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Original poster

U to make son's girlfriend cook?

115 replies

WearyM · 02/01/2017 19:06

I have my ds and his gf staying at the moment, they've been here nearly a week, and we have another week to go...they'e both 25 by the way. I'm a nurse, and work shifts and I am flipping tired. Am I unreasonable in asking her and ds to make the meals for the rest of the time they are here?

OP posts:
Lugeeta · 02/01/2017 19:16

You should ask your son to cook! Not his guest. If he can't do it it's because his parents haven't taught him?!

Original poster
WearyM · 02/01/2017 19:17

True about the ground rules. I feel unreasonably annoyed when I see them on the sofa when I get in from work - it's a small house!

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Fartleks · 02/01/2017 19:17

Ask him to cook. He's the one who clearly needs to learn. Give him a couple of recipe books and some cash to go buy ingredients.

ConvincingLiar · 02/01/2017 19:18

Why can't he cook? Presumably he could follow the instructions on an oven tea?

Blacksox · 02/01/2017 19:19

She's a guest so I wouldn't be asking her to cook. She might volunteer, but it would be rude to ask her, imo.

Your son however, at 25, should be more than capable of cooking several different meals.

SuburbanRhonda · 02/01/2017 19:19

Why aren't you answering people who say you should make him cook? And how do you know she doesn't just cook pies?

Fartleks · 02/01/2017 19:20

hes the one who failed to be taught how to cook. Might as well start now as it's an important life skill he should know.

Original poster
WearyM · 02/01/2017 19:20

He can actually follow a recipe, I've probably done him a disservice with my pies comment

OP posts:
Fartleks · 02/01/2017 19:21

Don't ask her to cook.

RacoonBandit · 02/01/2017 19:22

What if she is a shit cook too? Why is that only an excuse for your son?

Or his it because she is a women you expect her to do the cooking Hmm

I am so grateful to exmil and dps mum as both the men in my life could cook, taught at a young age by their mums, and did not expect me to do it just because of my sex.

ChuckSnowballs · 02/01/2017 19:23

Did you not teach him to cook when he was growing up?

SuburbanRhonda · 02/01/2017 19:23

I couldn't find a man attractive if he couldn't cook.

user1483046088 · 02/01/2017 19:24

Yes both need to pull there weight

Fartleks · 02/01/2017 19:24

See it as a life lesson for him then. Give him the whole food budget cash for the week. Give him a recipe book. Give him a time you'd like to eat. Give him lots of encouragement.

PullThePebble · 02/01/2017 19:25

Did you reach/show him how to cook as he was growing up?

His gf is a guest. The onus is on your son to cook.

Tell him to google it and get cracking.

Longdistance · 02/01/2017 19:26

Get them to get a take away if he won't cook.

EweAreHere · 02/01/2017 19:27

They are adults. Of course they should be feeding themselves under the circumstances. Both should be cooking.

Fartleks · 02/01/2017 19:27

'BBC good food' has excellent recipes if he prefers to look at things online

scottishdiem · 02/01/2017 19:28

Well you dont need to cook for them at all and let them work it out.....

expatinscotland · 02/01/2017 19:28

He's been an adult for 7 years. He CBA'd to learn to cook. It's not rocket science, btw.

Sybys · 02/01/2017 19:28

She's a guest. I'd ask him to cook; he can always ask him to help (or she might offer), but as she's his guest I think its ultimately his responsibility.

RedMapleLeaf · 02/01/2017 19:28

Why on earth did you word your title like that?

I wouldn't ask her to cook as she's more of a guest. Just tell him and it's up to them two how they sort it out.

ILoveDolly · 02/01/2017 19:28

I'm surprised they haven't offered, seeing as they've planned to stay two whole weeks. I agree you need to ask them both as if your son is a crap cook that's on you really. It's the gf who is the guest, imho. Son should be at least offering to help.

harderandharder2breathe · 02/01/2017 19:29

Yabu to ask her to cook and not him

Yanbu to ask both of them to cook or even tell them they need to

goose1964 · 02/01/2017 19:30

If it was my DIL I'd be running for cover if she cooked, DS is the cook in their house, I've had DD and her hubby staying and they cook every so often ,but it's easier for DH to cook. However if you bwant them to cook just ask nicely