DP and I were very close to a break up not long ago.
My issues were that he's not demonstrative, he's stingy with money and emotion and he didn't prioritise me over the other things in his life.
To the point that even on my birthday last month there was a drama and that was the last straw for me- I said it was over and cut him out.
He begged me to take him back and started making changes that convinced me to give it another chance.
And he was genuinely making an effort, to give him credit. Nice meals out, attentive, romantic, etc.
But last night it all went to hell
For the first time in forever, I suggested he come over to mine and we have sex, make a nice romantic night of it.
He said he had to go for someone's leaving drinks from work. Since I know this person, he asked me to come along as well.
I declined.
Not once did he say he'd love to come over but he was obligated to go blah blah.
We normally only have sex on Saturdays when he spends the day and night at mine. I've made it clear enough times that he can come over any time he wants during the week, but he never initiates it.
So I don't feel wanted sexually. Because it seems that he's just fine to take it or leave it. And yesterday was the first time in such a long time that I made the initiative, and him being so insensitive to it feels like a rejection.
I did text him to say very honestly how I was feeling about it all. He said he'd only stay 15 mins and then come to mine.
He ended up staying there until 11 pm and it was obviously too late to come to mine.
His excuse is that this colleague is going away and he'll never see him again. And that he really wanted to spend an evening in the pleasant company of his old friends:
Now all of this is fine, I just don't understand why he couldn't communicate this better? And why couldn't he make me feel a bit more wanted in the process?
One of our major issues is how he takes ages to respond to messages- when I texted him how I felt yesterday he read it and replied 2 hours later because apparently he was busy with others.
So I have visions of him laughing and enjoying himself with people he prioritises over me while ignoring my texts and completely disregarding my feelings.
There's a lot more to our background, but too long to type.
In short, I'm feeling angry and rejected
He ended up coming to mine very late at night to tell me I was making a big deal of nothing and that I'm "always angry at him"