To wash hair once a week - disagreement with Mil!

[Enidblyton1]

Just wondering how often your DCs have a bath/shower and wash their hair? Mine (aged 5 and 2) have a bath most evenings - at least 5 out of 7 days a week - and wash with soap. Hair wash once a week on a Sunday.
Mil was horrified to learn that they don't have a thorough wash every single night and appalled that hair is only done once a week.
Now I'm beginning to doubt my routine..... AIBU?

Weekly sounds fine for their age if it doesn't appear or smell dirty. Now dd is 8, her hair needs to be washed more often. She showers every other day and washes her hair each time and refuses to shower unless she washes her hair - daily hair washing is too much at this age. She has had stronger smelling sweat for the past 18 months so bathing at least every other day especially in the summer has become a necessity as she is a sporty child. I've also started to use natural mineral spray deodorant with her. Some of the other girls could do with using it as well.

At 5 she was only bathing and washing her hair weekly as she was shower/bathing adverse. I would like it to have been twice as she has thick, curly, long hair and by the end of the week, it was very tangly and a bit dirty looking. I went from forcing her to get clean to refusing to let her wash her hair every day in a very short space of time.

I think a lot of people have a routine involving a bath. I do wash mine every day and stick them under the shower.

Mine have a bath every other night and wash hair once a week (plus after swimming).

Ds has a shower every day and washes his hair everyday. This is a recent thing-when he had baths he HATED washing his hair and would only have it done weekly. He's 4 1/2.

Theories are changing a bit ref eczema. I have it really bad (dermatologist, tablets etc), and couldn't go more than a day without bath/shower as the itching would get intolerable.

The trick is not to have the water too hot, and in my case prescription cleansers etc. Otherwise best to avoid the strongest cleansers.

Bath or shower every day plus hair wash, mine get so grubby I couldn't not.

Ds has a bath most days but only uses soap and shampoo about 3 times a week. i put conditioner on his hair every bath time because otherwise it is very difficult to comb.

DD (3) has a bath and hair wash mostly every other night and a quick wipe over in between, unless she's particularly dirty. If there isn't time for a bath she stands in the bath and gets washed down with a wet soapy sponge. Her hair looks a bit lank if it goes over 2 days.

I don't understand going to the trouble of getting a kid into the tub and then not washing his hair - seems far more sensible just to scrub them top to toe.

I dream of washing my hair every day - I live vicariously through my children who have squeaky-clean fresh heads most of the time.

Dd's have a bath 3 times a week (5 and 7).
Dd1's hair gets washed once a week as it's fine, wispy and dry. Dd2's hair is about twice a week as it's thick, and needs detangling spray.

But in any case, this is none of your MIL's business.

Bath once a week, more washing as needed. They are 4 and 5.

Bath daily, hair wash once a week. Their hair never looks or smells dirty.

2yr old DS has a bath every night and usually a hair wash too as he likes to rub his dinner into his head when I take my eyes off him for 2 seconds

Regarding eczema, I had it on my scalp and only discovered that's what it was as an adult, it stopped being as much of a problem from teens when I was I control of how often I washed it and did it more regularly.

In answer to your query, museum my ds will willingly get into the bath for a general wash, but not always willingly submit to a hair wash so that makes for a a substantial difference in 'trouble' for me

Haven't RTFT. YANBU.

At 5 and 2 a once a week hair wash is fine. Assuming hair isn't actually full of food/paint/mud.

DD is 12 now and (finally) showers every night. When little she had a bath pretty much nightly, sometimes just a quick one with no hairwash if it was a day I worked (got home after 7pm). On average I'd say in the toddler/child age her hair was washed 3/4 times a week. During the 5 - 18 month stage it was pretty much nightly as there was always something (food) in her hair but sometimes it was literally a wipe over with a wet bubbly flannel.

Mine are 2 and 4 and although they have a daily bath, in all honesty their hair gets washed maybe once a month if I'm lucky.

They're not really in the habit of rubbing food in it, it is always silky and looks lovely, and it doesn't smell at all. I don't know why I bother washing it ever (they both hate having it done) apart from misplaced sense of guilt.

OH is a hairdresser and says it's fine to wash kids' hair on an as-needs basis.

Incidentally, I wash my hair every day without fail, so it is not like I am a dirty hippie who has some kind of agenda against shampoo.

Wash when dirty. Otherwise dont.

DC bathe daily. DC2 has eczema and her skin seems to do better this way. It's more about the products we use - oddly some of the sensitive skin ones set her off far more than plain old Radox.

DC2 is luckily enough only to need a weekly hair wash - could probably go longer than that TBH but she swims, so it's good to get the pool water out properly. Poor old DC1 is a bit of a greaser like me, and so needs a hair was every third day. Surely it's easy to see enough (and smell) when it needs doing?

Bath every day, the kids love it so it's not exactly a punishment. They spend a lot of time outside, rolling around on the floor and god knows what, so I don't like the idea of any of us going to bed unwashed. Hair every night too.

None of her business. You carry on as you are.

My 9 year old has two showers a week, also after swimming or if he desperately needs one. He used to have three but he has taken to asking for baths every few days now (with bubbles and piano music ?!) so he doesn't need so many showers. The 2 year old gets scrubbed every other night, when we manage it or he jumps in the shower with me in the morning.

No you don't have to wash their hair 5 times a week, but if they are in the bath that often why not wash their hair as well as their bodies?