AIBU to take 6 children into a doctors appointment with me today rather than wait until tomorrow?

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I have had a sore throats and temp for a week. I know it's normally just leave it see if it gets better but although the temp is better the throat is so much worse. My tonsils join together in the middle in a sort of giant monotonsil.

Last year I had the same and ended up in hospital with I've antibiotics etc. Drinking and even swallowing. My own spit is hard now. BUT I don't see any pus etc which makes me think it's prob only a virus.

Anyway I have 6 children and no one to look after them after a night of gagging on my own tonsils I called the gp (feeing guilty about "just a sore throat"). And she told me to come in today.

I feel terribly bad that I am going to fill the tiny doctors with 6 young children. Last time I did that a lot of the other patients gave me daggers even though I had them standing against a wall rather than taking up the seats.

If I wait until tomorrow dh can take he day off and I can go alone.

I just keep having. Flashbacks to a and e oxygen and drips from last year!

Aibu to fill the surgery with children for the sake of a non pus filled just swollen throat?

No 12 year old is not capable of looking after them for other reasons than age .

The others are 8 and under

of course you should take them, you are only getting your throat looked at. I would advise against if you were getting a smear....

It's only 15 minutes! The old miseries can put up with that. Your children sound adorable BTW.

Hope your appointment goes okay. I'd actually say take the 12 year old with you and they may be able to help keep an eye on the younger ones and keep them occupied.

Someone I knew in twins club had 6 (not uncommon in twins club!) and told me that she always had to make sure her children behaved better in public than otherwise, because they stood out and people would judge. She took an only child out with them to a burger restaurant with self-service ice-cream toppings. Unfortunately she got over-excited and was loud and boorish, and somewhat greedy with the sweeties, so had to be taken to one side and have things explained to her.

I think the von-trap/Weasley look is a winner . I know it is not a good thing to dump responsibility inappropriately on the older child in a larger family (I was on myself) but I think in the interests of family public relations, it would be a good idea to train the older ones in the art of taking the littlies for a walk around the block to see the birds, and reading nicely in the corner to them, or other quiet entertainment.

And definitely go to that appointment. Your good health is a priority.

(Cats are and enigma )

Take them all - if anything it might get you seen faster !!!

Take them in, if you get daggers then just say loudly to your nearest child "we won't be here long childsname but Mummies doctor said that I had to see him today" and glare back at the miserable twonk.

Have you tired gargling (then drinking) dispersible Aspirin? Will give you a bit of relief from the pain?

LOL at peanut butter wraps for breakfast.

When our DDs were little I was a SAHM mostly. They had excellent, home cooked, well balanced meals. After a few years I started to work weekends and DH had to cook for them then. One of their particular favourites from Daddy's non-extensive repertoire was a 'peanut butter surprise'. Which was a white bread peanut butter sandwich with Pringles in it. They still talk fondly of them whilst my Annabel Karmel specials are long forgotten.

Waiting in the GPs surgery is boring. I think watching a lovely family like yours would be quite entertaining. I hope you have a stress free visit and get well soon.

Oh you sound lovely. Dont to worry about filling up the Drs waiting room, if anyone gives you a cat bums face just remember MN is behind you and you can come and tell us all about it afterwards.

Hope you're feeling better soon.

Take them

I've taken my 7 kids in the past. No one has said anything. I wouldn't care if they did either. Just go.

If it was one if the kids sick you would have to take them all you wouldn't wait until tomorrow so go.

your kids sound fab
peanut butter wraps sound a brilliant breakfast
if anyone disapproves - their issue, not yours :)

go!

I would never judge on 6 kids in a waiting room. Even if they were being noisy. The only thing I ever judge on is if the parent(s) are sat there oblivious to the noise and not trying to do anything to distract the children. Even if it doesn't work, even if it's just "Shhh - you need to be quieter!" It's still an acknowledgement that not everyone there wants or needs to hear your DC screaming. People are a lot more understanding if you are making the effort.

(have 3 DCs myself who left to themselves would be giggling and playing about, I work very hard to keep them occupied and quiet in a waiting situation!)

Don't jepordise your health so that a handful of misery guts don't have to endure breathing the same air as your children for half an hour!

They are just other people, no more special than you or me.

I wouldn't think anything of it. Fine to take them. But was surprised to hear one is 12! I'd probably leave the 12 and 8 year old and probably even the next youngest at home. Unless any SEN involved 12 should be old enough to be left at home with siblings for half an hour. I've left my 9 year old at home when nipping to the doctors.

No need to overthink it. You need to go to the GP's today so of course you should go.

If you're hesitating because of having a tribe of children in waiting room(?) then I honestly wouldn't waste a second's more thought on it. By all means take stuff to occupy them to make it easier and pleasanter for everyone.

But to alter your plans to avoid possible censure for the fact you have 6 children with you? Nope.

Oh god you poor thing. Fuck everyone else, get yourself seen xxx

Sounds like you are in urgent need of a doctors' visit. Just go!

If we never do things in fear of others' (probably non-existent) disapproval we'd never get anything done.

I wouldn't even think twice about it. If you've got 6 children you've got 6 children and presumably often need to go to places all together. Don't you need to be in the doctors fairly frequently with all of them? I'd imagine that with at least 3 or 4 little ones, doctors appointments aren't an uncommon thing for you. I wouldn't think negatively of you at all - I'd be too busy being impressed that you'd got 6 kids dressed and out of the house in one piece!

It's already been made clear that the 12 year old is not able to be left at home or look after the others.

Thanks all my doc appt is at 1:50 and she has thank the lord managed to get the afternoon off

I would possibly leave my 12 year old on her own but not in charge of any unsuspecting siblings .

I wish I could say she is mature and responsible but she isn't . She makes poor choices bless her we are in the very early stages of talking about possible aspergers but by no means certain .

You're ill, the kids can't be left, it's fine. People should understand, with half a second's thought, that you HAVE to bring them if there's no other adult around - and I wouldn't expect my DH to take time off work under these circumstances. You need to be seen today and he can't take today off and that's all there is to it.

If you get judgey faces despite adorability and well behaved ness of the kids, would it help to think that perhaps the other peopel are having bad days due to illness and are worried the kids might start to misbehave, and then you can just feel a bit sorry for them instead of worrying about the judge-faces?

That should be dh not she