To think it's expensive being single

[rainyinnovember]

Mortgage / rent is more expensive
Council tax
Entertainment
Bills
Shopping

Or am I missing something

It's common enough. Tbh most of my friends husbands had bought decent houses by the time they met them.
I ain't say she's a gold digga..... But lots of veterinary nurses etc have ended up living in some very nice properties with ugly men

Lorelai

I don't know but you do seem intent on chipping at me. I don't think I'm making any point. I was going through finances earlier today and realised I couldn't leave my husband and I was musing and I started a thread.

People have responded with 'yes but they could buy with a friend / live in a bedsit / live on beans' and I've replied.

You have several times replied a bit rudely. Your call of course but it's annoying :)

we want prenup yeah....it's something that you need to have cos when he leave yo ass, he gonna leave wi half...

And they still don't teach that in school, but that's a whole other thread.

You could leave your husband and people regularly do .... However I usually get torn a new one when I point out is he THAT bad touching your tits uninvited v's living in a bedsit and having to sell the Range Rover for example ... All needs considering

I've no idea what you're talking about now :)

Rainy cross post
Sorry, Ill head off now, didn't mean to be annoying.

So again we seem to be back to 'well, who cares if it's more expensive as a single person should just put up with a bedsit'

If all you can afford is a bedsit (as a single person or a couple), then what's wrong with that?? I'm not saying anyone 'should' live anywhere, just pointing out that a single person needs less space than two people so you're not comparing like with like.

I get the impression you'd only think it 'fair' if a single person gets twice as much space for their money than people in couple.

As if a single person might not want a garden etc

I'd love a garden, but we can't afford one. Wtf has that got to do with being single?

You haven't annoyed me, just confused me a bit. When threads are confusing me I don't keep on coming back and saying how terribly confusing they are but we are all different

I'm not saying that butterflies, I'm simply saying a single person is going to find it a lot harder to live than a couple.

The bedsit won't actually be that much cheaper than mortgage / rent split down the middle.

We know rainy so don't forget to give hubby a nice tea and a bj tonight ... Remember the alternative every time he leaves the loo seat up 😂😂

I don't see why that's so funny.

I think the OP raised a valid point and I'm rather bemused about the way this thread has gone quite frankly.

Same, ILS - thanks for saying that. I was

I'm not saying that butterflies, I'm simply saying a single person is going to find it a lot harder to live than a couple.

That's just really not been my experience. Living as a single person was slightly more expensive, but not massively so, and it came with lots of advantages.

I was wondering if my experience was so unusual, so I've just checked rental prices for my town on home.co.uk (no idea how accurate they are) and it reckons average for a bedsit type flat is £600 pcm and a two bed flat is £1170. So for comparable amounts of space per person a couple gets a slight discount but not a huge amount.

I don't know, maybe I have a different perspective on this because I really loved living alone, so I value it far higher than the extra expense, iyswim.

I found it alot cheaper being in a couple, especially rent and we had a car, as a single person I could never realistically run a car in London so it was def cheaper to go halves, and the rent def what you save there allows you to save. The meal thing, when you single is about the same if like me you freeze meals, but the bills are definitely halved when you in a couple. I felt more secure financially when I was in a couple and I def had a better lifestyle and extended family

op it's one of the unwritten rules on MN any mention of how difficult things are if you are single (parent or not) it must also be acknowledged that it is just as hard being in a couple

NAMALT could be Men or Marriages I guess

You want to try being a single mum with no maintenance or support and a low income. I have to pay double for everything out of my £13,000 a year salary, plus nursery costs. I have penny pinching down to a fine art.

When I was single on my own I was rich.

Financially, I just don't think it is! :)

I've just checked rental prices for my town on home.co.uk (no idea how accurate they are) and it reckons average for a bedsit type flat is £600 pcm and a two bed flat is £1170. So for comparable amounts of space per person a couple gets a slight discount but not a huge amount

Plenty of one and two bed flats that i've seen over the years are similarly sized - just that one has an extra bedroom.

A lot of one bed flat suitable for one person (not a studio) are probably going to be adequate for two. So yes there's a possibly massive difference in the cost for a single person or a couple sharing a flat.

I have never lived alone, but after moving in with dh he lost his job and wasn't entitled to benefits. It was hard financially and thank god only for a short time.

I think the compromises to living with other people or alone are that when you live alone you might have less money but more autonomy, but living together more money but less autonomy. It depends what's more important to you which scenario seems like better value.

My ex spent all our money on booze. I am so much better off single!

It's only cheaper in a couple if you both have the exact same financial priorities.

I don't agree, I think you are projecting because of your ex.

I've lived the exact same life as I do now both alone and with an earning partner. Although we both earned little more than minimum wage, we could run two cars, save a little and live what I would term a 'normal' lifestyle. Then he left me,. I still have to pay the same rent, have to run a car (rural location), pay all the same bills. So I can compare on a like for like basis, and trying to pay all these bills on one NMW salary means there is nothing left for saving, for doing anything other than working to pay the bills. I get a 25% discount on CT for single occupancy, well, whoopee... if I didn't have a credit card the car wouldn't have an MOT.

When there were two of us, not only could we afford things, even when we were low on money we could console one another, so things felt better. Now it's just me, waking up at 3am in a sweat because I have no idea how to buy new tyres for the car or cope if the electricity bill goes up over winter. Yes, I can economise by living with no heating and basic food, but it's still tough. And it wasn't so tough as part of a couple.

Or is this 'you are better off in a couple,' if you are on a low wage?

If you were fuck off rich you wouldn't bother about whether you were better off alone or not.

Partly but it also depends on what you mean by rich. Someone earning £300,000 p/a, no, probably wouldn't make that much difference. Someone earning £60,000 p/a - that's still a really good salary but still limiting for one person.