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11year old lying

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SarahJane333 · 15/11/2016 06:46

Up until two months ago dd was great, excellent at school, lovely all round. Hormones seem to have kicked in and her attitude is going down hill. The biggest issue if that she seems to be constantly lying! Stupid things like saying she didn't have some make up on when she clearly did and not admitting it for ages (no big deal it was a weekend and she wasnt going anywhere, she had just been experiementing) lying about going to bed at a certain time, lying about something her and a friend did. This morning I've just found out she has lied about sending a text. I can deal with the mood swings, etc but I desperately want to nip this lying in the bud. Aibu to go ballistic, cancel her friend coming over at the weekend, take all electronics off her and cancel a guides camping trip she's due to go on. This is the fourth incident of lying in the last week. Is this normal?

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titchy · 15/11/2016 17:21

Agree these aren't really lies. They're just an awkward 11 year old way of saying 'Butt out of my life'!

Take the hint OP...

Atenco · 15/11/2016 17:27

Make it clear to her how important it is for you to be able to trust her.

There was a mother on here the other day who was going to fight her son's corner at school because she knew that he would tell her if he had been in the wrong. Absolutely impossible to do that if you know your child is prone to lying. Otherwise I agree with most of the other comments.

eyebrowsonfleek · 15/11/2016 17:40

Is she lying because she wants privacy? If she goes out with her friends do you ask her about it? Maybe she only wants/needs you yto say something general like you hope she had a good time. If I ask my Ds questions about his time out of the house, he'll clam up. Weirdly the less you say the more they open up. I hope you didn't get rained on is nonthreatening and fine. Did you go to Pound land? Gets him suspicious and quiet.

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