Loopsdefruits "If you are a female, then you are a female, someone telling you that you are a male doesn't make you male, having a vagina also doesn't inherently make you female." That's part of what is being debated. Having a vagina is the physical expression of having XX chromosomes. So it is part of being female, or potentially part of being intersex. It is not part of being male.
"The 'trend' is not a trend, it's a change in societal understanding of trans people, and the age that people figure out their gender identity. It's also a reduction in trans young people dying by suicide, as well as an attempt to reduce violence towards trans men and women."
No sane person wants trans people to commit suicide. Or wants violence against trans people at all. But also it is important to note that not everyone buys into gender identity. I am a person, not an identity. I think it is very sad so many people have bought into this. It is not the same as people with sexual dysphoria. Most trans women do not change their penis. there may be many reasons for this but it does suggest many are not in the 'wrong body'.
"Gender identity, much like sexuality, is innate and can be very varied (kinda like the kinsey scale or similar) so no, not all people are women, or men. Some people are both, some are neither, some change depending on when you ask."
Please prove this, because if gender is, as I believe, a social construct that has changed massively over time and space (unlike human puberty, sexual reproduction etc) how can it be innate. Why are you using sexual orientation as a comparison, the two things are totally different.
" But hormones can be reversed if needs be, and puberty can be 'postponed' which allows the young person more time to figure things out. We wouldn't dream of telling a child they are 'too young' to know their sexuality?"
Well, where to begin, hormones cannot always be reversed. ask the women who have started on Testosterone and now have a lot more facial hair, even when they stop taking it.
We may not try and tell a child they do not know their own sexuality but morally and legally would not want children to act on that knowledge until they reach the age of consent. That is why we have laws to protect children from sexual activity before the age of consent.
'Gender-neutral language' I totally do not care about gender neutral language, because gender is just a lot of stereotypes. But girls have vaginas and can be impregnated and they are abused and subjugated because of that so I do not want girls and women to lose the ability to talk about their situations, their lives. That sounds fair enough doesn't it?
"Otherwise you're assuming you can guess someone's gender from their appearance which is pretty rude." No one wants to guess someone's gender. I don't care if they wear a dress or trousers, play with dolls or trains, like pink or blue. It's fine if these things are important to some, but don't impose them on other people. That's fair isn't it?