To repay him the £2.80 in pennies (the tightfisted fucknugget)

[RedStripeLassie]

I called to check he'd posted some of dds clothes I ebayd on the way to work yesterday, which he did and he texted 'the postage is £2.85'. I didn't reply but when he's left the post office recipt carefully placed on my bedside table before he went to work! It's not as if I'm spending the sale on myself. It'll go on more clothes for dd.

Would I be unreasonable to find the grubby old tin full of pennies we take on holiday for the arcade games and leave £2.85 exactly in pennies on his bedside table?

Yes petty and yes lighthearted but it's fucked me off!

Thanks elodie

I don't know diva but I think there was one at the bottom of my KFC box the other day

There is nothing lighthearted about the fact that you have serious financial worries because this useless loser would rather spend £2.85 on drugs than on his children's clothes.

It's not a lighthearted thread though.

It's actually quite serious.

And tragic.

I wouldn't even have assumed he was asking for the money.

You check its been posted - "yup postage was £2.80" to show its gone.

Receipt is given to you as proof in case parcel goes walkabout?

Gosh your threads are depressing op, your partner is a shit dad and addicted to weed and alcohol and you find it funny he wants £2.80 back. Of course he wants it, that will go towards his drugs and drink.

Not sure how many people on here have to say it before you realise you and more importantly your dd deserves better

You deserve far better than him, and your daughter NEEDS better than him.
:(

I hope you don't pay him back, it's shameful that he even asks.

Nope, not lighthearted at all I'm afraid, get this excuse for a husband/ father out of your hair now.
Then you can give your child what she deserves instead of propping up this loser of a man.
Has he got no shame?

He's on the way out. I'm fed up of him and have had support in RL and on here to get to this point.
I just wondered what amusing ways to pay him back and piss him off at the same time the vipers could come up with.

He's spending SEVENTY QUID A WEEK on weed, you're finding it hard to cover essential bills and you're calling him a "tightfisted fucknugget"?

He isn't, he's a selfish and irresponsible twat. He needs to be dumped forthwith before he drags you both down with him. The longer you maintain the status quo, the longer it will be before he sees the light, if he ever does. Because right now you're enabling him. You have one child to be responsible for, don't make it two

I'd ignore that too!

If he pushes you, tell him that you undertook the labour of arranging the sale.

ok, back up. I missed a big bit. he spends 70 a week on weed, you're selling second hand clothes on ebay to make money whcich is commendable, and he's chasing you for less than two euro after spending 70 on weed
I don't feel equipped to advise here but I'm shocked on your behalf.

Oh it's you playground mum. I hope you ARE nearly out the door, I appreciate escape plans take time to organise.

You know that Domicilary Care Workers get £7.65 an hour right?

Every time you cook his tea, that's 7.65 for my time
Every hour you spend washing/ironing/cleaning that's 7.65 for my time.

He'll soon back down. Pathetic.

What is my exh doing in your house?

I was married to one of these. Ignore the fucker & his postal receipts. Do not engage w his asshattery.

Glad you're getting rid.

That's totally weird between a husband and a wife.

My husband and I have a joint account and our own accounts, occasionally we decide to buy something big that we both pay for out our own accounts, and yes then often one transfers the cash to the other. But I'm talking a hundred quid or so. Not less than three pounds.

Honestly, that's weird as hell.

I'm sorry your lighthearted thread has backfired on you a bit redstripelassie. Problem is your tone comes across as "men, who'd 'ave em eh?!" but we unfortunately we see it as further minimising of how appallingly your DH is treating you and DD.

In an otherwise healthy relationship it might be a faintly amusing "Wtf was he thinking?!" moment but in your case we can't see any funny side as it's just another example of how your DH expects you and DD to go without to fund his addictions. No humour to be found in that whatsoever, sorry.

I truly understand how difficult it is to leave an abusive relationship and I wish you all the strength in the world on your journey to freeing yourself from this horrible man

Has he left yet?
You won't be able to believe your good fortune when you're rid of that sponger!
He will bleed you dry and then come back for more.
What exactly does he bring to your table?

^ what tempus said

On the plus side he posted it..... In All other respects he's a shit.
Do you have any toy money

red you will get such good advice (and posters have already spent a lot of time providing this already) if and when you do decide to protect your DD by leaving this man. MN is brilliant for that type of support (as you know).

The trouble with posting stuff like this is that it undermines all the time people have taken to give you such good advice and support, and demonstrates how you continue to minimise and/or turn a blind eye to his neglect of your DD. Spending £70 on weed which he admits is addicted to, being stoned whilst supervising her, smoking the money earmarked for making she is warm and comfortable, ensuring she won't be able to have friends over to her home ever, etc etc is neglect.

Posting "light hearted" threads about what a shitty partner someone is, fair enough. Posting threads where you detail (and acknowledge) he is a neglectful parent then going off and starting "light hearted" threads about his shitty treatment of you, isn't fair as it makes the posters who have put time and effort in to try and help you in the past, think you are wasting their time and have no intention of leaving him.

Yes, he's tight and mean and selfish and a shit partner - we can tell you that and you can choose to ignore it. Being told that he's a selfish, mean and generally shit parent will never be lighthearted and shouldn't be ignored by you.

You deserve better and your DD certainly deserves better. She can't do anything about this situation though, only you can.

Urgh he sounds like my BIL who unsurprisingly also has a drug habit and buys himself whatever he fancies because he 'deserves it' whereas my Dsis is just his skivvy that he begrudges her every penny including money she earns!

Wish blokes like this would piss off and never come back, selfish gits.

OP

I'd write a cheque.......

Tis the inconvenience

pinkissimo I didn't see it like that. I'm really sorry. I understand what you mean. I think when you're living it, something like this is so ridiculous and petty can make you laugh and when I had the idea to pay him back in pennies I wanted to share my 'genius' idea.
I'm sorry that it sounded like I'm not taking the advice

I don't find this thread funny I'm afraid.

It is deeply sad.

Oh, I've just remembered the op, and yes that indeed does put a different spin on it. It's not remotely funny. It's actually very sad.

I get it red! This is how I think, too. It relieves the pressure a bit to find a funny side! Could you actually glue the pennies down to card in the message, and then glue any spares into a stack? Then charge him for a cup of tea. And issue him with a bill for childcare.