To think this is classic PFB?

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Friend just posted this photo on Facebook, with the caveat that she's got 6 weeks to go and wouldn't be "taking any risks" with her baby girl.

I think OP you are being mean about your friend. She and her partner have concerns for the health of their child rightly or wrongly. They have chosen to limit their LO's exposure to various infections / illnessss pre vaccination. As parents it is their choice and it comes from the right place. Better this than a set of parents who don't give a stuff about their offspring. I think this post is very unsupportive of your friend as comes across as judgemental and sneering. YABU and out of order IMO

Don't go and see her and 'baby' until it's 3. Just to be on the safe side.

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I'm not saying you aren't allowed to do so, I'm simply saying that I'd prefer it if you didn't.

I mentioned this because I wanted to explain why my opinion (that this is OTT but their right as parents) may be slightly biased.

And I can only reiterate that your assumptions are extremely wrong and don't apply to our childhood. But if you want to you are obviously free to make whatever assumptions you want. Do what makes you happy.
That's ultimately what this thread is about, after all. Personal freedom...

They have the right to make this request, others may think it's absolutely ridiculous, make comments about other people's choices etc...

It's a weird message to post on Facebook, but each to their own. Your first born is precious and you want to protect them. Not sure it requires this much bitching

It's hysterical parent city. Keeping a child in a completely germ free environment is likely to compromise the poor mite's immune system.

This is kind of parent who rings the BBC when they have a disabled presenter to slag them off and say "my daughter isn't ready for disability yet".

So if you're an adult you have to have a whooping cough booster before you visit the baby?

GP surgeries would love that!

I don't see that it deserves this much discussion or piss taking either mumstheword

The sentiment is reasonable. The delivery is butt clenchingly embarrassing.

Why would you have a problem with this? At least she's had the courage to say it. Sadly there are those that don't wash their hands and don't take due precautions with babies, and I know people who have lost their babies because of other people's carelessness.
It's her baby. Her rules. I'd rather someone be offended than risk my little one. You don't necessarily know what she's heard or been through.
Also, I tend to find that people who mock other people's precautions are usually careless themselves, or feel bad about their own lack of attention to their DC's.

Congratulations on your child's under-developed immune system...

Congratulations on your child's under-developed immune system... - What a completely fucked up thing to say - RTFT!!!

I honestly don't see anything wrong with being over cautious when it comes to your baby !
And why can't the lady not refer to her child as 'baby' ? Maybe they don't know the sex yet !
Of course the baby will need to get used to germs eventually but no need to be introduced to them unecessarily . :-)

Not everyone can have the vaccine so the baby won't be protected through the mum's antibodies necessarily. Whopping cough was a major worry for me when DS was small for that exact reason.

Also asking people to wash their hands is nothing so don't see why some people are offended.

And I say that as someone who would simply say "see you in a few weeks" as me and the tetanus vaccine don't get along.

And why can't the lady not refer to her child as 'baby' ? Maybe they don't know the sex yet !
"They" is a perfectly good neitral pronoun. Or "the baby" is fine. It's referring to the baby as "Baby" that's just so frightfully twee.

I'd probably have laughed at this, but then my (now 4 month old) got viral meningitis at 10days old. She was my second and I was very relaxed about everything.

Obviously we don't know for sure what caused it, but she had been in the presence of people with colds.

I've now got a different view on these types of things. However, not sure posting something like that on Facebook is the way to go.

But nowadays it seems that people want to travel during this period (I've seen threads asking for recommendations for destinations), so there is clearly quite a drastic and sharp divide between the babymoon cocooners and the travel ASAP types. I think this is a mix up with the two meanings of "babymoon"... a babymoon that people travel during is a holiday while the mum is still pregnant, not with a newborn.

OP yanbu. Asking everyone to wash their hands is normal imo, but a request for everyone to have booster jabs will either be ignored or mean no visitors for the first 2 months. And a twee facebook post would just make me laugh (and I say this as someone who's 36 weeks pregnant with her first baby)

Screamer1- I hope your daughter is okay now and has made a full recovery, must have been very frightening.

Thanks so much Semi. She's lovely, thank you! But yes very frightening, and am now a bit more tolerant about these types of things.

Glad to hear she's okay now Screamer1

Yes, it's deeply cringe, but if I saw this I'd assume that it was directed at a specific person or group of people - maybe virulent anti-vaxxers in the family, for example.

Wishing you all the best for the coming weeks, Disillusioned

In the UK pregnant women are offered the pertussis vaccination between 20 and 38 weeks. The vaccine crosses the placenta and provides passive immunity to the baby and protects it against whopping cough until the child is old enough to be vaccinated at 8 weeks. Has the woman who posted this actually been vaccinated?

Definitely a post from the states, I'm a photographer and vaccination is often discussed by US photographers - they even put it on their websites! All very odd, especially for someone in the UK, fine to ask visitors to wash hands pre picking up baby and I'd expect friends not to visit if they were unwell but very odd to post on FB. RUN AWAY FAST!

My twins were premature and one had a NICU stay, when they came home (still early) I bought a squirty hand sanitiser and left it on the coffee table, which most guests then used - unprompted. I kept it there until they were 'term'. I never asked anyone to use it though.

Was that a really dickish and precious thing to do ?!

We recently had an outbreak of whooping cough at dc's school and all the children who caught it were fully vaccinated...it's very strange and I don't understand how herd immunity can work when this happens?