To think it's expensive being single

[rainyinnovember]

Mortgage / rent is more expensive
Council tax
Entertainment
Bills
Shopping

Or am I missing something

In the fairly unique situation where an able bodied couple with no dependents have one adult never working and always supported by the other, yes, being in a couple is more expensive. I'm not entirely sure that's typical example-wise, though.

Nope, even in our situation which is as described above, we (or DP) aren't any worse off. Bills aren't any different really from when we lived separately and paid for our own, and the monthly payment for this three bed semi is the same as the rent for our flats were. We could be hugely better off if I worked, but then we'd probably pay for extra help in the house which would defeat the object.

Why don't you work?

It's not compulsory

" The unpaid work that enables the husband to work and have that lifestyle. Running the home. That frees up time for the husband to work ."

And saves him paying for a nanny and a housekeeper.

"Gwenhwyfar speak for yourself darling !"

I was speaking for myself and a lot of other people too. Online dating wouldn't exist if all the single people wanted to stay single. The vast majority are looking for someone.

Pissseeeddoffff has been goading on this thread from the start and is best ignored.

I know that if I left my husband/he left me, the only men interested in a plain, overweight and generally not very attractive single mother of three would have questionable tastes to say the least.

Not that I'm saying this applies to you Gwen, sorry! But I have seen people end a marriage or LTR and plunge straight into another one and it's almost always with a man or a woman with an agenda, and that agenda generally isn't a nice one.

Yet I also understand feeling vulnerable. But I think feeling financially vulnerable comes under many umbrellas.

You just make me laugh Rainy !

I can tell, and I don't understand why. That's the goady part, really, and it's a particularly unpleasant tactic because in essence you are refusing to take anything I (and others) say seriously or engage with points made. I'm not saying the above in a 'don't disagree with me' way but what you are trying to do is turn an issue some of us want to discuss 'properly' as it were, into a silly thread with you at the spotlight.

"a plain, overweight and generally not very attractive single mother of three "

Well, I suppose you could meet a plain, overweight single father. Must be a few around:)
I'm plain and have a difficult personality so it's very difficult to find someone and becomes more difficult with every passing year.

I like you! Seriously, I think meeting people can be difficult and those to whom it comes naturally don't realise how hard it is for those of us who aren't all that appealing to the opposite sex. But anyway that's by the by.