To do this....

[SneakyMcBeaky]

Tomorrow night me and DH are due to leave our DD overnight with my parents for the first time ever (she is 2, we don't get out much!!) for a friends 35th birthday.

The party has been cancelled, but we were really looking forward to some alone time.

Would it be really sneaky to not tell anyone and just have a night in on our own and a lie in in the morning?

We REALLY want to, but feel so guilty. Someone tell me we are not awful people and we should do it!?!?

Do it! Never waste a good pre planned babysitter session!

I would

Or a different night out ?

Of course do it. Your parents and dd will enjoy time together too won't they?

Do it!!

I think your parents would be disappointed if you cancelled, you'd be very selfish not to do this... 😜

Why don't you go out?

Tell your parents it's cancelled so you'll go to see Fantastic Beasts and go out for dinner don't tell them about the chandelier-swinging sex while DD has such a super time with them. I'm sure they'll be more than delighted to keep their plans the same.

Oh do it - enjoy!

Is there a reason why you just can't tell them the truth? Say the party's cancelled but you'd really appreciate having a date night /time alone together. Surely they'd want to look after their grand kid.

I do this all the time! Tell my mum I'm going out but actually just sit in silence in the dark because it's so nice 😂

YABU to lie to them. Why can't you tell the truth?

Too scared to go out in case we get spotted also just fancy staying in together very boring I know but just want some pace and quiet!

I would do it!

My inlaws have DS on a Thursday. Me and DH have both booked a couple of Thursdays off work in December so we can have some time alone together. We'll be telling NO-ONE!!

If you don't get out that much anyway, take this as an opportunity to go out somewhere else instead

Oops, cross post! you wouldn't get spotted in a dark cinema

Say it's been cancelled but would love a meal out and would be good to know everyone can cope without you fir the night etc. They don't need to know if it's just McDonald's and at least there is some truth in it!!

Do it!!

I would tell the truth - it'll end up coming out some way or another. I'm sure they're excited to have her for a sleepover for the first time and keep her anyway!

If they find out you lied they may never offer again!

Christ! I WOULD!

Yes. Do it. Tell them it's canceled but your taking the opportunity to go out anyway, and plan something special. Enjoy.

This has happened to my dd - she told us the truth and we insisted they did what they want with the free time including chandelier swinging sex as long as we still got to have dgs because who else would eat all the pain au chocolat and mousse au chocolat we had bought

Do it!

I don't even understand why you would feel guilty about this!

I'd be quite happy if you told me.

I'd still have my DGC to stay.