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AIBU to change my birthday??

156 replies

Twinmummy19 · 07/12/2016 22:19

I know I can't change my birthday but I mean the day we celebrate it. My birthday is tomorrow but i want to move it to june. I am excited about tomorrow but I hate it, I hate being born close to Christmas,I hate that I can never book a table anywhere cos everywhere is full of Christmas work parties, and I really bloody hate when my DB and his DP dont send separate cards but one that says 'happy birthday-mas'. June seems such a nice time of year to celebrate a birthday,it would be nice to get all dressed up n go out without ruining my outfit by putting a duffle coat and scarf over it.
So,is it OK to ask my loved ones to celebrate with me in June or am I being weird and precious??

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TheCakes · 07/12/2016 22:40

Mine's Sunday. I curse my parents every year.

Groovee · 07/12/2016 22:42

I'm the 17th. The restaurant I am having my birthday lunch in demands we take a festive menu at £40 a head! I wanted their club sandwich! Sobs loudly!

Groovee · 07/12/2016 22:42

Dh is the 11th. Pre kids we used to have a half birthday in June Grin

Amy106 · 07/12/2016 22:43

Yanbu. Your birthday in June sounds like a great idea. Happy Birthday whenever you choose to celebrate it. Cake Flowers

Popskipiekin · 07/12/2016 22:43

Pregnant with DS2 due in a couple of days and reckon YANBU at all! I feel so bad that he will have a December birthday, we will definitely have a celebration in June for him.

SpringerS · 07/12/2016 22:43

YABU and most people would find it very precious and would be even less likely to celebrate with you than they are now. It's one thing for a small child to do this and only if their birthday is quite a bit closer than Christmas. But the 8th of December is not so close to Christmas that many people would sympathise enough to follow your plan.

For context today is my birthday and it's fine.

BathshebaKnickerStickers · 07/12/2016 22:44

It's my birthday tomorrow and I'm a perfect princess about it

NennyNooNoo · 07/12/2016 22:45

I often wondered the same as I have a Jan birthday and hate it. Everyone's skint / on diets / given up booze, weather is rubbish and it gets dark at 4pm. And you can't even buy nice food at the supermarket - it's all weight watchers.

RaskolnikovsGarret · 07/12/2016 22:47

DD2's birthday is tomorrow, DH's on the 23rd, and DD1's in Jan. They all love it, and have never missed out. DD2 in particular adores having a birthday and then Christmas to look forward to, and DD1's birthday brightens up January. None of the three have ever missed out on birthdays or celebrations.

Happy birthday OP!

GinThief · 07/12/2016 22:47

DP says YABU as his birthday is boxing day, so why shouldn't other people have to put up with December birthdays

Batteriesallgone · 07/12/2016 22:47

I don't think it would be weird to pick a date in June and go for a romantic dinner with DP or organise a lovely family party. For no other reason than just because you'd like to do a nice / special thing in the summer.

I do think it would be strange to ask everyone to pretend your birthday is in June. Because it's not.

Judydreamsofhorses · 07/12/2016 22:47

My sibling has a birthday immediately after Christmas and celebrates a "half birthday" in the summer. (I think my sibling is a massive dick, tbh, but people do go along with it.)

Seafooddiet · 07/12/2016 22:48

Count yourselves lucky, mine is on Christmas Day!

Maegeri · 07/12/2016 22:48

My birthday is in August, you expect it to be sunny and it always rains plus everyone is away on holiday so you can't arrange to go out. Look on the bright side, everyone is ready to party at xmas, there are loads of gift sets and nice presents in the shops and you can get dressed up in sparkly clothes and get away with it in December

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Twinmummy19 · 07/12/2016 22:49

I think it would be easier all round, at the moment my DH is struggling to afford birthday pressies and Christmas pressies at same time. It would also be nice to have nice weather to celebrate as we are an outdoorsy family and I'd love to have a bbq or garden party or something, it's not the same having a bbq in December. Also as pp mentioned if you go out at this time of year you often have to have a set Christmas menu, which I don't want I want a birthday meal. I don't want to to pay an extortionate amount for something I wouldn't have chosen to order.

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Phoebeby · 07/12/2016 22:50

4th Jan everyone is fed up & depressed hate it Sad

Fatmouse · 07/12/2016 22:50

I feel your pain.
Mines Christmas day.My dd's was Monday just gone and my sons it the 30th.
'Tis not a good month to have birthdays

Error404usernamenotfound · 07/12/2016 22:52

YANBU. I know a few people with December birthdays and they all hate having their birthday swallowed up by Christmas stuff.

Have an Unbirthday Party every June, brilliant idea! Grin

BikeRunSki · 07/12/2016 22:53

DM and her brother's birthdays are 2 days apart at the beginning of January. My granny always used to celebrate them on the same days, but in March.

SnowBodyforrrrm · 07/12/2016 22:56

YANBU. Three of my kids have birthdays in June. The other of my kids has his at the beginning of January. He's only 5 so we do mark his birthday in some small way (due to money constraints etc post Christmas) and he receives a couple of gifts, then come June, we get him a gift. This year his birthday present will be a WWE figure and tickets to see WWE live in May so that will be his summer celebration sorted in one swoop!

Fishlaar · 07/12/2016 22:57

Mine is on the 19th and I hate it. My poor GD's is on Christmas Day. :(

I think having a half birthday is a fab idea. :)

GardenGeek · 07/12/2016 23:00

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Tummelthecat · 07/12/2016 23:02

A half birthday sounds good. I once gave my niece (born in November) a present in June because I wanted to buy her something to play with in the garden. But it was a bit of a tumbleweed moment for her parents! I kind of get where you are coming from, but people are generally quite conventional and will struggle to make sense of it I think. Good luck!

GardenGeek · 07/12/2016 23:03

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LizB62A · 07/12/2016 23:04

It's more about having a winter birthday than a Christmas birthday.

My birthday is on January 4th - everyone is always skint or on a diet and nobody wants to go out.
So the summer before my 50th, I had a '49 and a halfth' birthday barbecue in the garden. It was lovely and I'll do it again.
If it's good enough for the Queen, it's good enough for me :-)

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