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To want guests to remove their shoes when walking through my house?

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MummyLizH · 13/12/2016 19:47

Not sure if I'm particularly bothered by this because it's mainly the in-laws who do it, but most people know I expect shoes off as you walk through the front door.

I've mentioned it to dh a few times, I think he thinks I'm just picking at his parents behaviour, but it makes my blood boil... I clean and hoover my home, invite you round and you tread your dirty shoes all over the floor which me and my kids sit and play on (and my little girl crawls around on) Angry. My parents have the decency to bring their slippers!

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1horatio · 16/12/2016 16:56

treacle

It was more of a general comment. To show that we shoe-off people can be very reasonable as well;) and that the intention is not to make you feel unwelcome.

If you were I'd let you know, seriously ;)

Justice right? But well, although I do think it's a weird thing to judge people by, there are worse things.

Draylon · 16/12/2016 16:59

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ILoveDolly · 16/12/2016 17:05

I always ask if shoes off is required as I'd rather go about either bare socks than put mud around someone's house. Here in the country it is usual probably because our outdoor shoes get dirty. I recently went to a house where they offered slippers and it was lovely I will have to do it too

1horatio · 16/12/2016 17:06

Yes, finally somebody that likes slippers 😂👍👍

pinkoctober · 16/12/2016 18:55

Your house your choice and say. We're shoes off as it's a Chinese custom and other half wants it that way..it's seen as a sign of disrespect to keep them on. I don't know why anyone would dispute in your own home about taking them off. You're not asking for asking full bodily strip!

CarefullyAirbrushedPotato · 16/12/2016 19:58

These threads always confuse me, why are British people so attached to their shoes? YANBU! It'syour house. I wouldn't have anyone in the house with their shoes on, exemptions for trade persons carrying out repairs etc (health and safety). Otherwise I don't care how much of a grump on people get, no shoes in the house.

CashelGirl · 16/12/2016 20:03

I feel I am visiting friends, I will take my shoes off if asked (though will be rolling my eyes inwardly). However, when I am visiting in a professional capacity (a healthcare worker who does home visits) then I don't take my shoes off. I wouldn't be insured if I sustained an injury and I am already laden down with equipment and it is a pain in the ass to be getting shoes on and off.

Natsku · 16/12/2016 20:45

Trades people take their shoes off in my house, I don't ask them to but they do. But that's only been plumbers and the handyman, obviously wouldn't expect a builder doing work in my house to take their shoes off, and I wore shoes when renovating (but mopped the floors after)

MistresssIggi · 16/12/2016 21:02

Actually I've now decided to keep a basket of Stompeez next to the door. I'd love to see MiL in some monster slippers and the meter reader in a pair of unicorn ones.

LeadPipe · 16/12/2016 21:20

What about grocery deliveries- do you ask them to take shoes off?

1horatio · 16/12/2016 21:22

I don't think I've ever been home for a grocery delivery.

So, idk.

LeadPipe · 16/12/2016 21:23

I've no idea who that was addressed to. I mean I don't ask for shoes off and the grocery delivery drivers traipse through my house to the kitchen and they don't take their shoes off.

1horatio · 16/12/2016 21:27

lead

It was addressed to you. Seeing as were a shoe-off household but I've never been home for a grocery delivery I unfortunately don't know how we do this :)

LeadPipe · 16/12/2016 21:29

But presumably your nanny, housekeeper, partner, would follow the general house rules?

I don't have a strong opinion about it really so am not asking loaded questions - just curious if others ask for them to take their shoes off.

LeadPipe · 16/12/2016 21:30

Haha sorry x-post.

I meant I have no idea who I was addressing my question to and hadn't made that clear. Sorry. I'm not communicating very clearly.

1horatio · 16/12/2016 21:33

DH certainly does.

Our night nanny does, yes. I do hope the woman doing the cleaning and shopping (is that a house keeper or a cleaning lady in English?) does as well. I'm fairly certain she does, we clearly told her she should and I think DH would call her out on it. DH didn't grow up in a shoes odd house, white the opposite, actually, but he is actually very much in favour of our shoe rule :)

LeadPipe · 16/12/2016 21:38

Housekeeper- if she does more than just cleaning.

I don't mind either way, I don't ask people for shoes off, some people insist.

1horatio · 16/12/2016 21:41

She also makes the beads, cooks when she comes over, buys groceries, make sure we have the cleaning products we need, sometimes does laundry (if we didn't do it). So, mainly cleaning and some housekeeping. She's great.

She has her own slippers. So, I'd be very surprised if she didn't use them.

1horatio · 16/12/2016 21:41

*beds

LeadPipe · 16/12/2016 21:43

My housekeeper brings flip flops and takes her shoes off at the door. This is not my requirement but it must have been what she has been told to do by others. Or it may be her preference I've never asked.

1horatio · 16/12/2016 21:50

I think DH probably offered her slippers when she first came over.

And decided it was silly to wash them continuously so he got her her own pair.

Probably,,,

I guess yours doesn't want to have to clean up because of her own shoes?

cbigs · 16/12/2016 21:50

Dear god I long for a housekeeper ....

tangerino · 17/12/2016 09:28

To the person putting Dettol spray on her dog, please don't do this. It may not be toxic but its designed for cleaning surfaces, not animals. Even if it doesn't cause irritation, it's not fair on your sensitively-nosed dog to make it spend its life honking of Dettol. You can buy shampoos etc that are specifically designed for dogs- a much better choice.

CaraAspen · 17/12/2016 11:24

"cbigs

Dear god I long for a housekeeper .... "

Teeheee

1horatio · 17/12/2016 11:50

tangerion

I suspect baby wipes could be appropriately mild?

If they don't dry out baby butts they probably won't be bad for the paws of her pooch ;)

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