To sometimes have a takeaway.

[QueenOfTheFuckingWorld]

Sometimes, when we feel like it DH and I have a takeaway, even though there is perfectly edible food in the fridge.

Unfortunately the PIL have got wind of this, and as a result we, well me really (because woman = cook ) are being accused of being profligate, wasteful and thoughtless.

It's such a petty thing, but they bring it up nearly every time we see them!
So IABU?

Nearly every Saturday night here. It's virtually the law - do what you like😉

They not she

To be honest if you had no food in the cupboards on a regular basis and THEN ordered a takeaway I'd think 'why the feck aren't they spending on an actual food shop.'

Takeaways whilst you have food in the house though is completely bloody standard. Tell him to sod off and get a grip. Or order him a pizza and send it to his house.

Of course yanbu. And also you are paying someone. So if no one bought takeaways many jobs and businesses would be lost. Like millions including suppliers. So think of it as doing something good for the community

It's none of their business!! Unless you are force feeding PiL with the take-away?

From a throwaway comment I made about getting a takeaway a friend of mine assumed that I never cooked and couldn't cook. She was astonished on coming round to my house to find I do cook, and cook well (though I say so myself). And was asking why I didn't cook more often and had also apparently told lots of people I couldn't cook. Weird - I do like her though.

People are odd about takeaways.

Nothing wrong with the odd takeaway here and there.
Sometimes I've been on my feet for quite long enough and DH has worked extra long hours. Southern fried chicken and chips it is then! The toddler has nuggets, it's the one meal I can guarantee he'll wolf down.
I love ordering curry, it's even nicer having the leftovers for lunch the following day!

I order takeaways because work has been long and shit and I'm tired and I just cannot be arsed. That's why takeaways exist, surely? I'm not pissing away the kids' inheritance or anything.

I made the mistake of telling MIL I bought something from House of Fraser once. MIL is lovely, but she clearly has this idea that everything from HofF is fashioned out of solid gold with emerald buttons. She mentions my wanton HofF shopping habits often - more in awe than in having a go, but it's embarrassing at this stage.

We often have one on a Thursday - I have a hobby that keeps me out till late & there is not much time to cook beforehand. DH & DS get theirs & I pick up something for myself later, or just have cheese on toast or something when I get home

hobby broken up for Christmas but we still had a Chinese last night

Let him deal with his family.
Direct all comments from them to him with a smile, "you should ask DH about that"

Fwiw I've never had a takeaway, but eat quick foods like porridge or soup for dinner if I cba cooking. It would never occur to me to have a takeaway meal delivered. I would consider it odd, but I realise that I'm completely odd myself in this.

On another note, I hope your DH is stepping up to the plate so to speak organising cards and presents for his side of the family, and the work hasn't fallen to you. Maybe he could include a takeaway flyer in their cards! Ha!

No YADNBU. Why is it that parents/in laws comment on money, it's just so rude. My MIL often does so and it annoys me so much. Oh how much was that? Commenting that she wouldn't have "wasted so much money" when she is the biggest spender ever

Hassled I hope you got her a HoF gift voucher for Christmas 😂

I loves a takeaway curry, me.

Especially as we all enjoy different levels of heat. I love a vindaloo, but DD2 screams if you even mention chilli- so she gets a korma and pretends it isn't a bloody dessert.

My mil realised that dh irons his own shirts. If ever the subject of ironing or shirts comes up in any way she always has to mention it, in a 'jokey' way. The fact that we have a dishwasher is mentioned far more often than it should be too. She will often bake cakes for dh us (we're not that bothered about cake), and I know it's a pointed comment on the fact that I rarely bake, gasp.

Basically, we are not alike and her poor son is so very hard done by. It must be all those modern labour-saving gadgets and habits... That said, she is a wonderful woman and I love her to bits!

My late Mil was brilliant she brought her sons up as a lone parent so she didnt expect women to do anything for them my mother on the other hand ...

Its good to not have the bother of cooking and clearing up - but my inlaws and my mum ( when she was alive) didn't understand this at all.
fish and chips a couple of times a year was their limit - might be a throwback to the war days in their case! It does hurt when people criticise our choices, but best to just smile and nod and do what you want anyway!!

saucyjack anything milder than a madras is stew.
Queen YANBU. how the hell is buying a takeaway thoughtless? sounds to me like your MIL likes a moan and any issue will do. bollocks to the lot of them and get a dominoes sent to them on christmas day!

My dad has been like this ever since he found out we have a cleaner for 3 hours once a fortnight. You would have thought he'd found out that we like to use £50 notes to light candles from the way he carries on about it!

Do your PIL finance your lifestyle in any way? If so, you have opened the door to allow this kind of behaviour, which is why being financially independent is really important.

If not, and your PIL are still dictating what you do and don't eat, they have way too much purchase over your lives. You're independent adults, and you can eat takeaway every bloody night if you want. There are missing boundaries here that must be causing you misery - I suggest you start building some slightly higher fences and maintaining more of your own, private space.

We meal plan, and once every month ish, I plan a takeaway :P (we have 3 places to order from in my little town). It's none of their business!

No financing of us! They just like commenting on our wanton lifestyle

I don't really understand the issue here. Can you easily afford it? Surely how you eat is your business. If you were constantly whinging about being skint or something, then I could see their point maybe,but if this is just they have an issue with take away food in general then it's quite strange. It's fairly normal to order a takeaway, which is why they are so popular and nearly every town has them.

Shouldn't that be "wonton" lifestyle....?

(Agree breathing btw)