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To think cards with the recipient named on the front are common?

348 replies

AddToBasket · 20/12/2016 20:56

Class issue alert: inflammatory if you are bothered by that sort of thing

I was told that cards with 'To my wife/Grandad/Auntie' on the front were considered a bit non-U.

AIBU to go on thinking they're still a dead giveaway of background? Or are they OK?

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UnbornMortificado · 20/12/2016 22:54

I like them.

I'm a lot bit common granted.

tangerino · 20/12/2016 22:54

I think individual Christmas cards (rather than just a family card, assuming you know the family) are a bit of a class indicator, whether they say "daughter" or whatever on the front or not. Obviously don't give a stuff because I am not nuts, but there it is.

OTOH I don't think that familial relationships on birthday cards are a class indicator at all.

I think it must come down to the fact of giving individual Christmas cards, rather what they say (whereas birthday cards are always individual). I generally find giving close family Christmas cards a bit odd- I've never given my husband a card nor he me- but obviously some people must do it.

Serin · 20/12/2016 22:55

Now you come to mention it, there are never photo's of Her Madge browsing in Clintons are there?

GameofPhones · 20/12/2016 22:58

Mitzy, should've guessed. He's only a mongrel, so we're ruled out anyway.

BadToTheBone · 20/12/2016 23:07

Some parts of me are u and some parts are non-u, I've just counted, I have 24 non-u cards in my house. I find I actually like them more now I know they're non-u, but then I've always been a rebel at heart!

I find the only people who are bothered in this day and age are aspiring middle class bores who are rarely anywhere near where they think they are in the class spectrum.

EBearhug · 20/12/2016 23:13

Mother is vair posh (I think she may be the only person still alive who still replies to wedding invitations in the third person other than me).

No, you're not. There are quite a few in my family, including me, if I receive a proper invitation on good card...

I have never given nor received a "named" Christmas card, and my instincts on reading the thread were that they're terribly non-U - but also that I've never thought that much about it, as I just wouldn't consider Christmas cards that closely, as it would involve a level of planning that won't happen.Smile I get packets from charities and people get the cards as I work through them. They're rarely specially chosen, though the RNLI ones do usually go to people I know go sailing or live by the sea.

I still refer to the looking glass as a mirror, though. Part of me is very non-U. Grin

ThinkAboutItTomorrow · 20/12/2016 23:14

Anyone faffing about with that sort of thing has way too much time on their hands. Anyone worrying about other people doing it....Jesus Christ get a life lady!

MitzyLeFrouf · 20/12/2016 23:15

Jacob Rees-Mogg is probably the only person who says 'looking glass'. That's reason enough to say mirror and only mirror.

RachelRagged · 20/12/2016 23:15

The joy a card gave to my Nan was she alive is all I care about and I still buy cards for Mum and Dad and Son and Daughter etc . . .Judge me all you like ,, I live in a council house so I am probably well common in your view !!

Fucks given , ,None.

Notso · 20/12/2016 23:15

I don't see the point of them.
I don't write 'Dear Blah, Blah, Blah and Blah either.
People know their names and relationship to me nobody has ever handed me a card back because they don't know who it's for.

shinynewusername · 20/12/2016 23:15

may be the only person still alive who still replies to wedding invitations in the third person--other than me

No, me too - if it's an invite in the 3rd person, not if it's a What's App to my homies Wink

RachelRagged · 20/12/2016 23:15

when she was alive *

Bauble16 · 20/12/2016 23:15
Biscuit
tangerino · 20/12/2016 23:16

I can't believe that there is anyone under 80, however grand, who calls a mirror a looking glass.

KERALA1 · 20/12/2016 23:20

They are non u. But sweet I think. I am the product of mixed class marriage (father working / lower middle) mother impoverished upper middle so have great affection for both ways of doing things. That said think the u non u thing very outdated these days surely?

TheSlaughterOfHerodificado · 20/12/2016 23:20

I always go by the verse inside, whether it's Christmas, birthday or anniversary or whatever. I don't worse about the front. I've discarded some lovely looking cards because the sentiments were sh*te. And I don't care whether they are common or not if I like them/

TheDowagerCuntess · 20/12/2016 23:22

Yes, they're definitely non-U.

That doesn't stop me from buying them from time-to-time, though.

DesolateWaist · 20/12/2016 23:23

Buying cards with verse inside is non U.....

MitzyLeFrouf · 20/12/2016 23:27

'left blank for your own message' basically translates as 'don't be expecting some tacky ass rhyme about your grandmother'.

CaraAspen · 20/12/2016 23:27

I never buy such cards. OP. I think they're the sorts of cards on sale in Clinton Cards, a shop I avoid.Smile

CaraAspen · 20/12/2016 23:28

I prefer blank cards.

CaraAspen · 20/12/2016 23:31

"Serin

Now you come to mention it, there are never photo's of Her Madge browsing in Clintons are there?"

Certainly not "photo's" of her.

TheSlaughterOfHerodificado · 20/12/2016 23:32

Desolate

Well, that's my ambitions to a peerage buggered.

Lynnm63 · 20/12/2016 23:36

I don't send any cards as I'm a lazy git. Not sure if that makes me u or non u. Where do you stand on cards for dogs if it's a St Bernard? I may start using the term looking glass instead of mirror I have a little crush on Jacon Rees-Mogg

crumpetsforteaa · 20/12/2016 23:36

Yeah I don't buy them, I think they're a bit tacky.

Grandson and partner was the worst. Grin