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To lie about reason for implant removal.

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4men1lady · 03/01/2017 10:12

There was a thread yesterday about getting the implant removed earlier than the expiry date and after seeing some replies, it has made me think twice about being honest about the reason for asking for it to be removed.

I've had it in since October, and ever since I have been so so down in the dumps, horrendous mood swings to the point I can feel my chest tighten with the stress. I can go days and days without leaving the house, it take a hell of a lot to make a meal and I'd quite happily stay in pjs all day.
I've put a lot of weight on, I know it's been Xmas so should expect a few pounds etc but it's going on quite quickly and coming off really really slowly.

I have two small children so I just can't live with very little motivation and I feel I am not doing my best by them.

The thing is, I'm worried the clinic will try and get me to stick it out a bit longer so I was thinking of telling them we've had a complete change of mind and we want to try for another baby. This isn't true, we do want to try later on in the year but not just yet. I have 6 months of my pill already at home so will just continue with that!

Wwyd? Be completely honest and not take no for an answer or lie?

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expatinscotland · 03/01/2017 21:54

'Expat - I said I don't see why HCP's should refuse to remove it. Clearly some still do refuse, which is wrong IMO. I personally have never refused a removal, or insisted on a mandatory time that the woman should keep it in for. I can only speak for myself however. I think if I were a patient and a HCP refused to remove it, I would complain. And then move to a different practice, if possible.'

I would, too, Pineapple, but many wouldn't or couldn't. And believe me, I've been here a long time, it's a big issue. I was fobbed off for 10 months, with a Mirena coil that caused constant bleeding (put on the pill and it would lessen or stop and then come back), cystic acne which has left scars on my face, complete loss of libido, and worst of all, very low mood, which put me in a poor position to assert having it removed.

This is why I have been on so many of these threads. Works well for 85-90% of users but if you are in the percentage for whom it does not you can often face very great opposition or, as you have seen, outright refusal to have it removed and even told others will make a decision about treatment to which you no longer consent. This should never happen in an adult of sentient mind. You should not be forced to tolerate treatment to which you do not consent, as an adult of sound mind.

Yet it happens, as you see here and again, if you do research even on this site, you will see it is far from rare.

cocopopsrock · 03/01/2017 22:20

After almost 20 years I came off all chemical contraception 5 months ago and it's the best thing I've ever done.
I have a higher sex drive, I've lost weight, I'm less depressed / stressed / crazy lol!
I use an app called Ovia fertility. It's for people who are trying to get pregnant.. I just use it for the opposite reason lol! It highlights your fertile window and gives you a fertility score every day. During fertile days we avoid sex or use another method of contraception. You should consider it, I'm so glad I did

brotherhoodofspam · 03/01/2017 22:39

As a GP who inserts and removes implants I'm horrified at these posts about difficult having it removed due to side effects. I would have a discussion with you about your options, particularly if the main problem was bleeding as there's sometimes things that can help with that till it settles and let you make an informed decision about what you want to do. If the issue is mood swings though it's unlikely to improve and I would usually remove it unless you were keen to persevere. I'm amazed that HCPs think it's ok to treat people like this and would hope it was exceptional though perhaps not from the number of posts. To the poster upthread who asked why we still use it when there are so many problems, a lot of people don't have problems and for them it's a great, hassle free, reliable option. For those that do, they should be able to decide for themselves when to remove it. OP you won't have to pay, that's a payment the surgery gets from NHS for providing an additional service. Good luck tomorrow.

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4men1lady · 03/01/2017 22:44

Thanks everyone.

I will update after tomorrow's consultation.
I maybe worrying over nothing but the receptionists comments are still pissing me off!

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ScarletSienna · 03/01/2017 23:26

4men, I just had mine removed tonight. I enquired about it this morning and then went to a drop in sexual health clinic at the GP surgery. The nurse asked why I wanted it removed but only so she could then tailor her advice. I have had implants for 14 years now and no problems whatsoever (no periods either) so I love them but I would hate thinking I had to battle to get something that I no longer wanted out of my body. Looking forward to your update. Good luck.

kelj2 · 03/01/2017 23:37

I would be honest. I recently had one put in and when it was put in they told me if at any time I want it taken out I can and it's my choice. They did tell me if I had any symptoms I didn't like to just come back and take it out. I also think if you be honest they could help find something else that may work better for you (that's if you want it)

ToriaPumpkin · 03/01/2017 23:59

I walked into a walk in sexual health clinic and insisted they removed mine after my GP had refused to remove it twice and insisted I let it "settle down". I had a similar experience with a coil and was considering removing it myself but managed to get a lift to the same clinic (I couldn't have driven myself due to the pain I was in). Again my GP had told me I should let it settle in. For over a year. A year of pain and bleeding and depression. Tell them whatever you want OP, but don't let them fob you off. It's your uterus. You get to decide what's inside it.

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4men1lady · 04/01/2017 15:28

I've not long been for my consultation and I was worrying over nothing. I was honest about the side effects and how I couldn't carry on with the implant any longer so I'm booked in Friday for removal.

I did consider lying but I thought I'd better learn on being assertive but turns out I didn't need to be.

Thanks for all your experiences, quite shocking how some have resorted to removing it themselves.

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hellsbellsmelons · 04/01/2017 15:30

Well done - glad you had an understand person listening to you.
Hope you get your old self back very soon.

expatinscotland · 04/01/2017 17:47

Whew! SO glad for you, OP.

OhTheRoses · 04/01/2017 19:28

That's such good news. Well done you. Good luck on Friday and hope you feel much better very soon x

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4men1lady · 04/01/2017 19:30

Ahh thank you

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Charlie97 · 04/01/2017 20:09

Oh god, I got mine removed for the same reason! I couldn't even make a decision what to dress the children in each day! It really messed with me!

Just tell them and.be firm.

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4men1lady · 04/01/2017 20:12

Same for me Charlie..couldn't decide what to make the children for tea and I'm too ashamed to admit some of the meals they've had to endure because my lack of motivation and just don't give a shit attitude

I actually feel a lot better already just knowing It's coming out.

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EstelleRoberts · 04/01/2017 23:31

Great news that you didn't have to fight for it!

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