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AIBU?

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But it's OUR drive...

482 replies

amammabear · 22/11/2016 12:11

Our drive is directly opposite the drive of the house opposite, it's a quite, dead end street so not much traffic. When I reverse off if, I turn as I do so that I'm facing the right way on the road and then off I go, the person who lives opposite however (in his perfect BMW with private plates...) doesn't do this. He instead reverses straight across the road, onto OUR drive, then drives off again.

Normally this only annoys me a little, but today, as I was reversing out of our garage I noticed he had his reverse logged on and then started moving so I stopped outside of the garage, on the drive. By the time I'd stopped, I noticed that he was fully back on his own drive. So because he saw I was going to be in his way, instead of reversing properly, onto the road instead of someone else's property, he went back out of reverse, and drove back on.

So being annoyed, I waited. And waited. And the insert name for irritating person here waited too. Eventually I had to leave, shaking my head at him, and watched in my mirrors as he priced he had been specifically waiting for our drive by reversing straight across as usual.

AIBU to be annoyed about this? It's our private property, that we have to pay to buy and maintain? I know it's quite a little thing and it doesn't usually bother me too much more than a minor irritation, but today it really infuriated me.

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Upanddownroundandround · 22/11/2016 12:59

I am completely missing what the issue is here. The neighbour reverses on to your drive for a few seconds before driving off. Is that the actual issue? Really?

If so, the YABU and petty and stupid. I second the PP who said you need to be grateful this is all you have to worry about.

CarrotVan · 22/11/2016 12:59

I live on a cul de sac and we all do this. I reverse out half the time because I have an electric car and it needs to be driven in forwards to reach the socket

I also don't understand why it's a problem or why you don't just speak to him about it

WellErrr · 22/11/2016 13:00

are you called Andy, OP?

Lalunya85 · 22/11/2016 13:01

I don't understand the problem really. Our old neighbours used to do this all the time, and we did it onto their drive too. Obviously always very slowly and carefully.

Unless he is driving like a maniac, why does it bother you at all? It's not like he is damaging anything.

And if he was driving an old banger as opposed to a swish BMW, would that make it more acceptable in your eyes?? Not sure how that information was relevant...

AlannaOfTrebond · 22/11/2016 13:01

Peach9876 your NDN has a duty to provide toilet facilities for their contractors if there are no working facilities in the house under CDM regulations. I'd have a word and suggest they hire a portaloo as the law requires.

Nobody should be parking/driving or pissing on other peoples drives!

Sorry for the derail.

HolyCrow · 22/11/2016 13:01

OP this would annoy me as well. Its not too bad if they ask you and you give them permission.

Sirzy · 22/11/2016 13:04

I'm glad others have said they can't be bothered about it. If he was driving over your garden fair enough but sounds like he is just trying to make his manovovre a bit easy and not really causing any problem.

My neighbours parks his work van on the road and will sometimes reverse into our drive to turn. No problem.

icelollycraving · 22/11/2016 13:05

I couldn't get worked up about it but my dh probably would. He's always having bloody parking wars.
Don't search for penguin bollards,they will haunt you for months.
Who has their car in their garage? Shock aren't everyone's full of crap like mine?

MrsG280516 · 22/11/2016 13:09

I would be annoyed by this. We have neighbours opposite our house who don't have drives on the front of their houses, they have them on the side. But they park opposite our drive anyway, on the road, making it a nightmare to reverse on or off as there is barely a cars width of space on the road. When asked to move their car they called my DH an idiot who can't drive. All for the sake of not having to walk around the side of their house to get to their car. People are arseholes.

Bluntness100 · 22/11/2016 13:11

Sometimes people visiting my neighbours park in front of our garage, it really doesn't remotely bother me, if I wanted out they'd move in a heartbeat and clearly they aren't causing any damage.

If it was an inconvenience or cost you money or something, fine, but he's just reversing on and driving off. Seriously don't get it. Shrugs.

MaddieElla · 22/11/2016 13:11

Shit on his drive.

ItShouldHaveBeenJingleJess · 22/11/2016 13:12

I don't have a car but would very much like a link to the penguin bollard. Pretty please.

LaContessaDiPlump · 22/11/2016 13:13

It's the casual use of someone else's property without so much as a acknowledgement that you are doing so. That is the rankly bit.

It would annoy me too op!

WellErrr · 22/11/2016 13:13

I used to live in a cul de sac, and sometimes if we had visitors they'd turn round by reversing into my neighbours drive.

He used to come out and take pictures. Or put cones out. Everyone on the street thought he was well weird, but judging by this thread he's not alone Shock

teaandakitkat · 22/11/2016 13:15

I know it's a really small thing, won't cause any damage etc etc etc.

But it would really bug me too.

Not sure what I would do about it though, probably nothing. But it would annoy me every single time I saw him do it.

AnneElliott · 22/11/2016 13:16

This would annoy me too op. I would suggest doing it to his drive and see if he gets the point.

littlemissneela · 22/11/2016 13:16

I would have to get some gates, as this would drive me bonkers! Plus we have a cat who likes to see us off, and I would worry he wouldn't be seen and get runned over Sad

gillybeanz · 22/11/2016 13:16

I suppose it would frustrate me really, the fact he can't use the road properly.
What has the make of car and private plate have to do with it though? Are you saying it wouldn't bother you if it was an old banger?

Benedikte2 · 22/11/2016 13:17

Put up a chain last thing at night and hopefully he won't spot it and will drive into it. Then bill him for damaging the chain.

PlumsGalore · 22/11/2016 13:18

I actually think it is unreasonable. It is the assumption and entitlement that is the issue I guess more than the actual act or wear and tear of the drive.

That alone would make me put gates up.

Benedikte2 · 22/11/2016 13:19

BTW lots of young children are injured or killed by reversing cars on driveways. A visiting child in the garden could be at risk

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AChristmasCactus · 22/11/2016 13:22

Seeing as you've had a mix of replies, some not caring and others finding it reprehensible, is it perhaps logical to assume that your neighbour has no idea it bothers you?

Watching him like a hawk and finally shaking your head at him is perhaps a little passive-aggressive when you could simply tell him that it bothers you.

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