To worry that I might get pregnant and be really upset about it!

[eggsnmarmite]

I'm 36 and have a beautiful 3 month old baby boy and two children aged 9 and 11. I absolutely don't want any more children for so many reasons, not least so I can give my all to this very precious baby. I breastfed my other two until they were over two years old and want to do the same for this baby.

DP is in the army and has been away for over 6 weeks. When he got back I told him we would have to be careful as I had a period two weeks ago - despite feeding baby day and night. To cut a long story short he didn't use anything - thought he was going to pullout as we had spoken about it, but he didn't!

I suffer from anxiety and I am terrified I will get pregnant as I had a period two days ago. I went straight in the shower. I told him how upset I am but it's too late. I can't get the morning after pill as I'm breastfeeding.

Please tell me that despite having a period two weeks ago, my age, my breastfeeding a 3 month old day and night will make it very unlikely.

I'm going to insist that DP uses condoms now. But in the mean time I'm so upset and worried.

I couldn't cope having two babies so close and my milk drying up before my darling boy is even 9 months old would break my heart.

I'm so upset :'(

Absolutely , eggs, and that's my point - it's clear NHS policy to impress upon postpartum women the importance of contraception , and he was irresponsible to give you such bad advice.

update: Went to walk-in centre and manged to get copper coil inserted. Care was amazing and it didn't hurt much at all. NEVER taking a risk like that again!

Thanks so much to those that suggested it. Turns out it's the most reliable emergency contraception at 99%.

As long as it feels OK and there aren't any complications, Im going to try to get my head around the 'foreign body' factor and keep it for a while at least.

Glad you got the coil fitted and it was straightforward. Well done.

Relationships is a good place to post if you want to talk about, well, your relationship! As I think the contraception issue sounds like just the tip of the iceberg.

Thanks anotherEmma. I was so relieved! x