AIBU to change my birthday??

[Twinmummy19]

I know I can't change my birthday but I mean the day we celebrate it. My birthday is tomorrow but i want to move it to june. I am excited about tomorrow but I hate it, I hate being born close to Christmas,I hate that I can never book a table anywhere cos everywhere is full of Christmas work parties, and I really bloody hate when my DB and his DP dont send separate cards but one that says 'happy birthday-mas'. June seems such a nice time of year to celebrate a birthday,it would be nice to get all dressed up n go out without ruining my outfit by putting a duffle coat and scarf over it.
So,is it OK to ask my loved ones to celebrate with me in June or am I being weird and precious??

[Branleuse]

everyone whos birthday is in december always seem to think their birthday is shit because its december. The rest of us know that adult birthdays are usually not made a fuss of anyway and its nothing to do with what month youre born

[Bluntness100]

everyone whos birthday is in december always seem to think their birthday is shit because its december

[Mindtrope]

branleuse- you speak the truth.

Last birthday very few people remembered. My MIL forgot, my sister didn't send a card, OH was away for a week with work, I was working.

It was in April. I doubt it would be any less enjoyable in December.
I am always glad when my birthday is over.

[Crikeyblimey]

Maybe us December birthday people have ALWAYS had a December birthday that is a bit shit and that's why the feeling remains!

I used to have people (relatives) present me with a gift saying 'and I haven't wrapped it in Christmas paper' like they deserved a fucking medal for that bit of consideration.

Now saying that makes me sound like an ungrateful brat, which I most certainly wasn't / am not but I does not happen to people whose birthdays are not in the weeks before or after Christmas and it pissed me off!

[Batteriesallgone]

Snow were you talking to me? I missed the post that got deleted. My post was entirely talking about the adults on this thread who remember years of their birthday not being celebrated or parents not being enthusiastic about it. I didn't say anything about you and my post wasn't about you.

If I'm mixed up my apologies!

[Mindtrope]

crikey, I was never given birthday presents from any family member apart from my mother and father- so you are doing better than me!

[TowerRavenSeven]

Yabu in my opinion. Ds's birthday was Monday. I do make it a point not to decorate the house until after his birthday. We went out to a very nice restaurant and had no problems at all - I just made sure I made reservations.

If you were closer to Christmas or right on the day then I think I'd agree with you more. But three weeks before?

[TowerRavenSeven]

Decorate the house for Xmas it should have said!

[musicposy]

everyone whos birthday is in december always seem to think their birthday is shit because its december. The rest of us know that adult birthdays are usually not made a fuss of anyway and its nothing to do with what month youre born

This isn't always true, though. I have a group of really good friends. We always meet up for each other's birthdays - it's a bit of a thing - and always club together to get a really nice present. Except that my present often gets forgotten in the busyness until the last minute (everyone else is asked what they'd like well in advance) and I usually have to do mine in November or start of December at the latest, because everyone is busy with work meals, children's parties etc etc. Which would be ok - except of course it's the same every year. A couple of years ago I did get quite upset and pointed out that my birthday had always been and would always be in December and it was pretty crap having to do it a month in advance or have only a third of my friends turn up, year after year after year. Since then they've tried to keep a date free but then I'm aware everyone is missing other stuff. Then there's the times that the only solution is to combine it with the Christmas get together. To be fair, a couple of the others have similar issues with August birthdays as someone is always on holiday so I accept it's not just December that's rubbish.

Maybe us December birthday people have ALWAYS had a December birthday that is a bit shit and that's why the feeling remains!

I actually think this is a big part of it. As a child and teen when it mattered more I had joint presents from some relatives, presents wrapped in a Christmas paper even from my parents, an obvious purchase of a group of presents which were split in two (i.e. significantly less stuff than my siblings got for birthday). Plus there was the feeling that I'd have loved a paddling pool or swing or sandpit but never got those because they were "summer toys" and that there was a whole year to wait once it was over. Then there was the fact that the school nativity or similar was often on my birthday evening and organising parties was a nightmare because everyone was busy.

It's hard for that hurt (and bits of it did hurt) not to spill over into adult life, even when you know you should be too grown up to care.

[Zippidydoodah]

This thread makes me sad as I have December and January babies!!

[thewooster]

As an introverted Capricorn I bloody love my new year's week birthday. Can't think of anything worse than celebrating in June when everyone expects a long winded BBQ with naff food, insects in your drinks, music playing all night and it never gets chuffin dark.

Winter's ace. This time of year is magical. Special people are born around Christmas and New Year.

As my old nan used to say 'you make your own fun.'

[GnomeDePlume]

Musicposy I think that it is telling that you had to get upset for your birthday to be recognised. Yes you can as thewooster's Nan said 'make your own fun' but it does get wearing if you are having to be the only one in a friendship group having to do this every blinking year.

[Amber76]

I think it is odd for an adult to want to celebrate their birthday like this. By all means go out for a nice dinner,get friends together, etc in June but why does it have to be about your birthday?

Of course you can book a nice dinner somewhere in December - you just organise yourself. My sons birthday is 17th December - my dh works a shift pattern and always books this date off way in advance so that we can have a lovely family day.

I wouldn't dream of doing a 'birthday party' for him when its not his birthday - I think that it is really attention seeking. As for those saying they might get one present instead of two - how greedy.... be glad you get anything at all! There are some very strange opinions on mumsnet - i couldn't imagine someone in the real world admitting such a grabby attitude.

[FeralBeryl]

Amber
Can you clarify what you meant about the one present rather than two?

I've taken as we (Festive birthday people) should be grateful to receive anything, even a joint present?

[10storeylovesong]

Mines the 21st and I've always quite enjoyed it. When I was younger it generally meant I'd either finished school for Xmas or it was the last, fun day of term. As I got older it meant my friends were more likely to go out with me - we usually went out on Mad Friday for my birthday.

I'm all grown up now and still quite like it. People are generally in a happy, festive mood and more likely to celebrate with me. It also helps that I've never had joint presents off anyone. In fact this year I've specifically asked for a joint present off dh as it's double our usual present but it's killing him to not have something else to wrap, and I know for a fact I'll get an extra present.

I'd hate to have a birthday just after Xmas though for all the reasons already stated!

[waitingforsomething]

Youre being precious. Mine is on Monday, it's a little annoying being close to xmas for all the reasons outlined above, but you suck it up. Your birthday is when you were born, and I think it would be weird to celebrate half a year later.

[daisywhoopsie]

Mines on Saturday. Myself and some friends are going out for dinner, it's a set Christmas menu but that doesn't really bother me.

I used to hate having a birthday so close to Christmas as a child though!

[PeachBellini123]

My best friend has a december 21st birthday. I always send seperate gifts (in different paper) and cards. A joint gift and card is so lazy! YANBU.

[WhatchaMaCalllit]

I have a kid relative who has a birthday on New Year's Day.

It sucks (imo). Most of the adult relatives are a bit the worse for wear after seeing in the new year and we're not up to kids playing and making loads of noise celebrating a birthday.

Being born in the Summer myself, I feel for you and my relative. I really do.

Have a 'Half Birthday' celebration instead. Presents etc to be done on your half-birthday. It'll mean that your actual birthday may go ahead unnoticed in the future though if the idea takes off.

[Amber76]

I honestly think people are lucky to get presents at all. I am summer born but rarely got presents growing up - we weren't well off and i didn't see it as a big deal. My son will get a birthday present from us and he'll get Christmas presents of course - but it wouldn't bother me in the slightest if anyone gave him one present instead of two separate one. I'd be thankful they remembered him and teach him to be grateful - hopefully he'll grow up with this attitude.

My other kids are nearer Summer - presents are seen as a bonus, not an entitlement. The recent thread where the op said she and her teenager were annoyed because a sibling they don't speak was late with a present was ridiculous..

[Batteriesallgone]

Amber but what about the very specific examples mentioned of consistently getting less than siblings.

If sibling A (Dec birthday) has presents (birthday and Christmas) totalling £50 for the year, and sibling B (June birthday) has presents (birthday and Christmas) totally £100, every year, do you honestly think sibling A should think 'oh I'm just lucky to get presents at all'. Really?

Because it's lazy, unfair and bad parenting in my book.

[Batteriesallgone]

And not getting a swing or outdoors present ever because they are 'summer presents' is really shit. I think that's terrible music I'm not surprised it still bothers you

[ValaMalDoran]

I so want todo this as well. Mines v close to Christmas and I hate it. There was a thread full of weirdos who love it. I can't get on board with that.

[ShowMePotatoSalad]

I couldn't give two shiny shites about my birthday but I understand it's important to some. It'll confuse the hell out of your friends and family though

[Amber76]

Do people really sit down and tot up the cost of presents received over the years? No wonder there are so many stories of sibling rivalry!

My son born near Christmas sometimes gets more than the other two as we see relatives at that time of the year who we mightn't see throughout the year - they might give some money to him or whatever as it happens to be his birthday. Another year it might be different.

I really hope my 'Christmas child' doesn't grow up to be the sort of person who thinks 'I want more stuff and more of a fuss made about me so I'm going to have a party for me at a different time of the year'.