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To lie about reason for implant removal.

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4men1lady · 03/01/2017 10:12

There was a thread yesterday about getting the implant removed earlier than the expiry date and after seeing some replies, it has made me think twice about being honest about the reason for asking for it to be removed.

I've had it in since October, and ever since I have been so so down in the dumps, horrendous mood swings to the point I can feel my chest tighten with the stress. I can go days and days without leaving the house, it take a hell of a lot to make a meal and I'd quite happily stay in pjs all day.
I've put a lot of weight on, I know it's been Xmas so should expect a few pounds etc but it's going on quite quickly and coming off really really slowly.

I have two small children so I just can't live with very little motivation and I feel I am not doing my best by them.

The thing is, I'm worried the clinic will try and get me to stick it out a bit longer so I was thinking of telling them we've had a complete change of mind and we want to try for another baby. This isn't true, we do want to try later on in the year but not just yet. I have 6 months of my pill already at home so will just continue with that!

Wwyd? Be completely honest and not take no for an answer or lie?

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SummerHouse · 03/01/2017 10:15

I would be honest. Don't know why really. Good luck op. You should not go on like this.

ImLadybird · 03/01/2017 10:15

I'm sorry you haven't got on well with the implant. I can see the temptation to lie about your reasons but I think they need to know the truth. I don't know whether they will or not, but if they want to get a better picture of side effects, tolerance, etc. they need to be told, actually not just nationally, but for you too. It might influence their decision on what pill to put you on for example. Good luck!

LooksBetterWithAFilter · 03/01/2017 10:16

I was completely honest when I wanted mine removed after only a matter of months. I think it's a great contraceptive because I never felt like having sex ever while it was in. They kept putting me on the pill for a month or so at a time to try and stop the constant bleeding which to me defeated the whole purpose of the implant. As soon as the pill stopped the bleeding came back. It made me feel depressed and bloated and just awful.
When I went back to see about getting it removed I was honest. They tried to talk me into persevering but I was adamant. It is my body I don't like having this thing in it and I want it out. They really were pushing keeping it but when I was so adamant they really couldn't do much to refuse either.

HappyFlappy · 03/01/2017 10:18

I would do whatever seemed easier endless stressful to me whenI went in.

It's really none of their business why you want it removed - you have a valid reason.

Personally I would probably tell them the truth, but having suffered dreadful depression and mood swings myself at times, I can appreciate that you may just not want to be faced with perhaps having justify your decision and insist on removal. Is the removal a big job (i.e. general anaesthetic etc). I've never had this type of contraception, nor have I known anyone who has, so I have no idea what is involved.

It may be that it is better to tell them just in case you need to avoid particular oral contraceptives until the implant chemicals are out of your system (I am wildly guessing here, as I haven't got a clue about any of this, but would hate to think of you becoming ill).

hellsbellsmelons · 03/01/2017 10:18

Lie lie lie - they like you to keep trying for 6 months!!!!
I'd tell them all the issues you are having but also that you have moved plans for extending your family forward.
I love mine, although weight gain in an issue.
I find it's much better for older people and not really for the younger generation.

HappyFlappy · 03/01/2017 10:18

*and less, not endless

deai · 03/01/2017 10:18

its none of their business WHY you want it out anyway, really. So if lying is easier then thats fine in my opinion.
Fwiw i hated the implant too. Made me crazy and reqlly affected my mebtal health. Devil stick

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4men1lady · 03/01/2017 10:20

Thank you for your replies.
I have not had the best year for mood if I'm honest but it's gone to on whole new level.
Dh came in last night and after a few too many drinks and just looking at his pissed face made me really want to punch him right in the face. I must add that I will never be violent but the urge was definitely there!!

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OhTheRoses · 03/01/2017 10:20

They may well push you to keep it. "It isn't working for me and I want it removed please" and repeat and stay put until they agree. It is your body and you control what goes in it, not them.

Good luck.

PlayingGrownUp · 03/01/2017 10:23

I was fully honest and they took it out there and then. Same reasons too.

Mottlemoth · 03/01/2017 10:25

I would say whatever you need to say to get it removed ASAP.

Upanddownroundandround · 03/01/2017 10:26

I would tell the truth but also be forceful with them if they pressure you. Who are they to tell you what you do and don't have it your own body? It's your body OP not the nurse or doctor. They have no rights to insist that you keep it. I appreciate that it's easier to be forceful when you are feeling well and you said you are struggling but try and be strong.

Also can I encourage you to use this website yellowcard.mhra.gov.uk/
to report your symptoms. It's a way of enabling people to report back any side effects they suffer when using any medication. Side effects often go unreported and then it can take years for any research to catch up with problems with certain mediciation.

Hope you get the implant removed and feel better soon OP.

EstelleRoberts · 03/01/2017 10:27

If they try and get difficult about removing it, or pushy about 'persuading' you to keep it, just say 'I no longer consent to this treatment. Please remove it urgently'.

It is highly unethical, and potentially serious, for a medical professional to impose treatment on a patient without informed consent. I think you will find you have no further protests if you make it clear you have rescinded your consent.

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4men1lady · 03/01/2017 10:28

I think I'll go down the route of saying it just doesn't work for me.

I'll give them a ring today and see about having it removed. Thanks again.

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FortyFacedFuckers · 03/01/2017 10:36

I would never usually advise lying to the medical profession but definitely lie, I ended up having to go to a different place from where mine was put in and saying I was having it removed as it was due to expire.

lizabel12 · 03/01/2017 10:36

I was honest about it. Similar reasons as you for having it removed. I had already had a telephone consultation and arranged to come in to remove it. When I came in for the appointment she stated that she was not going to do it at that point and I need to "think about it" and book in to have it removed in 4 weeks time. I was very firm and stuck to my guns and she eventually agreed to do it that day.

Whatever you decided to tell them it's your choice and if that's what you want just be firm with them. Thinking back maybe if I had said I wanted to try for another child they wouldn't have tried to fob me off as much.

MyBreadIsEggy · 03/01/2017 10:39

My GP refused to give me an appointment to remove mine as my daughter was only 7 months old
I went to my local sexual health walk in clinic and had it taken out there and then, no questions asked.

Muppetslikecoco · 03/01/2017 10:40

I didn't realise lots of other people had also been through this! I took mine out myself in the end (very stupid I know). I would tell the truth but be forceful about it. I really like PP's line 'I no longer consent to this treatment'.

ChristmasTreeKisses · 03/01/2017 10:49

Yes I would lie.

EstelleRoberts · 03/01/2017 10:55

It is outrageous that pps have come up against refusal to remove. It is your body and your decision whether to keep it or remove it. It is NOT for a HCP to act as though they get to decide what medical treatment you have. Being explicit and using the word 'consent' openly should concentrate their minds.

DailyFail1 · 03/01/2017 10:59

Say whatever you need to, to make it happen.

Passmethecrisps · 03/01/2017 11:02

I am aghast that people have been refused removal! And muppets you removed your yourself?!?? Mine hurt and bruised badly on removal with the gp doing it. I can't imagine how much that hurt.

I had one years ago and stuck with it despite it being hideous. I bled all the time. Constantly for the three years. I may have had a few days off every month. It wasn't heavy but it was unpredictable and got me down hugely. I felt terrible, spotty and put on lots of weight.

Eventually I had it removed when it expired as I was about to get married and we wanted to start trying for a baby. Gp asked how it had gone and was flummoxed that I had left it for so long. I had no reason other than just keep trying with it. I persuaded myself it would get better and it never did.

From my experience though it was very helpful that my gp has a very clear picture of what works for me contraceptive wise and how I respond.

I would tell the truth as I hate the idea of lying to medical people but from the sound of it be prepared to fight your corner

QuestionableMouse · 03/01/2017 11:03

I had to threaten to take a pen knife to mine before they'd remove it.

Telling them you want to try for a baby seems to be the only simple way to get it removed.

SaucyJack · 03/01/2017 11:14

For those who've had it removed;

How long did it take you to go back to your "old" self, if indeed you did at all?

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4men1lady · 03/01/2017 11:16

Dh says to be honest but then when I suggest lying he think they have less reason to argue with me so perhaps will say that.

It is pretty bad that ppl have resorted to removing themselves.

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