To think this is unbelievably tight for a wedding?

[StingyWedding]

Recently attending a wedding of a friend. Amongst various other issues on the day I just felt it was a very poor and stingy wedding, at the reception they had a "hot chocolate bar" - they were charging for this (and tea, and coffee....)

Photo attached which they have proudly displayed on their Facebook.

Am I wrong to think of you invite people to a wedding you actually host and therefore provide for your guests? Not expecting a free bar but some table wine and soft drinks surely?

I'm definitely "sodding off" from the next wedding that wants me to travel, pay accomodation, pay for food and drink and wants cash for gifts.

Did someone touch a nerve, Santas?

We provided all drinks soft and alcoholic,

'Toilet paper will be provided at 10p a sheet'

'You can have two pumps of handwash for free however'.

So fucking what?! It's their wedding. You go to see them get married, not for how many free drinks you can score.
I've never been to a hot chocolate/tea wedding, but I think it's a nice idea.
Maybe they want to get married but can't afford a paid bar?
How is it any different to buying your own wine/beer at the wedding reception hotel?
As nearly every single wedding I've been to you've bought your own drinks (with one bought for you as a toast.)
It's the wedding that's important. Not all the trimmings. I think some people lose sight of that.

It's the wedding that's important should read marriage. Not wedding. Gah.
Too busy ranting at grabby people to realise before pressing send.

And what is the difference between paying £2.50 for a hot drink, compared to spending the same on a bottle of beer?

Many people cannot afford free bars these days so guests expected to buy their own booze, why is it so different to pay for a hot drink?

Without this extra 'hot drink bar' - there may well have been no hot drinks at all on offer, or the possibility of buying a cuppa from behind the bar

This thread was posted in AIBU to discuss the meanness of the wedding couple. I actually think the OP should ask herself "AIBU for discussing this on an open forum".

Whatever happened at the wedding, should stay at the wedding regardless.

This is social media at it's worst...

If you can't afford to even provide a cup of tea then don't invite guests. Presumably they didn't refuse any gifts given to them? So happy for their guests to shell out for them, but not happy to treat their guests as, y'know, actual guests?

Yeah, so GRABBY to expect a cup of tea at a wedding. You rant on pet.

ON THE DAY, it is the wedding that is important - sorry I thought this thread was about the wedding day, I didn't realise we were talking about the rest of their lives in that case let me rephrase, it IS the marriage that is important.

I think the couple need to rethink their friends. As they aren't really friends.

How petty can a person get if spending £2.50 causes them to slate their ''friend'' on the most important day of their lives

Santa - potluck and BYOB weddings are brilliant. Paying over the odds for a cup of tea isn't.

Why do threads about weddings make people hysterical

'How petty can a person get if spending £2.50 causes them to slate their ''friend'' on the most important day of their lives'

And exactly how petty can a couple be to charge their guests, £2.50 for a cup of tea?

Shockingly mean spirited behaviour.

Mitzy would you think it so bad to spend £2.50 on, say a bottle of beer - at the bar ?

Love a BYOB wedding. One of the best weddings I ever attended was a BYOB and bring some grub wedding.

Ok so why would you expect free tea, but be happy to provide your own alcohol (at a BYOB)?

I'm dead jealous I weren't invited to that wedding. Sounds like a right old knees up. (Puts tongue in cheek, obvs)

Who's hysterical, Santa?

Some people don't think you should have made your guests (hint: clue is in the word) pay to attend your wedding. No one is being hysterical.

It's very simple. Because everyone knew the couple had a teeny budget and everyone was happy to chip in. There was no pretense of a grand wedding and then a sneaky 'oh that will be £2.50 for the tea Auntie Maud'.

Be clear from the outset as to the kind of wedding you're planning. Don't throw a superficially grand wedding and then try and claw back every penny from your guests. That is very bad hosting.

Most of know you can buy an awful lot of teabags for 2 quid...

Alcohol is always expensive. It is possible to rustle up a cup of tea extremely cheaply. If you don't have the wit to be able to provide guests with tea, which the local church can provide for free every Sunday after a service, then you don't deserve to have friends travel miles to attend your wedding. Your big day is not that fucking special to anyone else...

Jigglytuff The hint is in the OP - did you read it?

The guests were not ''charged to attend''

The guests were charged for their own drinks.

That is all it was, no need to add any extra for the sake of drama

Mitzy,

Hmm

You are just debating out of thin air based on assumption and presumption on a pair of complete strangers..unless obviously you personally know the bride and groom

how do we KNOW this was a grand wedding? how do we know that guests were not previously told they need to purchase drinks?

We don't. So just stop

Santa. You're sounding a bit hysterical there.

Why has this upset you so much?

I just find judgemental behaviour extremely ugly. Especially when people are jumping on the bandwagon to judge complete strangers that they know - oh wait - nothing about!

Judging always says more about you, than them