To think it's expensive being single

[rainyinnovember]

Mortgage / rent is more expensive
Council tax
Entertainment
Bills
Shopping

Or am I missing something

Luckily I'm repulsive so don't get hassle from men to take me out

No, there isn't heron.

But and I say this to my brother all the time, if I was a single adult I wouldn't need help. I'd move to where I fancied to take a well paying job, no bloody catchment areas to worry about. I'd do over time, be top performing employee, get bonus' just like j did before DC's arrived

Would you now

Aren't you lucky

Pissed, you're talking about the cost of children though, not the cost of relationships?

Rainy, for some reason I thought you were in a couple but I am sure you are lovely!

I think the thing that has an impact as well, is the difference in being skint as a couple, and being skint on your own.

When you're a couple, you can share the burden of having no money left and having to scrape around for a week before payday, but when you're on your own, it can feel very isolating being in that situation alone.

Now, not all cohabiting relationships run smoothly, and you may have one half who spends frugally and another who fritters money away, and perhaps the frugal person was better off without an extra person spending a lot. But I think we can understand the position OP was thinking about without her having to detail every single comparison to make her point.

I am in a couple, but am still repulsive

No, this is partly what I mean.

What about single people who are not very bright and will never have a well paid job? Single people who actually have hobbies and don't want to spend every hour at work? Single people who want to stay in their local areas?

Ach I dunno.

Single people who don't want to improve themselves should be given what help from whom then exactly ? The rest of us that work out arses off ?

I have no issue supporting those who need it but a single person with 2 arms and 2 legs, sort yourself out or find a partner prepared to subidise you I guess.

Which is what the pretty ones do I suppose

lol being single is the best time of your life, everything cost around a quarter of what it costs to support a family. Enjoy it, put a little bit away for later in life, but make sure you do some things that make you a better person, and make good friends!

The best investment i ever made in my life was my friends, as that ultimately led to so many opportunities and to meeting my wife!

Ha. I worked loooong hours as a singleton and frittered all my money away because I was so fucking knackered that I ended up horrendously depressed, and spending money was the only thing that gave me a boost. It's not always as black and white as saying 'just work a bit harder'.

S'pose I'm lucky that I'm pretty enough to have found a DP to subsidise me now though, hey?

'Don't want to improve themselves'

You know not everybody can get a high paid job, don't you? I mean, I'm not stupid but realistically I'm never going to be a brain surgeon either.

I don't think being single is the best time of your life.

What about single people who are not very bright and will never have a well paid job? Single people who actually have hobbies and don't want to spend every hour at work? Single people who want to stay in their local areas?

What about all those things for nor couples?

And seriously, hobbies? Have all the hobbies you like, but you can't prioritise fun and then complain you don't have enough money! You can't work when you feel like it and then whinge that if you were in a couple you wouldn't have to spend so much.

If being not single is so economically advantageous then get coupled up. Maybe you could get one of those "not so bright single people" you mentioned who wouldn't mind subsidising your hobby filled lifestyle?

But having children is a choice and surely you can stay a childless couple if you don't want to have the costs of running a family? You can't just choose not to bother living as a singleton anymore and dealing with the costs of that.

Oh this thread is driving me mad.

Of course you can choose not to be single. How is that not a choice?

User, see what I am hearing here is that if you are single, then it doesn't matter where you live, what you do or what you are.

Eat beans, be cold, dark, spend every hour at work coz why wouldn't you.

Yes true that a couple might both be on low pay but still that's two incomes isn't it.

Well no gin, it's no good working harder if you're just going to waste your money.

Rain, I had three jobs as a single girl. People in my office were traders by day and working as a chef by night to afford their bus fayre into work.
Have a moan by all means, everyone does it, but in saying there's no help I don't really understand why you would deserve it or where it would come from exactly ?

Maybe user, maybe not.

I certainly don't think I'd ever be in another relationship. I don't know where I'd meet anyone for starters. Or maybe I could but it would be for all the wrong reasons and very damaging.

Nobody said that. It's only you being so negative about being single.

The point is its everyones responsibility to make their own lives work for them. And you make your choices and you get the upsides and downsides of that. Own it and stop whining about how difficult you have it.

"Of course you can choose not to be single. How is that not a choice?"

What???

What if no one likes you/you don't like anyone??

What do you mean, what? Being single is a choice. Being in a couple is a choice. Nobody forces you to be either.

Oh and my three jobs meant I was never at home so rented a single room, ate at my waitressing job as part of the deal, nothing to do at the weekend so might as well bang in a few more sales whilst other people are enjoying themselves and this result of all this is that I'm more or less retired at 41. Unless those pesky kids need financial help grrrrrrr

Exactly Nugget! :)

I don't think saying 'it's more expensive to be on your own isn't it?' is whining but sure, if you like!

How is being single a choice? If nobody wants to date you then you don't have much choice really?!