About people taking up room on trains!?

[ChickyDuck]

I'm on a busy train, next to no spare seats. I'm sat next to a bloke who is just taking up so much room! He's not fat, so it's not like he can't help it. He's just sat with typical man splayed legs and jabby out elbows - I can't even sit properly I. The seat without touching him so I'm perched awkwardly on the edge.

AIBU to think that you only need to take up one seat at a time thankyouverymuch!?

I would have no hesitation in asking the bloke to give me space, but I'd ask very nicely.
On buses around here there are often people who plonk their bag on the seat next to them, and then pretend to be so engrossed in their phones that they don't notice people having to stand. It amazes me how few people will ever ask - I certainly do. I do get the odd rolling of eyes, but they can hardly refuse. But again, I always ask very nicely - it works much better than being sharp.

I had this once on a bus and I did (politely) ask if he would mind closing his legs a bit to make some space so I wasn't totally pushed off the seat next to him. He got really cross and said he couldn't as he needed the space. I had to perch on the edge of the seat until someone got off the bus and I got another seat. So he won. But he was such an angry sort of bloke I decided it wasn't worth me getting into a row with him. Still annoying me six months later though! I get he was fairly tall but my DP is much taller and bigger and he manages to keep himself to one seat. Some people are just inconsiderate idiots.

I hate manspreading.

Move your body to take over your whole seat and if he's spreading on to it just say "excuse me" firmly. If he doesn't react to that, move on to, "please move onto your seat," or similar.

Well, chickyduck most of us would grab the next free double that came along. Could you accidentally on purpose kick him on your way out? I think I'd place a large bag/briefcase between us and push against it to shove him back a bit. At least he doesn't sound as objectionable as the 'loony on the bus' - I've tolerated too many of those over the years which is just one reason why I drive a car now.

Tell him you're a doctor, and you strongly advise him to see his GP because if his balls are so swollen that he has to hold his legs that far apart, he has a serious and urgent problem.

Disclaimer: not my idea, I read it somewhere.

The man on my carriage yesterday. The train in front had been taken out of service so after a long wait in the tunnel, we then had to try to fit an extra carriage's people into an already crowded one. But we budged up, breathed in and got quite a lot of them in.

Then the man behind me started writhing around trying to get his coat off. After the 3rd elbow to my back I told him. "Mate. There is no room. None of us is comfortable. Pack that in" and he apologised and smiled - but people who cannot sit or stand fucking still are the absolute pits!

I tell them straight to shift. They want two seats they need to buy two tickets. Your balls aren't that big.
When it doesn't work I itch my third arm or leg. And play innocence, saying I was itching my third body part. Seemed it didn't belong to them, as I asked nicely to move.

Drop your bag suddenly onto the outstretched leg. The automatic reaction will be to pull the leg away. It works.

Man spread, ugh. My husband is a 120%'er, and I'm well acquainted with his package...it's not that big!! Thank goodness I no longer commute with him.

That is bloody awful.

I just tell them to shove up. if short journey just put up with it.

Rhubarb need the space my foot.

The ones I do feel slightly sorry for are overweight people in obviously small train seats. They really can't help it especially on a packed commuter train

They do it every where!

The man in the queue in front of me at the supermarket had about 6 items yet managed to take up at least 1/2 the conveyor belt thing! I had about 30 items and took up far less space!

What happens when 2 man spreaders sit next to each other? I suspect they discover the means to contain themselves

I would very loudly point out to him that if his penis is so big it prevents him from closing his legs, he may want to seek medical advice.

When you commute regularly you get much braver, OP, and also perfect the art of fighting back against manspreading.

I've spent whole journeys with all my force channeled through my knobbly knees into some blokes calf. I also enjoy the very sudden lady spread which means spreading our legs very quickly inexplicably but not going over your alloted space. Basically giving them a short sharp knee but they're not able to say anything because it'l all in your space.

I stabbed one particularly cunty manspreader in the toes with my sky high stiletto once. Wow, that was rewarding.

I was on a train where the only seat was next to a man spreader, legs akimbo and arms wide reading a book so I sat down quite heavily in order to claim the seat rather than have to perch on the edge. He turned and said do you have to take up all that room. I just laughed and looked pointedly at the space he was taking up and caught the eye of the woman opposite who smiled.

Then as I was leaving the station he came up behind me and said " Didn't want to say this in the carriage because it would have provoked comment but you are fat, you need to go on a diet and get some exercise" One of these moments when you are so gobsmacked you forget to say the obvious.

I am 5'7 and a size 14, I weigh 10st 7lbs, I do body pump three times a week and I was dressed in a pair of jeans and a jumper not as a sumo wrestler......

I'm rude so would ask him to move up.

I don't call it mansplaying or manspreading, I call it bollockitis. It's the only explanation for why these fuckers have their legs spread so widely, they must be so swollen, poor sods.
As for wankers with their bags, I don't even say 'sorry can you move your bag please' anymore, because they're blood yrude if they see people getting on and don't move them first. If they give me a look I ask them if they've paid for 2 tickets for 2 seats, and if they haven't I'm sitting down.

I really hate commuting!

I hate that bigger people always come and sit on me as I'm relatively slim. In the last week of commuting I've had 3 large guys literally half on my lap, it actually hurts my back and I'm not a whinger. I do try and sit on the aisle so I don't get squashed against the window. Yes maybe the seats could be bigger but if you can't fit your width in the gap then maybe stand?!

10 points for fiorentina for not reading the thread

I've had far more women do this to me than men

Really? I use trains a fair bit, and I can't say I've ever had to perch on the edge of a seat because my female co-passenger is sitting with her knees wide apart!

Me neither jess!

What, I am gob smacked at that rude man!

if you can't fit your width in the gap then maybe stand

You writing the Good Sex Guide there, Fiorentina? lowers the tone