Oh Hotmail124, there is so much to discuss in all this.
Many years ago, a great Pakistani student at the school I worked at, won a debating competition. She was brilliant. Next day she came to school black and blue. Beaten by family for her success. Soon removed and married off.
The thing is ... where does this behaviour come from? If we stand back and clear our eyes, remove our prejudices, we are faced with a very bizarre situation.
Because this behaviour isn't "Pakistani", is it? Pakistan made a 35 year old Hina Rabbani Kaur the foreign minister in 2011. If there was a deep animosity to women, education and achievement in Pakistan as a whole, I very much doubt the country would have psychologically coped with Benazir Bhutto or the raft of young female politicians from Alizeh Iqbal Haider to Shazia Marri without the collective brains of Pakistani men exploding.
So is this behaviour "Islamic"? Errr ... I can't even see how one could begin to make such an argument. Considering that one of the most hardcore Wahhabi Muslim states in the world (Saudi Arabia) sends hundreds of young women to Russell Group Universities to study, admittedly, educational theory at postgraduate level, I can't see how the women's acquisition of knowledge could be perceived to be remotely un-Islamic, even by the hardest Salafist standard.
Incidentally, the most renowned hardcore Salafist scholar at Al Azhar had been on a campaign to declare the niqab as un-Islamic since the '90s, so strict adherence to Islamic doctrine can often send very learned scholars off in an entirely non-ISIS direction.
And that's not to mention the female students from Qatar, Kuwait, Bahrain that all come to Britain to study. And all these are fairly "conservative Muslim states" in a sense, though it has to be said that when you adjust your view to what conservative Gulf state Islam actually looks like, it is not entirely that dissimilar to our own middle class values. For example: the divorce rate in Kuwait is about 50 percent and to British eyes, the marriage and divorce patterns look a lot like British middle-class "serial monogamy" except with legal contracts, which we would have if we had co-habitation protection laws.
So you start looking at tribal Muslim communities. And here, maybe there is some traction. But even then, you don't get Afghani or Waziristani warlord fathers behaving in this manner. Okay, there is a kind of Islamic paterfamilias attitude, but educated girls are rather valuable. Crikey, brides are valuable. They are so valuable that a significant proportion of the local men cannot have a hope of getting one (which is one of the motivations for these men joining mujaheddin groups; they have no hope of ever having a wife or a family). Such girls can be married to educated boys from socially prestigious families, and elevate the standing and bonds between tribes and groups.
So again, one asks ... where does this behaviour come from?
I speak from my own experience too. In my life, I have known two young Muslim British-Pakistani women murdered by "boyfriends", one of them was the sister of a close friend of mine. In both cases, the family were devastated, broken beyond repair, desperately scarred for the rest of their lives. And I know that the crime occurred because those families were perceived to have elderly fathers and very young brothers.
So what is really happening? Because when you look at the wider picture, you have to say that something in the translation of fairly rural Pakistani culture to Britain has gone awry. And I suspect it is because the way such behaviours would be policed in rural Pakistan does not exist in England in the same manner, so such behaviours are not checked in the way they would be back in Pakistan: ie. If you beat up your daughter in Pakistan, locals would gossip about you and you would find your son couldn't get a bride.