To think this is classic PFB?

[SamanthaBrique]

Friend just posted this photo on Facebook, with the caveat that she's got 6 weeks to go and wouldn't be "taking any risks" with her baby girl.

*first few weeks, not first (single) week

I never feel the need to take the piss out of first time mums, it's natural you think your baby is the most precious thing! - I agree with this. I find it sad to see new mums being belittled with this PFB bullshit, she's causing no harm, she's doing what she feels is best for her baby - isn't that what we all do?

Soobee pfb means precious first baby and it's nearly always used by someone sneering at a new mum.

seems a bit OTT.

My mother didn't vaccinate any of us (apparently 'silly modern notions' but please let's not have an anti or pro argument here).

But we're expecting our first LO and although I am shitting myself this seems a bit silly... however, not my baby. So, let her do whatever she wants to do.

However, maybe I'm being too relaxed about this, but that might come from my upbringing.

I'm glad to see more people posting now to say there's nothing wrong with the request in the OP.

First time mums are scared, protective and uncertain. They need support, not ridicule. I remember some of the things I said when pregnant with my first, seem a bit over zealous now I think of it, but I got nothing but love and support and I really appreciate no-one being an absolute dick to me while I was trying to learn about being a parent.

Except the one lady who was an absolute dick. She can go fuck herself. We are no longer speaking.

Unless there is a specific reason for the message - if one of my friends posted a message like that, I wouldn't go.

we were all first time mums at one stage annoying as hell in some way !!! ..i think its sweet they are excited , its an exciting time and they are free to feel thier baby is the most precious thing to them ! give her a break, scroll past and get on with your day !

Baby won't be used to germs just yet. It's the good old I'm the first one EVER to have a baby malarkey, isn't it?
Saying that to people with children of their own is so unbelievably up your own arse

Someone with children of their own has caused by tiny one to have spent more of the last 12 weeks in hospital than at home due to their own desire to see a cute baby being far more important to them than my babies life.

It happens most people aren't inconsiderate pricks but lots are.
Perhaps this lady knows lots that are

Spunky your mother should be bloody grateful for heard immunity as she took that risk and relied on everyone else she came into contact with to be more responsible

My parents never put me in a car seat (because I was born in the early 1970s and few people did) and I survived yada yada - doesn't mean car seats don't save lives or that I transported my babies in carry cot fastened into the rear seat with the adult seat belt while their older siblings shared the other adult seat belt pulled over the both of them or sat in the hatchback boot like my parents did with me and my siblings...

TheDisillusionedAnarchist - I am so very sorry for your loss

You women are mean!

Yes, PFB and pathetic but... we've all been there, in a way or another. I found it very difficult when my DS1 was born, so I try to be understanding when first time parents have ridiculous requests.

Did someone really just post asking whose life had ever been ruined by contact with germs on the same page less than 10 posts after another poster talked about the sad loss of her child to RSV.

She did say "due to health concerns" so before laughing and makes jibes at 'your friend' I'd find out what the health concerns are first. Must be something worrying her or she wouldn't have gone to the trouble of putting this on FB.

note to self ,....get TB jab because I work with people who are homeless /from parts of the world where it's prevalent *

5moreminutes

She didn't.

However, as I said above, I won't have this discussion and I'd be very happy if you didn't judge my mother this way. You seem to have the wrong impression about our family situation and your comment honestly doesn't apply to our childhood at all.

But as I said before, I think this is a bit OTT (if the OP is right and there are no health concerns) but it's their baby and some of the comments here are very judgemental.

Nothing wrong with that pic. YABU. Perfectly reasonable request, a while back it used to be more common to wash your hands before touching a newborn. I'd still do it regardless of the mum I visit, first time or not.

To be honest I didn't think to ask people about handwashing/health/vaccinations and just assumed he'd be fine. Then one of the ladies at church declined a cuddle with him as she had whooping cough! I just didn't expect someone with something so serious to be out and about, fortunately she was sensible enough to warn me but others may not have been. We were lucky but I'd be more cautious with my tiny baby in future.
He had his first set of vaccinations today and I feel so fortunate to live in a country where so many vaccinations are free and routine and that things like whooping cough aren't too common. I really hope the anti-bad movement doesn't destroy our herd immunity as he won't be vaccinated against many other things until he is a year old and I can't keep him away from people cuddling him until then.
The meme is a bit twee but I think the mum is reasonable in saying it after my experience!

Spunky you cannot throw out the fact your mum didn't have you immunised on a thread partly about immunisations and command that nobody talks about it; that is not how an open internet forum works.

If you don't want your mums failure to vaccinate discussed then don't mention it - if you do mention it people can discuss it or not as they choose and you can provide more information to correct their misconceptions if you feel the need, or not if you don't.

It is probably directed at certain members of family as a passive aggressive message request that they might not feel comfortable actually saying out loud. If that's want mum wants than so be it

Whooping cough is on the rise, I had it in February it was so bad when I had a coughing fit I had to be on the loo with a bucket as I lost control of all body functions [bush] It was awful and really scary at some points, I can't imagine how scary it is for a baby or small child & their parents. It took me months to recover from it and I'm an adult! We are pretty bad in the UK for booster jabs just don't do them! I'd rather had a jab than that bloody cough!

Third time mum here and I would have once thought this was way OTT, but since my youngest got whooping cough, and I know many, many families who have children who have had whooping cough locally (but without getting it diagnosed as they are anti vax) then I think the outbreak is actually much more common than people realise. Especially as OUR doctor refused to report our case as they didn't believe it really was. It was.

The thought of my impending new born catching whooping cough which is life threatening for babies under 6 months, when friends and family could easily get a routine and free tetanus (Tdap) makes me think this isn't PFB. I've discussed something similar with DP though, I wanted to ask close family members to get it, but he thought that was me being silly, so I haven't done anything. I wouldn't personally post this but I think they are very sensible.

As for the American comment, I have seen this as more routine practice in all the American parenting groups I am in but never in the UK. So while it's not true that the majority of American parents expect this, it is certainly more common there.

It's the presentation, not the concern. "Baby" gets me every time when it could be the baby, our baby or whatever but that's my problem. Health concerns might be considerable, but then I wouldn't be wanting visitors anyway. Like other pps, I'm not that enthused on visiting babies and didn't expect anyone apart from ma to visit mine but the woman OP is quoting may be very different. Presumably hospitals/midwives/health visitors could give a laminated card for every new parent - what's right/inadvisable - and another one for those whose children are especially at risk.

As a libertarian, I think she can make whatever rules she likes, and while I wouldn't do the same, it's a free world (well, when I last looked ...)