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To lie about reason for implant removal.

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4men1lady · 03/01/2017 10:12

There was a thread yesterday about getting the implant removed earlier than the expiry date and after seeing some replies, it has made me think twice about being honest about the reason for asking for it to be removed.

I've had it in since October, and ever since I have been so so down in the dumps, horrendous mood swings to the point I can feel my chest tighten with the stress. I can go days and days without leaving the house, it take a hell of a lot to make a meal and I'd quite happily stay in pjs all day.
I've put a lot of weight on, I know it's been Xmas so should expect a few pounds etc but it's going on quite quickly and coming off really really slowly.

I have two small children so I just can't live with very little motivation and I feel I am not doing my best by them.

The thing is, I'm worried the clinic will try and get me to stick it out a bit longer so I was thinking of telling them we've had a complete change of mind and we want to try for another baby. This isn't true, we do want to try later on in the year but not just yet. I have 6 months of my pill already at home so will just continue with that!

Wwyd? Be completely honest and not take no for an answer or lie?

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ParadiseCity · 03/01/2017 11:18

I'd tell the truth repeatedly again and again repeatedly again and again.

Hope you feel better soon x

BlueKarou · 03/01/2017 11:22

I had mine removed - just told them I'd had it 6 or 9 months (not sure which; it was a while ago) and it was messing with my moods. It also made me put on weight, but that might have been my eating more to combat the horrid moods, rather than anything physiological.

Just remember you're not asking for it to be removed, you're stating that you want it removed; you are perfectly within your rights to make that decision.

WitchesGlove · 03/01/2017 11:24

If you can afford private, Marie Stopes is very good and will probably just remove it, and find something better for you. Good luck

elvisola · 03/01/2017 11:29

I was awful with mine, constant rage, bled for 4 months straight, no sex drive.

The dr wouldn't take it out until I had it for a year so I took myself to the family planning clinic who took it out there and then no questions asked.

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4men1lady · 03/01/2017 11:31

Thanks everyone!
It's crazy, I'm a hcp and really encourage my patients to be assertive in their choices for treatment but when it comes to doing it myself I have potential to be a proper wimp!!

Honestly, moods have been that bad I've even rung British gas just so I can have an argument with someone if dh isn't about! To be fair British gas have been a pita!!

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4men1lady · 03/01/2017 11:34

Luckily no bleeding for me at all, but to make matters worse I've woken up to big bertha sitting quite smug on my forehead! I haven't had a spot for about 20 years Angry

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ALittleMop · 03/01/2017 11:35

Hi OP - I would say do whatever you need to do, it sounds unbearable.

That you should have to contemplate lying is dreadful.

I am outraged that so many posters are having their wishes disregarded.

Could you just be very assertive, if need be OP?

hollyisalovelyname · 03/01/2017 11:39

I think it's really important they know WHY you want it out.
They need to know the problems caused by it.
Perhaps lots of people also have these problems and there is an issue with the implant.

Passmethecrisps · 03/01/2017 11:40

saucy I don't remember exactly and some of it may have been psychosomatic but I think I felt instant relief at having the damned thing out and the random bleeding etc stopped within one to two weeks.

Honestly though my gp was appalled that I had or up with it for so long. I had gone to talk about the constant bleeding and was temporarily put on another medication which stopped it but was told it could only be a short term solution.

I can't have the pill at all so I think I was scared of having it taken out and being left with no options. One gp (not my normal one) suggested the coil to me, which as a childless woman I was freaked out by enormously for some reason.

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4men1lady · 03/01/2017 11:41

In the right prepared to kill mood yes I can be very assertive but if the appointment falls on a day where I am fragile, i would probably agree to anything they say!!

I'll give them a ring when I've got dc to sleep and update on what they say!!

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Passmethecrisps · 03/01/2017 11:44

I am exactly the same. Good luck!

butterfliesandzebras · 03/01/2017 11:51

I think I would only lie if I encountered resistance, rather than assume they were going to be a problem from the outset.

Then again I didn't bother to go to the gp to get mine removed, just popped in to the local gum clinic and had it removed there and then (I checked they did removal by phone first and they said just turn up). They didn't ask why, just asked if I needed any other contraception etc (which I didn't as I was trying for a baby).

I got on really well with my implant though, no problems and wished I had tried it years ago.

TheWoodlander · 03/01/2017 11:57

I'd probably lie if I couldn't be bothered with any kind of argument.

You could do both - say you want it out to TTC and then follow up with "but you know, I've never been happy with it, because I've had side effects xyz..."

Tenshidarkangel · 03/01/2017 12:00

I was honest -

Told them if they didn't take it out I'd do it for them. Funnily it worked.... :D

mummydawn07 · 03/01/2017 12:04

I had he exact same experience with my implant, it's actually nice to know I am not the only one who had these problems as everyone I know has been fine with it! I had mine removed after a year of having it in.. I had awful mood swings, went from a size 8 to a 12 in this time, it made me feel really depressed I cried everyday over really silly things that wouldn't normally bother me.. it turned me into a hormonal monster and people started avoiding me because of it, anyway I booked an appointment at the doctors for it to be removed, she asked why and I told her the truth, no problems having it removed.. I just made it perfectly cleat to the doctor I hated it and was not going to have it any longer, went back on the pill best decision I ever made!! also a friend of mine had her removed at the local walk in centre and sexual health clinics remove them too I believe, so there's more than one option if you don't want to get it done at you GP. good luck OP I hope you get it removed I think the thing is an evil bit of plastic and now left with 2 scars on my arm because of it

KungFuPandaWorksOut16 · 03/01/2017 12:07

I got refusal with mine, I was honest and explained how I didn't feel like myself anymore it was like I was another person. I sobbed my bloody heart out in that GPs office. Got told give it another 6 months, I'd already had it 8 months
(Stopped my periods, but Jesus the mood swings im surprised DH didn't run for the hills they was that bad)

I went too a walk in clinic, lied said I wanted a baby. Had it taken out a week later Grin

It was awkward going to my doctors for the pill, the nurse was confused as to how I had managed to have the implant out when it was on the system I was told no. I laughed and told her what I did. She actually said she didn't blame me, and has had a lot of women leave deflated when told no. So when they see her for an app she'll sort of drop hints that she can agree to remove it if they are trying for a baby - they catch the drift quite quickly. Apparently the implant and coil are meant to be quiet expensive so they like you too keep them in til they expired!

mummydawn07 · 03/01/2017 12:12

SaucyJack I felt immediately better when I had mine out but that was just knowing it wasn't in anymore, I was feeling better after a week and didn't cry, I don't feel like I ever got back to my "old self" but I definitely go better, but still can't seem to shift the weight I put on with it that was the worst for me and makes me feel really down, so I am just focusing on losing weight

KanyeWesticle · 03/01/2017 12:17

I don't recommend my method at all - and hope your doctor removes it for you at your request, without making you lie about it. I do feel like with so many stories here, there's a problem nationally with HCP's not listening to women.
With my implant I had constant bleeding. For 9 months. It caused iron deficiency, which they were treating, but they wouldn't take the implant out. They were sure the bleeding was unrelated - tested for STDs etc, but I knew it was the implant. I kept going back, but they still refused. I was tired, emotional, regularly fainting at work and at home. I agree with those above, it's a great contraceptive because I wouldn't let DP near me!

After yet another appointment (6 requests in total) and 9 months bleeding, I attempted to remove it myself in the bathroom, and ended up at A and E. Justifiably, that got me some mental health assessments, and - but I was clear headed, and certain I had to get it out one way or another. I'm much healthier mentally without it, that's for sure.

Tell the truth - once. Give your doctor a chance - they might be a good one. If that doesn't work, rebook immediately and lie. Whatever it takes.

OhTheRoses · 03/01/2017 12:18

Are they being clear at the outset though that they might refuse to remove it on request. If not, the refusal is surely a form of abuse because informed consent wasn't obtained at the outset.

ACubed · 03/01/2017 12:19

Sorry to hear about everyone's bad experiences. I'm really really surprised to hear all this - has anyone really insisted they want it removed and been told no? If so I would make a formal complaint , as that is completely unprofessional and immoral. I talked to my partner who works for them NHS and he couldn't believe it either! Really bad form.

KanyeWesticle · 03/01/2017 12:19

Oh, and the bleeding stopped in a week, the fainting in 3, and the anaemia in 5 weeks. It was definitely the implant.

expatinscotland · 03/01/2017 12:27

I'd lie.

littlemissneela · 03/01/2017 12:59

Must tell them the truth. I had mine removed due to invreasing migraines. They did want me to stick it out for a bit longer but I was insistant and they did it for me. Not worth lying, as it goes on your record as to why you had it removed and it mught make it difficult for you to get certain meds later on in life as they might feel they would affect you in the same way that the impalnt did.

expatinscotland · 03/01/2017 13:01

'Not worth lying, as it goes on your record as to why you had it removed and it mught make it difficult for you to get certain meds later on in life as they might feel they would affect you in the same way that the impalnt did.'

Eh? No, they won't.

Pineapplemilkshake · 03/01/2017 13:04

I would just be honest, I don't see why there would be any issue having it removed early. I'm a GP and in my area, implant removals and insertions are an enhanced service that we can claim a fee for - it's about £84 for implant removal AFAIK. Sounds like a lot, but in reality it has to cover my extra indemnity costs, nursing time etc