My daughter wants short hair

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My dd is 3. She's never had her hair cut and it's diwn to her bum. Although I love it, it is difficult to manage as she hates me brushing it. I manage once every few days if I'm lucky.

She's going for her 1st haircut tomorrow and is adamant she wants it short. Now I'm happy going ahead with this, but what do you think of a pixie cut on a pre schooler?

My neice has a bob without a fringe just above her shoulders. It's really easy to maintain - perhaps more so than a pixie cute which tend to look horrible when they start growing out.

I like long hair because it can be tied back and plaited neatly for school.

DD has wavy hair which is very fine and does not lie flat, a bob would be a a disaster in terms of neatness unless I got the straighteners out every day to tame it!

I don't believe that. 3 year old really cares about how her hairstyle will look.

I can understand that she might want it short for convenience and comfort - but not style?

Surely small children don't need to worry about image. There are enough years afterwards to do so.

I was just having a sort out and came across this pic of DD age 5. Bobs can look lovely on little girls.

No at three I wouldn't let her choose , hair that short hair on a little girl doesn't look nice.

Bit awkward sometimes - Father Christmas thought she was a boy last night, despite typically feminine clothing etc

Hah! DD had that too. And "Emily*? Thats unusual"

*Not real name.

This is such a wonderful opportunity to show your daughter that her opinion about her appearance matters

I'd rather tell a 3 year old that their appearance doesn't matter.

charlotte who gives a shit if she's mistaken for a boy?

I've had my hair short right from tiny. Still do. I've never been mistaken for a boy.

Thanks everyone.
Personally I think her opinion does matter. And having a choice on hair style is a great thinng to let her have. There are many other things she can't choose, so I don't really see the issue of why she can't choose her own hair style?

She has the longest hair of all her friends, she hates me touching or brushing it. I think she's noticed how easy her db has it with his hair and that's what she wants. It's not about fashion or style in her eyes. It's ease

She's generally mistaken for a boy anyway even with long hair as she only ever wears ds handme downs

She has a bob now anyway, but I reckon she'd look great with it shorter so will do that in Feb, if she still wants it

I had a pixie cut from age 6, the longest it's evee been is shoulder length. It just doesn't feel right longer.

BUT to look nice, pixie cuts do require styling. A bob would be the least work for now, short of shaving her head!

As others have said, she may not quite "get" that hair does not grow back in two seconds, so maybe go for a shoulder length style first, and if she is still clear that she wants it really short, well, why not?

I think the important thing is to make sure she knows it will take time to grow back if she changes her mind. My nearly 5 year old has asked several times to have her hair short "like mummy's" - I have a pixie - but so far I've talked her out of it as I don't think she realises it's not like putting it in plaits or whatever; I can't just change it back when she gets bored!

If you're sure she knows that I think pixies look gorgeous on little girls.

Shoukd have RTFT!

andnowitsseven short hair on a 3 year old girl doesn't look nice? Seriously?

Let her choose, it's her hair. My daughter had a short fringed bob at that age because she hated having it brushed or styled so given a choice, she went for an easier style.

My daughter had a very short bob when she started school. It was fine, she liked it and kept it that was for a couple of years. Loads of the parents at school commented though, I was quite surprised that it was at all noticed and that she was the only girl the infants with above shoulder length hair.

I am quite at the pearl clutching going on by some in this thread - so what if lazy people assume anyone with short hair is a boy? It's not as if they'll grow balls is it.

Personally I'm not at all invested in my child's perceived femine appearance; as long as she's appropriately dresses for the weather she can wear what she likes. Same goes for my son, who at the moment has chin length hair. No big deal.

*way not was

Not a pixie cut no, a longish bob can be cute. Where I live it is unusual for girls or even women not to have long hair.

Is that in the U.K. AndNow?

She's had a bob people read the thread. Does she like it op?

Posters dds look sooo cute I want a granddaughter now!

Sorry Lovelybangers but that is woefully naive. 3 year olds are naturally curious about their looks, and others', as they learn to make sense of the world and how they fit into it. Sadly some are already aware of labels. Much better to empower them than kid yourself they don't see the world for what it is (shallow, sexist, racist etc)

Where I live it is unusual for girls or even women not to have long hair.

How is that relevant?

All the more reason to break the mould IMO.