AIBU: The threads that annoy you most

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Like those where the OP writes hardly anything and expects others to entertain them.

Now you go.

Cherry one slightly homophobic comment well yes, NC in response to that would be quite extreme.

But that's not really what people post about. And no, you don't just have to put up with it.

Cherry I agree wholeheartedly with your next post though!

Ones where the OP says 'a family member'. It won't out you if you say it was your brother ffs.

Any thread where a poster says 'that's just lazy parenting'. It is invariably said in relation to people who do things differently not to people who are, in fact, neglectful parents. So the accusation is levelled at eg someone who showers their child in the morning instead of bathing them at night. And someone will come along and say that a night time bath is the most basic of childcare (on a par with feeding and speaking to said child) and not doing it us simply lazy parenting. Getting washed in the morning will result in a lifetime of attachment problems, lack of discipline and failure to attend a Russell Group university. Or something.

Partners with mysterious, unspecified hobbies with fixed days/times that can't be changed thus preventing them ever being there for children's bedtime. Or an activity, "think football but not quite" can't say as it will out me.

I hate it when posters read an OP and because they can relate to something posted they take it as a personal insult or something.

E.g. OP says "My sister wants to have Christmas with my DM without me. AIBU to be upset at being excluded?"

Poster replies "YABU, we always have Christmas without my siblings and no one complains."

Right but... This post wasn't about you or your family was it? Can you really not imagine a situation where something that works for your family is upsetting in another?

I get fed up that rarely can one report questionable or wrongful actions of SS without people insisting it's all rumours spread by: conspiracists this, conspiracists that. As if people can't just relay some of their own experiences without it being part of a conspiracy.

Posters who are sorry but they're just not seeing the problem. I.e.:

So, your mil came round at a time you personally hadn't ordained, kindly took the children out but without asking your permission as you were in the loo, gave them a lovely time which you apparently personally wouldn't have chosen because you personally wouldn't spend all day in Betfred, kindly brought them back 3 days later, having generously fed them candy floss (fine as a one off treat for lunch breakfast and tea) and with tattoos? And you are complaining about this why? Sorry op, I'm just not seeing the problem here!

I actually find this more irritating than 'go NC, she has had her chance to be a mother now' I think!

Threads about other people's children who gaze stupidly at tablets in restaurants with their tongues poking out of the corner of their mouths.

tibba YES!!

"My DH's hobby takes him out most weekends, plus 10 nights a week for training. This hobby has specialist equipment, that we had to sell our third child to pay for. This hobby is done outside, mostly. but sometimes the hobby can be indoors. or not. "

It's like some really rubbish quiz!

I never know why they don't just say "My DH goes paddle boarding/bike riding/crossdresses..."

No threads, and indeed no things, annoy me. I honestly can't manage to summon up the energy to get my knickers in a twist about any of the things ordinary people might. I guess I'm just very laid back. Or have better things to think about.

(Those posts annoy me)

I'm slightly irrational here but I get frustrated with parking threads where the OP gets some sensible advice (as well as some that is dangerous or illegal ) but actually has no intention of following it and just comes up with excuses for doing nothing so the thread just kind of dies. But I accept that I'm just a drama queen so I need something to happen.

Oh and these 'what words or phrases do you hate' threads that feel almost monthly. I participated in one but then realised they're so regular and it feels like I see the same list on each page.

Posters who are so determined that the abuser is to blame that they think if the victim wants to put herself in harm's way, she has that right. No, get the victim in a safe place, then (rightfully) blast the perpetrator.

OP: Ho can I get my 12/13/14 year old son to pick up his clothes/tidy his room/clear up after himself?
MN: That's ridiculous! My son is only four and I have already shown him how to pick up his clothes/tidy his room/clear up after himself. It's non-negotiable and he thinks it's fun. I know that he will not change because I have firmly laid down the ground rules. You have failed, OP.

Cathf there is a lot of that here. I can't stand it. It's so up one's own arse and they're probably lying anyway.

No things annoy you? Are you sure your brain is working? :o

Don't you have better things to do? and/or And yet you have time to start a thread

People who write this must, I assume, find thinking and typing very difficult. I find it very easy to start a thread. Hardly any effort at all. Lah di dah. Just the work of a moment. Not something that requires strong emotions or setting aside an appointment in my calendar.

I agree cathf and pictish

I also roll my eyes when I hear people say 'get your children to help with the chores. My 4 year old does the dusting while the six year old vacuums and they both fold and put away their own clothes after my 9 year old has done the ironing.

a) I don't believe you

b) children of that age will be shit at housework and probably make more of a mess than they solve, by spraying too much polish everywhere and than trying to vacuum the cat.

c) I still don't believe you.

My 3 year old prepares the family meal every Thursday - he really looks forward to it and thinks it's fun! It's not hard, OP - just lay the ground rules!

That said, I cannot get het up about this.

My personal bugbear is those posters who take the bare bones of an OP and construct an entirely imagined scenario around it, padding it out with whatever they dream up and then go on to post with rude conviction in their version of events as though they had actually been there themselves.

That really annoys me.

Seek, oh dear, you've left it rather late, haven't you? My children were cooking to Michelin star level while still in the womb. Still, there's always room for late developers, isn't there.

Threads where a zillion people pile in to tell someone who is a size 10 and weighs nine stone that actually they are morbidly obese, because a modern day size 10 was a size 22 in the 80s and people were, quite rightly, ashamed to leave the house if they were that size and it's the availability of clothes in gigantic sizes that is making all these size 10 people think they are healthy when actually they are deluded. If the OP ventures to feebly say that their doctor says they have a healthy BMI they will then be told that actually unless you are underweight according to BMI figures you're still dangerously fat, and doctors are just too cowardly to tell patients the truth.

Er, where did I say this was a recent thing, Gaspode? Can you direct me to the post where I said that?

If you are 38.8, a size 10 on top but an 8 on the bottom, and 5'4.5, how much do you weigh?

whispers to Seek Ask her for a peer-reviewed study as proof.