To sometimes have a takeaway.

[QueenOfTheFuckingWorld]

Sometimes, when we feel like it DH and I have a takeaway, even though there is perfectly edible food in the fridge.

Unfortunately the PIL have got wind of this, and as a result we, well me really (because woman = cook ) are being accused of being profligate, wasteful and thoughtless.

It's such a petty thing, but they bring it up nearly every time we see them!
So IABU?

Sometimes I just can't be @rsed to cook. Other times, DH has done sod all all day, and I think "Bugger it! I'm not cooking!". And other times one of us (okay - me ) just fancies an Indian/ Chinese/ Fish 'n' Chips . . so we have it.

I cook most nights and the children have always been well-fed and dressed (

My DdepartedMIL was housewife extraordinaire, with one DS and in no way lazy. DFIL went off on his bike for fish and chips once a week as it was her day off.

They also did it a lot on holiday - they had more fun things to do together, than her cooking all the time.

It was a revelation to me, coming from a family where if you didn't cook everything from scratch, you were a lazy slut. I much prefer it. There is much more to be gained from family life by enjoying your time together rather than calling people rude, judgemental names for not achieving unrealistic expectations.

Unexplained- people like that slowly suck all the joy out of existence. If they had their way we'd all have to take meat paste sandwiches and a sodding Thermos out on all expeditions. I get a sensation like claustrophobia just thinking about it. And I don't mean people who are short of money so don't want to waste it on coffees and takeaway etc, we have all been there. But people who could, and might actually enjoy it if they allowed themselves to, but God forbid pleasure should break out......

Mind you, the vast array of places to eat and drink is a fairly new thing really. When Freda and Barry were in their pomp choice was much more limited, so I can understand why perhaps some can't adjust.

My mother is like this, she most certainly does try to suck the life out of me. Anything that isn't the norm to her, is wrong. I just embellish these days. So when she turns her nose up at a take away night, I might say, 'oh, it's not as nice as the one we had last night' or 'we'll have Chinese tonight, just ring The Restaurant and tell them it's me, they'll know what I want!' . Makes her cats bum face even bigger!

Unexplained - I think we have the same in laws! Mine sometimes go out for a coffee with friends/us and they have to have a 'shock/horror' moment about how expensieve it is. How you can make a cake for half the price of a slice of cake in Costa...on and on.

I think they get some weird pleasure out of moaning.

We live in middle of nowhere so takeaway is a real treat. It's so sociable that we usuallynring our neighbours and we all order and eat together after husband has collected in cool boxes. Tell them it's a treat and to stop fretting.

My mum Cant cope with coffee and cake when she is out Dd1 took her to Dobbies the other week apparentley there was a nooo that is to expensive scene Dd1 said gran just pick a cake .

Your money, not theirs, your choice how to spend it.

Tell them to bog off (and shove another prawn cracker in your gob).

Pffft, they'd hate me then. Friday take away is a weekly ritual. It's how DD learned the calendar.

Next time I'd tell them your dh is waiting for your mil to come over and make dinner, since he obviously still needs a mother.

It's got nothing to do with the PILs but if we never commented on each other's lifestyles wouldn't life be boring?

Not if you've got better things to do than be judgey about the eating habits of others and blame the woman of the couple for them like it's the 1950s

utter nonsense, takeaways are one of lifes true joys

YANBU

A takeaway can be a bit of a treat, especially if you don't get to eat out very often

However we did have them a bit too often at one point. Can't be arsed to cook being the reason. It stopped feeling such a treat. Then we embraced the freezer. It's great and reduces work. Most meals are cooked with the added thought of, 'Ooh I can freeze half of this and have one in the bag'. Me and DH build up our own stock of them which we use up on our respective turns to cook. Also saves a fortune.

And the sandwiches out? Well yes, sometimes. We have bought some at some places we like going to and they weren't that nice and sold at inflated prices. Prefer our own.

But takeaways are nothing new. I remember fish and chips every Friday because Mum and Dad were due a food shop on Saturday morning.

But I think I'd grin and say, 'Well cook insists on having the night off once a week. Can't get the staff these days!'

I struggle with anyone of any generation making scathing comments about takeaways. Is it just an excuse to pick a bone with you ..

Yes it's cheaper to cook from scratch and yes it is cheaper to make a brew at home rather than mincing Costa.

But it's just less fun

My dad is a bit like this. Instead of just saying anything though, he shakes his head and tuts when we hears we've had one or planning on having one.
We are a bit shit with money (although our kids are well fed and clothed) TBH and Dad is "Mr Sensible Spreadsheet for everything" man.

I'm counting down the minutes till OH gets home so I can hand over the kids for bath time, open the wine and get online to order our Indian.

Time appears to be going backwards at the moment

We're having one tonight. I enjoy cooking but it is the thought of one of us having to clean the kitchen after the cooking that prompted the choice. Tonight we are going to sit down and relax after we eat and knowing that makes the food all the sweeter.

I have some meatballs in the fridge that I am probably going to have to chuck as opened them day before yesterday for the kids, but I'm seriously craving a curry so..hey ho!

Haven't rtft but...

OP, on a post it stuck to the take out menu:

"Dear MIL and FIL. The war is over. Fuck the fuck off you fucknuts. If you don't I will eat you. Kind regards, ddil.

Ps. Om nom nom"

HTH

YANBU. This week we've had Mcdonalds and are having a dominos tonight. The dominos is a treat due to me hearing back from a job I really want that my file has been signed off so am congratulating with a dominos and a glass (or three) of Asti a takeaway now and then is perfectly fine

Thank you for this post, looking forward to the Chinese that DP has just ordered because it made me really fancy one. sod the diet

A vair well-to-do woman once asked me, in a work-related context, how best to obtain a urine sample from her dog. I recommended the use of a plastic takeaway tray (they are perfect for getting samples from bitches - wide but shallow enough to slide under). She actually scrunched her face up in disgust - "Ugh, we don't have takeaway food in our house."

I remain baffled by her hostility to the beautiful takeaway, and presumably am common as muck to have one every Friday.

Weirdly, as a child, we never had takeaways of any description. Maybe once a year! So it was a real treat.

I've been guilty of ordering 3 takeaways a week when we were busy, disorganised at keeping fresh food and CBA to cook these days it's more like one every two weeks as a proper treat.

Anyway YANBU! Proper functioning adults need the odd takeaway in their lives!