Would of; could of; should of - why? Just WHY? Makes my teeth itch, AIBU?

[LadyStoic]

I'm convinced I never saw any of the abominations above on MN a decade ago, even a fecking year ago. Now popping up like a persistent bloody virus

Just me or should I get my coat?

Oh, and another thing, if folks must use it, why the fuck do they I swear we are being infiltrated spell 'hon' as 'hun'?

hippy Yes, it must be a law somewhere that if you moan about other people's spelling you will invariably get something wrong.

People keep putting 'defiantly' instead of 'definitely'

AAAARRRRRGGGGGHHHHH

Agree - it's very widespread. Hate it. My 9 year old has better spelling and grammar. If we're bothered about standards of literacy it does matter IMO. Sorry - to me it says poorly educated.

Absolutely. You have to check your post thoroughly and then when you're convinced it's 100% error free, always check it again. I've been there

Personal favourite - stationary / stationery... and the your / you're of course. I get caught out by autocorrect too much. But that is it - promise!

I pacifically hate misuse of apostrophe's .

YY to 'defiantly' as opposed to 'definitely'.

And why do I care? As it grates greats on me and I have zero comprehension of how we have an education system that makes school mandatory until 16 and yet people can't fucking spell.

My main teeth itch trigger however is the fact that I am bloody certain it is on the increase but I don't understand why.

Are those reasons good enough for you? Can always not click on thread y'no y'know...

Try 'and'.......

phase/faze

They are not interchangeable.

I think 'defiantly' is probably an autocorrect of 'definately'.

'Mabey' for 'maybe' is one I see quite often here. What is 'mabey' supposed to mean?

My parents were not so lucky - they had their schools bombed, they had to relocate to other areas and face disruption/classroom sharing daily.

And yet my father who left school at 14 (admittedly trained in a profession after he was demobbed) had excellent spelling. And so did my mother, who I think matriculated but didn't do any further education.

Have any of you ever stopped to think that some people aren't JUST STUPID or THICK but they have a learning difficulty meaning they cannot understand the rules of spelling and phonics??

where were we're
their there they're
hear here
bear bare
hun (shudder)
apostrophe misuse, and commas too for that matter.

Sorry yes they get my goat too! YANBU

However, I work with millennials (and even a few in their early thirties) and they all do it. All the time. Not just autocorrect (which catches us all out). Generally poor grammar.

I can't get ragey about people making mistakes in their posts on Mumsnet.

I think it's a shame when I see them on business literature and websites, but it doesn't make me angry.

Constant threads ranting about every day grammar errors get right on my tits though.

And what quietlygoingmad said.

Loose and lose really annoys me. Also rediculous , defiantly instead of definitely. Your /you're So many. Too many and no YANBU. It's defiantly rediculous Hun

Quietlygoingmad67 has hit the nail on the head. In my book being judgemental and unkind is a far worse crime than not having perfect spelling.

Apologises (instead of apologies) annoys me more - it doesn't even sound the same.

I'm getting so annoyed reading these posts. I'm just glad that none of you have children with dyslexia (which does come in many different forms) -
Makes me wonder how you would be then? Yes I have 2 children and a husband who have dyslexia. They are all very intelligent people and my eldest is doing a degree at a top London Uni after passing 4 A levels with very high passes yet she will still spell simple words wrong!

Not sure my teeth have every itched.

quietly

I have 2 grown up kids with dyslexia and 2 not.

How vile to think adults would laugh at them and call them thick because they can't spell well.

Well fuck you posters who have taken the piss, I expect your children are bullying kids in school today just like mine were bullied.

Still mine have good degrees so fuck you.

Vile thread

Take no notice quietly

green i won't lose any sleep over these type of people to be honest.
Just find it sad that people can be so unkind and judgemental.

Thank you and I'm glad your children have achieved their full potential despite the bullying and learning difficulties

Can you imagine a thread taking the piss out of any other learning difficulty?

Would report it but can't be bothered.

quietly go your dd awesome

I am a spelling pedant in a house full of careless spellings and dyslexia. I know extremely well how bullying people can be about spelling and grammar. It's affected me directly.

Higher standards of written English would help everyone, however. It matters. It really does. It doesn't help people with dyslexia in the least to have varying spellings, social spellings, phonetic changes, mixed up homonyms, etc. It's bloody confusing. So I judge - I judge first and foremost any published works with errors, any signage or lamination that hasn't been properly checked, any business advertising services that have failed in their quality control. After that I judge not the people who are purposely using what is essentially a sociolect (like text speak) and not the people who play with language, but those who merely don't care how it comes across. Because it helps no-one to perpetuate poor spelling, not the children trying to learn it, not the dyslexic people trying to memorise patterns, not the English as a second language person trying to decipher meaning, and certainly not the person writing - who comes across as less skilled.

You can sit and worry about people with dyslexia and how they feel (I do, I love several) but spelling and grammar still matter.