AIBU to change my birthday??

[Twinmummy19]

I know I can't change my birthday but I mean the day we celebrate it. My birthday is tomorrow but i want to move it to june. I am excited about tomorrow but I hate it, I hate being born close to Christmas,I hate that I can never book a table anywhere cos everywhere is full of Christmas work parties, and I really bloody hate when my DB and his DP dont send separate cards but one that says 'happy birthday-mas'. June seems such a nice time of year to celebrate a birthday,it would be nice to get all dressed up n go out without ruining my outfit by putting a duffle coat and scarf over it.
So,is it OK to ask my loved ones to celebrate with me in June or am I being weird and precious??

[LivingOnTheDancefloor]

Funny how on other threads when people ask AIBU to try to avoid December as a birth date when TTC a lot of people say yes YABU nothing wrong with a December birthday...

OP I would celebrate in June if you feel like it. As long as you don't ask for two sets of presents

[Batteriesallgone]

I do think it's awful hearing stories of parents not bothering to celebrate on this thread. DS birthday is in Dec and we always spend the same on him as on DD. And when people give us presents for him we ask 'is this birthday or Christmas?' Innocently enough but I do a mean hard stare if I think someone's pulling a cheap trick of one present for both - any double up presents of one expensive present are ran past us in advance.

I think it's a poor show parents not putting the effort in because it's a 'bad' time of year. If that's the case they should have paid more attention when TTC!

[Underthemoonlight]

My birthdays the 13th January I think you're being precious your birthday is your birthday

[musicposy]

But will you be knocking six months off your age or adding it on

Six months off will do me fine. Heck, let's make it eighteen!

OP you do know this is a forum for adults? Have you asked your Mum if it is OK to be posting here?

Interesting that whenever someone posts about their DH not getting them a nice present/ meal/ flowers etc there are a thousand cries of "selfish bastard, leave him!", but when someone posts about their birthday being shit for other reasons, this is the kind of reply they get.

It can be shit having a December birthday. It has good bits, but overall, I find it shit and would much prefer it to be somewhen else. Possibly the shittyness is affected by the effort your friends and family make to distinguish it from a Christmas. But adults do still celebrate their birthday, most of the time, and therefore I think you're allowed to feel a little miffed that it gets a bit brushed aside compared to other people's.

[SnowBodyforrrrm]

Ooops I forgot patronising! Very bloody patronising. I've just re-read my OP to see if I could understand how you've got the impression I cause my son hurt by 'treating him differently' but I can't fathom it. Sincerely sorry I didn't specify we do balloons and banners as I do class them as small things and he gets taken for a meal. I cook his favourite dinner homemade meatballs incase you're wondering once a week so feel I've got that base covered. Thanks for the suggestions though

[Purplebluebird]

Yabu, it's a bit weird :P It's just a birthday.

[mumhum]

My birthday is in June. The weather is usually too unreliable to plan anything outdoors. Winter birthdays on the other hand perhaps easier to plan?

[GnomeDePlume]

SnowBodyforrrrm did I touch a nerve there?

[Meluzyna]

You could find out when the Saint's Day which corresponds to your given name is - of course if you are really unlucky your name is Lucy (13th December) or Adèle (24th December).
Other non-starters: Catherine, Flora, Cecile, Margaret (16th Nov) and Elizabeth (17th Nov). I have a friend called Margaret Elizabeth and her birthday is on 18th November.
Lots of good names in July and August (June is somewhat barren).

[GnomeDePlume]

And as for your comment about parents taking more care when trying to conceive to avoid Dec/Jan babies, try telling that face to face to people who have trouble TTC and when it happens it happens.

I have made no such comments. Perhaps you have mixed me up with someone else?

[SnowBodyforrrrm]

My bad on the TTC post gnome that was another sneery poster. Her comments were equally as ridiculous as your sweeping assumptions about me.

Out of interest, would it make you happy if you'd upset me with your comments? Would you feel accomplished? I'll never understand people like you. I wouldn't want to for that matter.

[musicposy]

SnowBodyforrrm to be fair to gnome, I read your post in much the same way and thought much the same as gnome has posted. Maybe accept that things don't always come across over the internet as intended and people are not trying to be deliberately unkind, they're just giving well meaning advice?

[musicposy]

[PigletWasPoohsFriend]

Snow There is absolutely no need for some of your replies

[GnomeDePlume]

I am just quite pleased to be described as a wench. I thought wench days were long gone!

[SnowBodyforrrrm]

Thanks for your advice pooh I'll be sure to take that on board. Next time a stranger tells me i'm inflicting hurt on my child, I'll keep quiet and just take it

music feel free to remove your suit. I can't be accountable for how anyone misinterprets my posts. My post didn't say anything about not celebrating my sons birthday on the day itself, I was just doing as you mentioned, in offering the OP well meaning advice. Infact my post mentioned that we do something both on his birthday as well as in June along with my other three kids birthdays. I wasn't expecting for one minute to be singled out as someone who was going to inflict hurt and resentment on to my son. If anything I thought people may think I was being unfair to my other three who are lucky enough to have June birthdays and therefore have the pick of what to do and where to go.

I take my hat off to those of you who can take it on the chin when a well meaning post results in you being accused of inflicting hurt on your five year old child

[IJustWantABrew]

Have 2 birthdays!!!! One in June with a night out and a meal and then another official birthday with the same :)

[Bluntness100]

My birthday is two days before Xmas and I love it. It marks the start of the festivities, my birthday, Xmas eve, Xmas day, everywhere is buzzing and I can defo get a table if I book enough in advance, everyone remembers the date, everyone is in the mood to party, I've never been given one card or gift for both and I've never ever had to work (or even go to school) on my birthday. It's nearly always a holiday for most people.

If you don't like it change it, it would only be unreasonable if you then got pissed off because folks didn't remember your real birthday, which i suspect you might even with th best of intentions. Seems a bit silly to change it but uour call.

[PigletWasPoohsFriend]

Thanks for your advice pooh I'll be sure to take that on board. Next time a stranger tells me i'm inflicting hurt on my child, I'll keep quiet and just take it

Nothing that was said warranted some of the things you said and the name calling.

[SnowBodyforrrrm]

^^ pooh see my above response to you. It's still relevant. Nothing in my original post warranted me being accused of hurting my young son either!!

Not entirely sure why you're gaining from involving yourself in this!?

[SnowBodyforrrrm]

And I'd rather be called a generic 'naughty word' then be called out on a public forum as someone who doesn't have her sons interests at heart.

Grow up.

[PigletWasPoohsFriend]

Not entirely sure why you're gaining from involving yourself in this!?

Sorry it is an open forum. I was responding to posts.

I am perfectly grown up thank you.

Your name calling wasn't warranted.

[SnowBodyforrrrm]

Again see above post^.

I do love people who are permenantly outraged, particularly those who have nothing to do with it

And top marks for noticing it's a public forum, only my post was directed (using her name and all) to the poster who thought it was okay to accuse me of inflicting hurt on my young son because I celebrate his birthday twice. You've got double standards. Or let me guess, the other poster is one of your special friends off the t'internet 😂