But it's OUR drive...

[amammabear]

Our drive is directly opposite the drive of the house opposite, it's a quite, dead end street so not much traffic. When I reverse off if, I turn as I do so that I'm facing the right way on the road and then off I go, the person who lives opposite however (in his perfect BMW with private plates...) doesn't do this. He instead reverses straight across the road, onto OUR drive, then drives off again.

Normally this only annoys me a little, but today, as I was reversing out of our garage I noticed he had his reverse logged on and then started moving so I stopped outside of the garage, on the drive. By the time I'd stopped, I noticed that he was fully back on his own drive. So because he saw I was going to be in his way, instead of reversing properly, onto the road instead of someone else's property, he went back out of reverse, and drove back on.

So being annoyed, I waited. And waited. And the insert name for irritating person here waited too. Eventually I had to leave, shaking my head at him, and watched in my mirrors as he priced he had been specifically waiting for our drive by reversing straight across as usual.

AIBU to be annoyed about this? It's our private property, that we have to pay to buy and maintain? I know it's quite a little thing and it doesn't usually bother me too much more than a minor irritation, but today it really infuriated me.

This kind of thing really annoys me too, OP. However, I've learnt to let it go (along with delivery drivers parking over my dropped kerb when I don't need to go out). I keep telling myself that it really really doesn't matter whilst trying to squash down the seething.

That said, I would be tempted to park right at the end of my drive for a few weeks to piss him off.

Are you friendly with the ndns? Get together with them and park so you don't inconvenience each other but so that no-one else can get on it.
Or put up a notice saying private property, maybe he doesn't even realize.
I would be annoyed too.
People who put up notices asking you not to turn in their drive usually do it because someone's knocked down their fence, upset their dog or livestock, set off their security, or in my village, have had a lot of expense because the drive includes a bridge over a small stream and is not suitable for heavy vehicles. When you redo the drive you could ask him to contribute

Is it block-paved? sorry if you said and I missed that.

The fact that he has a pristine BMW with private plates is completely irrelevant, and the fact you've mentioned it says as much about you as it does him.

YANBU about the drive thing though. Have a friendly word with him, and then if he keeps doing it get a gate, or bollard, or start parking at the end of your driveway.

I think if your approach is to barge over there, feeling as if you're being a dick for asking, then you're probably over thinking it and getting too wound up - which probably means you feel as if you need a good reason to justify your dickish barging.

Personally I would worry less about what he tough of me and my reasons and would tell him calmly that I didn't want him using my driveway. If he asked for a reason I would repeat and leave. No is a complete sentence, as they say on MN

Navyandwhite, but that IS a good reason! Can we all come and use your things? I wouldn't use something of someone else's without asking

Like I said, I drive forwards because I'm disabled and that gives me the safest route in and out of the house, and it's a quiet dead end road anyway.

Thought

Now this would boil my piss!

I doubt he is doing it to annoy you , but I would leave my car at bottom of MY drive.

TBH it wouldn't bother me at all and I thought I was pretty irritable. Clearly I'm more zen than I thought

This made me laugh though "you should try paying hundreds of thousands of pounds for a facility that you have to maintain." Where does this MNer live? Buckingham Palace?

Bluntness100
Shotsfired, well I'm not sure they paid hundreds of thousands for their drive, but take your word for that, but I can say a normal reverse on and off will cause little to no wear and tear.

Well I paid hundreds of thousands of pounds for my house, and I chose one specifically with a private driveway. Others round where I live did not pay for that facility.

And when people are using my driveway every single frigging day to turn round (have mentioned in pp about how the road is perfectly wide enough to 3point turn, let alone the wide pavement they also have to cross over to perform their manoeuvre) it gets annoying. Just sod off and drive properly!

It's more the every day part which winds me and the OP up (I think) The every day casual assumption they can just use your property instead of driving like a competent person. And of course tons of metal moving on and off a surface will cause wear. If not, how come there IS wear?

To put it at a very basic level, imagine someone takes half your lunch out of the work fridge every day. It still leaves you with food to eat, they are only doing it because they didn't bother to learn how to make their own lunch, and besides, it's only a sandwich. Every day. Without asking, without offering you anything for it. You wouldn't get annoyed at that? Not even a tiny bit?

BitOutOfPractice
Where does this MNer live? Buckingham Palace?

Not quite. Or I'd just get the repairs done for me while the tabloids frothed at the mouth

I live in a semi that's attached to a B&B. There are so many little niggles that just irritate me that I never thought would. People walking right past the front of our house to exit via our drive rather than just going straight out of the front door. . The sane part of me knows they're not doing any damage etc but it really grates! Also knocking my door and asking for a room (which happens at least three times a week) despite the fact that we have a sign near the doorbell politely saying 'Private home, no B&B enquiries. I have four kids and it is forever waking the youngest I feel your pain OP. Get a driveway bollard.

Leaving aside your fixation on the means by which you approach him, you really need to be less concerned with what others think of you Navy. As I said in my pp, telling the neighbour once (twice at most) that you don't want him using your driveway is enough - you don't need to 'keep saying'. He doesn't like it? Meh - too bad, he'll get over it.

Yes, someone stealing my sandwich would annoy me because I'm greedy because that is blatant stealing.The People who turn round in my drive just don't bother me. I don't allow them to wind me up because in general it's no skin off my nose.

Zaratall, it doesn't matter why OP cares. It's her property, she's entitled to say what should happen to it. If I came round to your house and started having a picnic in the front room, would you be happy if I just said "Why do you care, it isn't doing any damage to your property"?

SirChenjin I didn't like to be presumptuous

This would really piss me off too. Tell him to stop doing it. How fucking cheeky of him.

Hearts

Why not get a bollard (preferrably a penguin one!) and give your NDN a key?

Problem solved!

YANBU, I'd be very annoyed too!

Shots fired , ehrm I'm not sure how uour neighbour briefly reversing in and out of uour drive can be comparable to someone nicking half your lunch.

Maybe uou could enlighten me there?

You can't say that for sure Navy - don't be so defeatist. Do you not stand up for yourself in RL 'just in case the big boy or girl doesn't like it? Sod that.

If he doesn't stop doing it the you employ other means to make sure he does, but don't let someone intimidate you to such an extent that you don't have a polite word to start with.