To ask MIL to change what DS will call her?

[Aliveinwanderland]

My mum decided a long time ago she wanted to be referred to as Nana when DS was born, because her mum was always a Nana to us when she was alive. She sees DS most days and lives round the corner so he spends a lot of time with her. DS is her first grand child.

DH's mum has never mentioned what she wants to be called. We only see her every few months as she lives further away and DS is unlikely to spend much time with her. We don't do family gatherings with her and DH is not at all close to his family. MIL has sent a Christmas card to DS and signed it off Nana. AIBU to ask her to be called something else as my mum is already Nana? I think I probably am but I don't want DS to get confused at having two grandparents referred to as the same thing.

To make it harder DS is MIL's 4th grandchild and so I assume the others must all call her Nana which is why she is using it.

I'm sure I'm probably overthinking it so feel free to tell me if I am!

No Nana in my childhood - we had Granny X, Granny Y and Granddad Y (x, y = surname). They used to refer to each other by these descriptions as well.

We had Nanny in Devon, Nanny in Heaven, Grandad and Captain Grandad (ex-naval captain, he loved that!). Kids adapt

I had 2 grannys and DH had 2 nans, no confusion they were just referred to as nan X or Nan Y.

My DC have Granny Woolly hair and Other Granny. Not sure my mum knows she is Other Granny.

I had 4 grannies growing up and we called them after the town they lived in, which was great until they moved

We have Nanna and Nan, for DS to refer to my own nan and my mum. When he was little he would get confused so it was "Nan who lives by us" (my nan) or "Nan that lives with Granddad" (my mum). It was fine. Don't worry.

My kids have 3 grandmas one of whom is my grandma, so their great grandma. They're Grandma x, grandma y and grandma Z. They were all adamant that the only name they'd be called was Grandma and that under no circumstances whatsoever were they to be Nan. Their grandfathers are Grandpa x and Grandpa Y. No confusion whatsoever, it's just hard to find Grandpa cards, they're all Grandad and my dad is definitely not a grandad.

Just call them Nana First Name and Nana First Name. Unless they both have the same first name, .

You don't get to choose what other people call themselves - it's up to your MiL.

In any case, there won't be any confusion. I had Nanny & Grandad [Surname1] and Nanny & Grandad [Surname2].

I have a friend whose kids have Grandpa Tilly and Grandpa Jumble. Tilly and Jumble are actually the grandpas' respective dogs.

My Dd has a nana London and nana from far away and a big grandad and little grandad. Kids usually choose their own names.

When I was born I had 11 Grandparents, my Dad is German so his family were Oma/Opa and my Mums were Nanny and Grandad insert name. When my DS was born I still had 9 of my grandparents, and DS 7 of his own. So with 16 of them all floating around we discussed with the 'new grandparents' what they would like to be called, as it was all getting a bit much. We have Mama, Nanna, Nanny Name, Grandad lorry, Grumps now LOL

We had nanny maiden name, nanny dads surname

Mine have 3 Grandmas: my mum, DH's mum and my grandma. Up to them to choose IMO.

I can't imagine dictating what a grandparent should be called, let alone a grandparent who already has GC and has a set name - telling them they need to be known by another name to your DC is so precious. Not referring to the OP here.

My Dad's Dad was Grandad and that's what I initially assumed my Dad would be. However, FIL was already Grandad to his existing GC, and so my Dad suggested an alternative, which stuck immediately.

of course they can have two nannas! this might blow your mind OP but some children even have two mums, and two dads, without their worlds imploding from confusion!

So glad you've decided not to raise it, you would have come across as being incredibly precious.

My DD has two nannys. It's not caused any problems so far. Though I think my mum wanted to be a granny.

They are all nana where I come from. Never had a problem telling them apart.

I had 2 nans, NannyX & NannyY both are still with us so my DD calls them NannyX, NannyY & my mum NannyZ hasn't caused a problem for us so think you're overthinking it tbh.

I had two nannas when I was little, one my mum's mum and one my mum's nan! They were distinguished by using their surnames.