Teacher making comments relating to pupils periods?

[Meadows76]

Fuck. DD came home today and casually (whilst ranting about her English lesson) mentioned that her teacher had said something about her mood and what week it was. I can't remember the exact wording of it, but it was a direct dig at the fact that she may be on her period, which as it happens, she is.

Totally out of order?

Ok Meadows, in your original post you didn't say he actually said the word 'period' confused no I didn't

^ignore the above I misread

Yes go in and let DD tell the HT how the teachers words made her feel. It's a good lesson for your DD to learn to that she doesn't have to take smart comments, that being smart mouthed back isn't the way to respond and teaching her how to raise grieve cues correctly.

Recently my friends DDS tutor made a comment when class were being noisy - along lines of I'm only asking you to be quiet not donate a ......
My friends DD piped up that it was a really inappropriate thing for teacher to say.
She got onto trouble.
At meeting after the school kept referring to DD response being done inappropriately rather than focussing on the real reason she did - her Gdad has had the transplant, her mum will need it in the future and her younger sister looks to have the same condition.
My friend even said if her DD made a complaint formally it would have been taken more seriously.

I would hit the roof as well. Completely inappropriate.

Ok Meadows, in your original post you didn't say he actually said the word 'period' confused I said he made a dig connected to her being on her period

OP sorry to hear what has happened to your daughter, completely inappropriate (haven't read the whole thread) you need to make a complaint

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I remember being at school and a (male) teacher telling a student who often asked to go to the loo in class and said it was for 'girl reasons' (we were teens) "well Louise if you have your period every week you should go and see the doctor!" It was very uncomfortable

Bet she stopped going to the loo in his lesson after that!

Are you dealing with your daughter being moody and disrespectful to her teacher, or are you purely frothing at teachers sexist response? where did I say she was moody and disrespectful to her teacher? Her grump was directed to her classmate at which point the teacher bitted in and made a comment to said classmate to ignore DD as she was probably on her period given her kids this week. Something like that, the exact words I can't remember but of course DD knows them.

Do you know if he has a go at male pupils for having high testosterone levels and being "boisterous" too? no fucking idea. Not sure I understand what that is relevant in any way to the comment he made to DD?

*given her mood this week

In case he is ONLY singling out girls hormone levels and making comments.

Meadows

Yes, support your daughter (I would expect nothing less) but get names of the other people that where there and heard what was said. Where they were sat etc.

Don't go in blind and expect a positive response.

in case he is ONLY singling out girls hormone levels and making comments. Still not relevant.

It does not make it right, because neither is appropriate, but it might be a comeback you could consider how to respond to.

Your meeting, your issue, I am trying to be helpful. Will bow out now.

Yes, support your daughter (I would expect nothing less) but get names of the other people that where there and heard what was said. Where they were sat etc. Don't go in blind and expect a positive response. good god of course I'm not. DD is going with me to tell the head what happened :/

I don't know what part of this has made people think I'm going in ranting with no facts?

I often think that people complaining about sexism are OTT - u not this time!

This comment is totally inappropriate, sexist, mysogynistic and humiliating.

Go to town on him!

Your meeting, your issue, I am trying to be helpful. Will bow out now.. I'm sure you are, but I can't see how his attitude the the boy's hormones is relevant. He should not be commenting on the girls periods irrespective of his attitude with the boys.

but it might be a comeback you could consider how to respond to. my response to that would be the same, it's not relevant. Do you think if he makes comments about testosterone to the boys that somehow levels the playing field to comment on girls periods? I wouldn't even get into that discussion with th head, I am going up to talk about my daughter, not the boys in her class.

I don't know what part of this has made people think I'm going in ranting with no facts?

Er, the fact that you're on here ranting with no facts?

Meadows the headteacher is very likely to say he will need to get the teacher's side of the story as well as your DD's.

No one is insinuating your DD is not telling the truth...it's just that when something like this gets investigated they need to speak to everyone involved, obviously.

Er, the fact that you're on here ranting with no facts? because I'm tired having to reiterate that while I can't remember the exact wording obviously DD does remember and will be able to tell the head. It's getting boring now. Teacher should not be commenting on girls periods. That's a fact. Teacher commented on girls period. Also a fact. We shall see the head and he can speak to everyone who was in class etc to gather more information. When I started the post I was asking if people thought teachers commenting on girls periods wasn't totally out of order, we have now progressed to me saying the same shit over and over and it's tiresome.

the headteacher is very likely to say he will need to get the teacher's side of the story as well as your DD's of course, I never thought otherwise.

Teacher should not be commenting on girls periods. That's a fact.

Agreed.

Teacher commented on girls period. Also a fact.

Nope.

For my part, I wouldn't be going to that meeting without checking again with my DD what was said. I wouldn't want to run the risk of looking like a classic over-reacting parent who hasn't checked my information before bouncing up to the school. Tends to end up with the parent looking daft.

But good luck.

For my part, I wouldn't be going to that meeting without checking again with my DD what was said. I wouldn't want to run the risk of looking like a classic over-reacting parent who hasn't checked my information before bouncing up to the school. Tends to end up with the parent looking daft.. Yeah we spoke about it at length at the time when she told me. The comment was made.