Would of; could of; should of - why? Just WHY? Makes my teeth itch, AIBU?

[LadyStoic]

I'm convinced I never saw any of the abominations above on MN a decade ago, even a fecking year ago. Now popping up like a persistent bloody virus

Just me or should I get my coat?

Oh, and another thing, if folks must use it, why the fuck do they I swear we are being infiltrated spell 'hon' as 'hun'?

Perhaps go up to a person in a wheelchair and say 'go on you can walk just try harder or have more physio'

I wish that was all I had to worry about. Should of would of could of.

Neither I not the OP was judging anyone, usual

Madamfrog actually I'm not sure that dyslexia necessarily affects 2nd language acquisition and their spelling of foreign words. With "strodbees" it could be he has barely ever read that word and has just heard it being spoken, fast, in the flow of his mother tongue. Additionally, when he is writing in English it is more often for communicating a story and so his focus will be on the message of the story rather than the accuracy. On the other hand, when learning a foreign language, words that he is expected to write down will be taught either individually or in very short phrases, and the teacher will naturally draw attention to the order of letters to help with spelling. (How often have you said "Etats-Unis - look it's "state" backwards" etc). The amount of words and phrases he will know in his mother tongue will be many many thousands. In the 2nd language far far fewer and looked at far more closely.

Meh, it used to bother me. People have different levels of schooling and education, though.
There's worse things in the world.

Well how would you know navy so unless you are teaching them or they ask for help or it's a work place issue butt out.

Biwi the op stated mumsnet had changed in 10 years and obviously felt it her place to patronise others. The words thick stupid and uneducated have all been used.

I call that judgy and a nasty thread to be honest.

Crap like this makes mumsnet seem elitist vile and spiteful and as a mumsnetters for way over 8 years that makes me sad.

Note not 'teeth itch' ridiculous phrase.

I well remember a poster a while ago posting about a relationship issue and some twat who I won't name corrected her spelling.

Quite rightly her cuntish post was flamed

Hate it when vulnerable people have plucked up the courage to post on boards like relationships, who have been victims of DV etc.
Then some twat jumps on their grammar.

I don't mind it on most threads on MN and would never dream of pulling someone up on bad spelling/grammar on the Relationships board etc. But when posters on AIBU attack others and write "could of" or "we brought a house" etc then that does justify pointing out the mistakes, IMO.

Just generally, I'm saddened by the dumbing down of the English language (and other languages too as I happen to speak a couple more).

20+ years ago I think "would of" was a fairly American phenomenon but (like other American trends like the invention and creative spelling of new baby names) this seems to have travelled across the Atlantic since then. Not a good thing IMO.

I think anyone commenting on spelling or grammar on a thread where the OP is clearly in need of support is just being a dick and lacks manners and empathy.

However can I timidly ask about brought/bought. I see brought used all the time for things purchased. Is this a regional thing, or just a wrong thing? Genuinely curious.

no not everyone does - but maybe start from the position that they HAVE and ask yourself how you might make them feel?

I'm not sure if it's regional but I always write 'purchased' as I am intimidate by picky fuckers

I am with the OP. Should of, could of, just drives me nuts. It makes no sense whatsoever.

It is definitely on the increase. You never saw it on here a few years back.

I wish it didn't bother me, but it does. I can almost understand the miscomprehension of hearing 'should've' and thinking it's 'should of' - but I have seen post titles on here like 'AIBU to of...' and I shake my horrible grammar pedant's head and go off muttering.

I think if someone else's spelling bothers you, that's your problem and not theirs.

Hands up, I am a complete spelling and grammar pedant.

On my Facebook feed today a friend "liked" someone else's website. Since I vaguely recognised the someone else, I was nosey and had a look. Oh dear me! the English was so bad (and this is a shared website of only English people) that I felt slightly embarrassed for them. I had a fleeting moment where I wondered if I shouldn't message and offer to put it all right for the price of a pint or glass of wine. But then I got over myself.

Same applies here on Mumsnet.

I wouldn't dream of pulling people up on this. However, I am shocked at how many people use

• would of / could of
• incorrect spellings
• just the wrong word

( if you are buying something - you went to the shops and BOUGHT a jumper. Contrast this with - I thought I might be chilly so I BROUGHT a jumper with me.

Fucks me off massively!

Here's a list of the 'crimes' I've witnessed recently....

Spelling

Could of = could have
Coldysack = cul-de-sac
Eatable = edible
Skellington = skeleton
Sereal = surreal
Brought = bought
On route = en route
Deceipt = deceit
Are kids = our kids
Ay walla = et voila
High rate = irate

Makes me fucking rage!!!!