He's going to end up sleeping on the sofa at this rate!

[MadJeffBarn]

Stupid argument but it's really starting to piss me off!
I can't sleep when it's hot. Even in winter, I like to have the window cracked open slightly so there's a fresh breeze around the room. Our room gets quite stuffy because we have the heating on at the night for the kids, and we don't like coming down to a cold living room.
He insists on keeping the window closed because he doesn't like being cold. Aibu in thinking that's what the bloody duvet is for? He can easily warm up, but I can't as easily cool down in a warm stuffy room.

[bookbook]

No heating and windows open all through winter here. The air gets far too stale. I adore hearing wind/rain when all cosily tucked up.
Get your DH a bed hat - that will sort it !

[JoffreyBaratheon]

I was brought up in a house with no central heating and parents who believed it was 'healthy' to have the bedroom windows open at night. So I can see it from OP's OH's point of view...

It wasn't through some 'misconstrued Christian zeal', either - just - that's the way people lived, and they were probably right in terms of fresh air circulating, etc.

Have never got the waste of leaving heating on all night. Even if I could afford to literally burn money, I wouldn't.

[Serialweightwatcher]

NRFT but couldn't you have your window open for an hour or two before bed so it's airy and then shut it for sleep purposes - I hate having windows open, even in the summer (I know!) but that is because of creatures - this year I bought those net things with velcro so I could actually open them for once.

[miffy29]

We have the heating on low all the time during winter to stop my autistic son waking up in the night and yowling for hours when the house gets cold. We're using less gas than we did before we started doing this. We have a very well insulated house, though. If you have your heating off for 14 hours day, I think you use a lot of energy trying to get your house back up to temperature when you do have it on (think about how often the boiler fire up) so that's actually a bit of waste if you look at it the other way round. The Scandi and East European countries do this as standard, so maybe they know something.

[Redpony1]

We have our bedroom windows open all year! Can't see a time i'd ever close them.
In fact, we don't even have our heating on yet (no children) as it's not needed. (Had it on a couple of random times when we've been out running in the rain and come home soaking wet)

I hate being too warm in a bedroom, so i'm with you OP - your DP can wear thicker PJ's.

[miffy29]

As for OP, you're both BU and reasonable at the same time. People are used to different things. Usually it's the bloke who feels the cold less (there is research on this, cf all the stuff about women suffering with too-cold air-con in offices). I do have a female friend who was brought up to be very hardy, her family were very frugal but their house was huge. We stayed at their house and when she went out, her DH turned the thermostat up - suspect she wouldn't let him when she was in. I can't think of a compromise because I don't know your house, but it's no good having one person too cold or too hot. Good luck!

[MadJeffBarn]

I don't know why so many people are worried about my heating on overnight. I only pay £31 a month for my gas heating, it's always on low, the radiators are adjustable so the kids room is kept at a nice temperature. They don't like to sleep in warm clothes, and neither do I, nothing worse than wearing fleecy bulky pj's! Even dh doesn't, he likes to wear shorts and a t-shirt

[DrWhy]

Our heating is 'on' overnight but the night time thermostat is set to 16 degrees so it only actually comes on when it falls below that. I usually like it to be relatively chilly in the room and toasty under thick covers and in contrast to Jeff love thick PJs! However at the moment I have a 9 week old so the room can't be too cold for him and I don't like being freezing when I feed him so we are keeping it a little warmer. Despite this my mum thinks our house is arctic, has an extra blanket over her duvet and still says that the cold stops her sleeping, I've bought an electric blanket for her next visit!

[TeaMeBasil]

Window open all night here, nothing better than being tucked up under duvet with chilly air coming in and even better when it rains!

Just realised how bloody lucky I am that DP doesnt mind (recently moved in) as I don't know that I could sleep in a warm room

[ChuckGravestones]

Mind you, I'm an old fart and grew up in a house with no central heating

Me too - we had one calor gas heater that we had on for about 2 hours in the evening and that was it.

[lynniep]

I am firmly in the 'close the fucking window' camp. However DH likes it wide open. We (I) compromise. When I come to bed, unless its pouring down, in which case I do shut it, then I leave it open a little bit. I still hate it.

[MadisonAvenue]

I'm with you OP! I hate being too hot in bed. Even on the warmest of Summer nights I'd find that my husband had closed the bedroom window so that there was just a tiny gap left open. I get so jealous of people who say they have a fan on in the bedroom all night. Can't do that here

[stealthsquiggle]

Last one awake wins - if you are asleep you are deemed to be comfortable enough to sleep, so the remaining awake person me is entitled to open the bloody window adjust the heat and ventilation to suit themselves.

[DarkAngel1984]

I sleep with the window open most nights otherwise I wake up al bunged up. Surely do could put something more on to keep warm.

[kerryob]

I have to have the window open at night I can't bear a stuffy room, and my asthma feels worse if we don have it open. I'll wake my DH up to open the window if it isn't open ( very small bedroom window is on his side)

I'm not a fan of central heating only have it on if it's freezing

[noramum]

1. Get a thermostat which kicks in if the room temperature goes below something like 15-16 degrees.
   

1. get better bedding/pj/bed socks or add a fleece blanket for the kids.
   

1. get two single duvets for your bed, I love snuggling under a thick duvet plus at least one blanket while DH hates it. So we have two single duvets, problem solved.

[perfumedlife]

Same here OP. I need fresh air and a cold bedroom with blinds and curtains open, dh hates it so has repaired to the spare bedroom. Works for us!

[Islandpotter]

I would be tempted to try an air ioniser and air filter instead of open window. Haven't used one for years but I remember the air in the room being fresher/cooler/cleaner but without the inconvenience of open window.

[OllyBJolly]

I'm with the OP and we are currently having this argument right now!

I've alway slept with the window open. I'm always warm anyway, but think it's much healthier to have fresh air circulating while you sleep. DH complains it's too cold, and then moans during the night that I'm too warm!

Right now, I'd be quite happy with separate rooms....

[WaxyBean]

This sounds like our house - I like it cool, but DH likes it warm. We have running thermostat battles! I have bought him thermal pyjamas and seem to be winning the battle at the moment!

Kids are also like me and too hot at night so it's only him that wants the heating on.

[Kitsa]

I was too and the outcome is I see the OP's point of view - I think it's gross to sleep in a room with the windows closed! I need fresh air to sleep. Me and my partner do have a conflict about this though as he's from the Canadian prairies where cold is really damned cold...plus he generates a lot of body heat. He likes a warm room and a cool bed, I like a cold room and a warm bed....I usually win....
Sleeping with the heat on makes me feel genuinely ill.

[tibbawyrots]

We have the bedroom window open all year round and the heating is never on upstairs (apart from in the en-suite so we have warm towels).

I get headachey without fresh air.

[StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes]

my window is always open, well actually the only time I do shut it is if the wind is blowing such a hooligan that it blasts the curtains into a billowing rampage or rains in ferociously, any other time tis open.... fortunately DH is the same as our sofa is none too comfy. could not even in the coldest weather have the heat on all night. it's timed to go off just before bedtime and come on half an hour before we get up for work. off all day until half hour before I usually get in.

[TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams]

If he's working in the bedroom right up to bed time can you get some sort of 30mins break where you open the windows and get a decent change of air in before you close up and go to bed?
You can buy double duvets with different togs on each side, or just sew some poppers on.