My DH has rather a large family, but until this year there have been no children. Without going into detail the difference in earnings between Dh, I and one of his siblings is quite dramatic, they earn a substantial amount more than we do a year. Having said this the family are all aware of how sensible with money we are, we do not have any credit cards and have never taken out loans, we also have worked hard to save a nice but relatively small sum of money over the years. The other day the wife of said sibling suggested we limit spending on each other's children to no more than £15. I was stunned and a little annoyed that they want to limit what they spend on Dd to what we 'might' spend on their Dd. I don't expect them to go out and spend an absolute fortune on my child but I can't believe that they aren't prepared to put in a little bit of effort for their only niece. It's not the first time they have been slightly cagey about money and my Dh has suggested that maybe they are terrible at managing finances and are spending faster than they are earning, still he's just as peeved as I am at the mere suggestion of it. Am I being ungrateful?