs test she asked me if i wanted to know the sex of the baby and i said ok so she yells me im having ds5 she said it was only a 40 per cent chance though but it defenetly looked like a boy.
I got the cvs results a few days later its a girl even the genetics doctor laughed and said the sonographer was very sure that it was a boy.

TonyMacaroni · 03/01/2017 22:26

You can buy the pink sleep suit as long as you call her Clive ok?