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To think neighbours should come and collect their parcel?

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bibbitybobbityyhat · 10/12/2016 21:51

Dh took in a fairly large parcel (think box of wine size) for our neighbours on Thursday or maybe even Wednesday afternoon - I can't remember.

It has been in our narrow one person width hallway since then.

Aibu to be a wee bit pissed off now?

And

Wwyd?

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bibbitybobbityyhat · 10/12/2016 22:31

It is NOT utterly ridiculous.

It is a large box, heavy as a case of wine.

Why should I take it round to them? Can you explain why? What if they aren't in when I go round there?

The notice on the door is for the benefit of the courier companies who (if I'm reading this right) clearly haven't bothered to put a note through the neighbours door.

The neighbours won't see it they never come to our door

did you see that Saucery?

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Saucery · 10/12/2016 22:31

I cba to do a search, OP, but I do remember you saying it was used for utter trivialities, so your use of it did jump out rather.

WhooooAmI24601 · 10/12/2016 22:33

DH works for himself so is sometimes at home and will sign for stuff for neighbours. I've never known him get het up about opening a door to a delivery man. Never known him rant about their purchases. You seem incredibly upset over something which to most folk is a normal part of day to day neighbourliness.

northernmonkey1010 · 10/12/2016 22:33

You are making yourself look like a right dick tbh

Gileswithachainsaw · 10/12/2016 22:33

If they aren't in then try again a bit later.

It's a seconds job. Talk about drama queen

What exactly are they doing wrong, if the leave instructions to leave in a safe place, they will assume it's left there. Not their fault if a courier doesn't leave a card. And why the fuck accept a parcel of all you are gonna do is seethe

Saucery · 10/12/2016 22:33

Oh bless you, you do give good thread Grin

Love the way you measure Mystery Parcels in wine boxes too! Makes a change from Elephants and Albert Halls and Football Stadiums.

LineyReborn · 10/12/2016 22:33

I've just told my DS to stop ordering fucking packages to the house and to do Click and Collect, Click and Self Destruct, Click and Fuck Off for all I care.

To my DS and the Dstudents next door: stop ordering shit where you rely on someone else me be in to accept it, or to get up at 7am on a weekend to answer the fucking door, or dig it out of the soil and leaves in the front garden where the myHermes courier has slung it from an apparently moving vehicle.

Go to a shop. Try it on. Buy it. Take it home. Leave me fucking out of it. I need sleep, and I need to work. Aaaaaaagh.

melj1213 · 10/12/2016 22:34

I say again, if you work full time and are never at home during normal delivery hours during the week ... what do you do about ordering parcels for home delivery? Aren't you just relying on the goodwill of your neighbours?

No.

I rely on the delivery driver to follow my instructions to leave my parcel in my designated "safe place" of the covered outhouse in my back yard (back gate closed but unloced) that I have specified on the order form.

If said delivery driver takes it upon him or herself to knock on my neighbours doors until one takes it in, that is no more my fault than yours for accepting a parcel you don't want to hold onto.

If said delivery driver then also fails to put a note through my door to say it is with Mr Smith at number 10, how is it my fault that I don't know to go to nuber 10 to collect said parcel that I am expecting to be in my back yard?

Miserylovescompany2 · 10/12/2016 22:34

If you know the times they are home, surely it's simple enough to drop off the parcel? Why the song and dance? You could of said NO, sorry, I can not take the parcel in the first place...??

I could understand if you'd taken delivery of a gigantic box, but, it isn't, it's wine box size.

As already mentioned throughout the thread, it's the busiest time for deliveries, so a "sorry missed you" card might not have been left?

If you wish to alienate your neighbours, then put up a sign. A bit harsh IMHO :(

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bibbitybobbityyhat · 10/12/2016 22:34

No, I know they are massive spenders/consumers Mrs Snooth because of the fact that their bins are overflowing onto the pavement and their front garden every week and the foxes bring their rubbish into our front garden.

Lol at "community feel" from getting your parcels delivered to neighbours on the street. Give it time Grin.

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Saucery · 10/12/2016 22:35

Do you have an issue with anxiety at all? Your last post would suggest so, running through all the scenarios, worrying about the next time/reaction of courier etc.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 10/12/2016 22:35

Well thy op my next door neighbour gets boxes of wine delivered and I take them in. It's a fucking box. I also have a narrow hall. I just don't walk into it, it's kinda simple.

Why should you take them round? Oh, I don't know... Kindness? To be neighbourly? Because it's simple? To not be petty? Because it takes 30 seconds? To not seem like you have a stick up your arse?

SeenYourArse · 10/12/2016 22:36

I have had this in opposite! A neghbour from across the avenue and 4 houses down came banging (yes not knocking but thumping!) on my door one day I opened the door in surprise to see her stood with pursed lips and a parcel for me.. which she wouldn't hand over until I'd dated and signed a receipt she had hand written! Apparently she was cross as she'd had it for 4 days... I pointed out I had no idea she had it as I hadn't had a card through the door or an email/text so how could I Know?! It was my icandy Peach footmuff for my new pushchair so I was keen to get it as soon as too so hardly pleased with the situation myself! Take it over there the wont have been left a card I bet

PaulAnkaTheDog · 10/12/2016 22:37

Ahhh! You just don't like them and judge them! I understand now.

Yabu. Smile

Saucery · 10/12/2016 22:39

You go through their rubbish? Shock That's weird. You know that's weird, right?

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bibbitybobbityyhat · 10/12/2016 22:40

I go through their rubbish? What are you on about? You are freaking me out with your weirdness Saucery.

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buckeejit · 10/12/2016 22:40

Yabu if it's a one off. I never request & therefore never expect to have things delivered to neighbours. However, occasionally they are, including last week a monthly beer subscription box & we did get a card but they weren't home when we arrived, we didn't notice them arriving home & he brought it over. He did that as it's a neighbourly thing to do. I apologised for his trouble, he said 'no problem, had quick chat & I was enveloped by a short burst of sense of community ;)

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bibbitybobbityyhat · 10/12/2016 22:44

30 seconds to go down two flights of stairs, sign for a parcel and go back to work Paul Anka.

It takes more like two minutes for me Paul Anka but I wouldn't mind so much if it got picked up promptly. IF and it is a big if, the courier company haven't put a note through then I won't take in parcels from the courier any more. So no need for the neighbours or anyone else on the thread to take my decision personally.

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MrsSnootch · 10/12/2016 22:44

Quote from OP ; "I know they are massive spenders/consumers Mrs Snooth because of the fact that their bins are overflowing onto the pavement and their front garden every week and the foxes bring their rubbish into our front garden"

Foxes are only interested in food waste. If this is being spread over your front garden, every week, then you will have rodents nesting nearby.

That will give you something to really whinge about

LineyReborn · 10/12/2016 22:44

My neighbours' rubbish tonight is mostly on my doormat; I don't need to go through it.

eternalopt · 10/12/2016 22:44

Lol at me all you want. Like I said, it's a mutual thing and we take parcels for neighbours too and it's a chance for a chat and a catch up when we do knock on each other's doors to collect /drop off. Having lived on a street where no one knew each others names, I way prefer my current neighbourhood. Guess I'm just lucky to have friendly neighbours.

Saucery · 10/12/2016 22:45

You notice the amount of rubbish they have. And judge them for it. That is not normal behaviour, seriously.

HeadElf · 10/12/2016 22:46

You sound a little deranged

SharkBaitOohHaha · 10/12/2016 22:46

Confused OP, are you my neighbour?

I ordered a few things recently and paid extra so Parcelforce would deliver it on a day I specifically knew I'd be in. Lo and behold, Parcelforce never turned up.
I spent every morning on the phone to bloody Parcelforce trying to find out where my parcel was. Over a week later, we had a hammering on the door from an irate neighbour who said they were fed up of my parcel taking up room in their hallway. I didn't even know it had been delivered, let alone to them. They had a go at me on the doorstep, ranting about 'this generation' and 'consumerism'. And of course didn't listen to my apology and explanation about the Parcelforce fuck up.

I'm now hesitating to order anything else online for Christmas because of the risk the deliverer will knock on their door if I happen to not be home. Maybe I'll stick a sign on the door saying 'Don't deliver parcels to the arse at number seven'.

LineyReborn · 10/12/2016 22:47

It's the getting up at 7am on a weekend to answer to the door to couriers who can't rouse the actual buyer of the package that pisses me off.

I'm already awake because of the banging on the neighbours' door. It doesn't make it any pleasanter though.

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